francis Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 I know he still has a place in your heart, and may always... He may always have a place in your heart, as long as the hope you have doesnt crush you or stop you from being happy in the future In my opinion, you've done a good job to keep things calm and neutral between you, there is no animosity, you've dealt with it maturely this will stand you in good stead for the future, you can hold your head up and say that you did good and rose above the situation, kept your cool... I hope you can be happy
Author queenie01 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Posted August 22, 2005 Thanks Francis... i am doing my best and I am actually happy but just miss him. I felt sort of hurt while talking to him via email...just hearign that his life doesnt sound all that exciting either. I mean he said he has been golfing a ton and going to the gym a ton...seems like he is just filling his voided space as well. It seems like we are both doing a lot of the same things but just alone now instead of together. I guess deep down i had hoped that the time apart would have made up both realize we were right for each other.
francis Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 exactly... when my ex says he still wants to 'share things with me' still cares for me, worries about me, thinks about me'...its like he still feels these things even though we are split up, then why can't we get back together? hmm, if only it were that simple i think you've set up a good backdrop if he does decide to come back...you're not acting all needy and desperate, just cool, calm and collected its funny, i sometimes think it takes something really dramatic for someone to be pushed into acting on their feelings...i know that's how my ex worked...only when he was forced would he ever act, otherwise, he'd just let things go on... i dont know...if a relationship is ever gonna work, you gotta want the same things and wanna fight to make it work no matter what...and if one person lets their side down, the relationship is just gonna collapse...
Author queenie01 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Posted August 22, 2005 I just really think that if he didnt still care, he wouldnt have emailed me. Honestly I know that if i were dating someone new and happy that i wouldnt email him and i certainly wouldnt ask him if hes dating anyone. Plus when i asked him what was going on exciting in his life he said not much really... I feel like he is just hanging out with his friends and now getting ready for his move. Sad part to me is...is this life really so much better to the one he had with me? Does he really not miss me? He hasnt ever said anything like that in the whole 4 months..but then again neither have i and i have never called or text messaged him either. I wrote him that letter but never gave it to him. I think my only and last attempt at contact will be that text message next week. Sort of nervous about sending it but i would rather not live with regret.
Mr.positive Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 I respect that you stayed strong through the whole thing. most people can't do that.
Author queenie01 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Posted August 22, 2005 Thanks I appreciate that! But dont know that being strong has gotten me very far either but im sure he expected me to try harder and chase him, beg him ect...i will not be that person! Ever!
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