Does my ex just need time to himself for now? Will he reach out in the future?

[Cdm15]

my ex and i had a bad breakup. Outside issues always seemed to break us down and cause us to take out our anger on eachother. We broke up a couple of times in the past but never like this last one in May. He blocked me on everything except for whatsapp so that we could have some contact after he moved to Ireland in June mostly on a whim to be with some of his family and to figure himself out.

 

I think he thought a new scenery could help him and maybe it could. (He has admitted himself he has a drinking problem), but another part of me thinks he won't stay there for long. We had some contact prior to him officially leaving.. However I didn't speak to him for a month after he left because I wanted to give him space after he left. He told me prior that he blocked me on other things because it would hurt too much to see me and he didn't want to deal with that. I finally texted him after the month because something I saw reminded me of him. He responded without anger and seemed like everything was fine.

 

But then he blocked me on whatsapp shortly after. I'm very confused right now. I don't know why he did this. If it hurt too much to hear from me after a month? Since he didn't say leave me alone or anything but responded nicely makes me believe he cannot be angry. He didn't have to even respond at all. Now I kinda let it go. It's been another month and clearly we haven't spoken.

 

My sister however recently posted videos of me on snap, and once he saw them he unfollowed her on snap(not on any other social media since this is the only site she posted me on) they don't have any issues so Can it be that it just hurts too much to see me?. People keep saying he will come back and contact me but I don't even know why I care so much if he does. He is not seeing anyone else. I know this for sure.

 

he also told me before he moved he would be coming back to visit in September. I honestly just want an objective opinion. Did he block me to focus on himself and will he reach out when he is ready? Any advice or thoughts on the situation are appreciated.

Edited August 4, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[trustyourself]

Did you dump him?

 

He is obviously not ready to talk to you or see what you are doing in your life. Healing from heart break takes time.

[Cdm15]

Did you dump him?

 

He is obviously not ready to talk to you or see what you are doing in your life. Healing from heart break takes time.

 

It was mutual. I just want to know from an objective standpoint if his actions imply it is definitely over and if he will never unblock or reach out to me

[springy]

There is truly no way anyone can predict whether or not he will pop back up, but from the sounds of it he is trying to get over you, and that takes longer than a month to do. It may be that it's hurtful to see you as he tries to move on from the relationship. Complete and total no contact is pretty much essential to healing. Mending the heart takes time and lots of space.

[Ronnys93]

It was mutual. I just want to know from an objective standpoint if his actions imply it is definitely over and if he will never unblock or reach out to me

 

I will tell you that what he's doing is trying to get over you. It hurts when he sees you on apps, videos, receiving texts, and any communication or visual reminders of you. Will he come back? I'm not sure, but I think a better question is why you want him to come back if this has been an on going thing. It's not healthy to continue to break up on and off again.

 

Use this time while he's gone to work on yourself! Go out, go to the gym if you already don't, get therapy if you need it, find other hobbies! Grieve the break up as if you're never going to see him again. If he comes back into your life you can decide whether you want to ease him back into your world. DO NOT chase him, don't try and reach out. You'll only be chasing him further away.