caputo77 Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 I posted a few days ago asking for flirting tips for a guy I like at work. Although I’m still pretty shy to outright flirt, I have been trying a little harder to subtly show my interest. Yesterday when we were chatting, I mentioned wanting to see a certain movie and he said he would go see it with me but I’d probably be back at school by the time it comes out. I was pretty happy to hear him say that he theoretically would like to do something outside of work with me, but I’m not sure if it really meant something or if it was just a friendly comment said in passing. Later as he was leaving work I ran into him again, and he stopped for a minute to talk. He was super excited because he was talking to someone else and found out that the movie we were talking about earlier was actually going to be coming out before I go back to school. To me, that seemed like a perfect opening for him to ask me out if he really wanted to, but he didn’t. Instead, he suggested I help him in pushing our manager to set up an employee screening of it (we do those sometimes). Although I took it as a positive sign to hear that if we did have one, he seemed to want to see me there, it wasn't quite the one on one thing I was hoping for. This movie has a prequel so I then tried again and said I haven’t yet seen the prequel so I’ll need to watch it sometime. I was kind of hoping he would suggest we watch it together, but instead he was just like “yeah you can probably rent it somewhere.” I don’t know why I didn’t just ask HIM at that moment, but now I’m not sure if I should. It kind of feels like the door was wide open a couple times and he didn’t take the opportunity. Should I conclude that means he’s not interested? I’m thinking about bringing it up again and suggesting we watch the prequel together before the employee screening. Only thing is, it would probably be at my house, just the two of us alone, and my parents are out of town so we would really be all alone. I don’t wanna creep him out by inviting him over like that out of the blue. What do you think? Would that be too much and should I even bother? Has he already indicated he's not interested like that?
d0nnivain Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Asking him out is fine. If you ask him to come to your house while your parents are not home to watch a movie, what he is going to hear / think is "Would you like to come over & have sex?" Pick a public venue for your first date.
harrybrown Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 We are past the 1950s. Be direct and ask him out to some movie, but not at home.
kendahke Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 What do you think? 1. He has a girlfriend 2. He's gay and doesn't date girls 3. He doesn't date coworkers Not once has he asked you to go see it with him. He may like you as a coworker, but that doesn't mean he wants to date a coworker.
preraph Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 I think he tried to make the situation go away by trying to make it an office event, sorry.
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