shellybing Posted August 15, 2017 Posted August 15, 2017 Shelly, with all due respect, but according to the forum guidelines, what I wrote in other threads shouldn't be used against me in my own thread. Please comment on the current situation and don't quote what I wrote to others. Besides I already wrote I have cancelled the trip and I'm moving on from this guy. I know I asked for comments, but would be good that they were relevant. I t was NOT meant to be "used against you." I understand the forum rules. No worries, I am not here to convince or argue with you. Do as you please.
Author Lorenza Posted August 19, 2017 Author Posted August 19, 2017 So after I cancelled my trip, he stopped contacting me altogether and doesn't seem to have a slightest interest in me anymore. So much for keeping in touch as relatives. :/ Or maybe it's normal to just touch base sometimes and anything more is pointless. I'm a bit sad since we've spent soooo many hours talking and chatting, guess I miss the attention and the random calls. Maybe I've just been lonely. Oh well.
Author Lorenza Posted October 4, 2017 Author Posted October 4, 2017 I have finally gathered courage to admit to myself, that I'm extremely hung up on this guy. That's why nobody I go on dates with interests me, really. We still talk quite often (as friends of course) and I still think about him a lot, but what made me realize I still have feelings is that when he was in town for a short while last weel, he didn't have the time to meet and I felt incredibly sad and disappointed. I don't understand why I'm so hung up. But now I know for a fact that it's preventing me from meeting someone. 2
No_Go Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 It's normal, you had feelings for him. When did you guys meet last? I'm afraid I'm in your situation with the summer crush I had...Just nothing compares so I completely lost interest in dating. I have finally gathered courage to admit to myself, that I'm extremely hung up on this guy. That's why nobody I go on dates with interests me, really. We still talk quite often (as friends of course) and I still think about him a lot, but what made me realize I still have feelings is that when he was in town for a short while last weel, he didn't have the time to meet and I felt incredibly sad and disappointed. I don't understand why I'm so hung up. But now I know for a fact that it's preventing me from meeting someone. 2
Author Lorenza Posted October 4, 2017 Author Posted October 4, 2017 It's normal, you had feelings for him. When did you guys meet last? I'm afraid I'm in your situation with the summer crush I had...Just nothing compares so I completely lost interest in dating. Last time we met was in July and I should have visited him in August but cancelled, to not perpetuate these feelings. And for quite a while I thought I'm over him until we started talking on phone again lately (he helped out with a thing and it needed some phone calls instead of chatting). Talking to him is really interesting - conversations with the last guy I've dated (the one from "finally met someone great" thread) are beyond pathetic in comparison. Actually, no guy I met this whole year was even close to that relative based on his conversation skills and unusual personality. It makes others pale in comparison. Ugh I understand :/ have you been on any new dates yet? I was advising you against being friends with that guy but now I realize I've been doing what I preached against! At least your crush is not on a distant cousin which is, as someone said, gross in itself... 1
No_Go Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 Last time we met was in July and I should have visited him in August but cancelled, to not perpetuate these feelings. And for quite a while I thought I'm over him until we started talking on phone again lately (he helped out with a thing and it needed some phone calls instead of chatting). Talking to him is really interesting - conversations with the last guy I've dated (the one from "finally met someone great" thread) are beyond pathetic in comparison. Actually, no guy I met this whole year was even close to that relative based on his conversation skills and unusual personality. It makes others pale in comparison. Ugh I understand :/ have you been on any new dates yet? I was advising you against being friends with that guy but now I realize I've been doing what I preached against! At least your crush is not on a distant cousin which is, as someone said, gross in itself... I can completely relate: especially the conversation part. For both of us this seems to be extremely important. Do you know OLD sites where this can be preseeded easily, some site with very extensive profiles? Match e.g. has too short profiles for my liking. I haven't been on any other dates. I chatted with a couple of guys online but felt meh and dropped each conversation midway. I'm thinking there is no point to date if I don't feel like it because I'll reject the guys anyway if I'm not open. Hah your crush is on a distant cousin indeed but I think distant enough that if all other things were aligning right it would have been ok. But you said there is more drama around him? In my case we're writing a lot to each other since he returned in the end of last week, but we haven't met yet. Most likely on Sunday but I'm putting no pressure- he'd have to organize since he suggested Sunday, he's traveling again and he decided to be just friends. I have the gut feeling he'll postpone again but we'll see. In the big picture one more week won't make any difference and he made many references we'll meet so I have no doubt it will happen, question is when and will it be healthy to do it. 1
olivetree Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 Talking to him is really interesting - conversations with the last guy I've dated (the one from "finally met someone great" thread) are beyond pathetic in comparison. Actually, no guy I met this whole year was even close to that relative based on his conversation skills and unusual personality. It makes others pale in comparison. Interesting is so intoxicating. It makes perfect sense that you are hung up on him. I won't tell you what you should do because you already know
Author Lorenza Posted October 9, 2017 Author Posted October 9, 2017 Interesting is so intoxicating. It makes perfect sense that you are hung up on him. I won't tell you what you should do because you already know Cut the contact?
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