NightLee Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 I am a female whom met a guy through OLD a few weeks ago. We sent messages back and forth for about a week and really seemed to click. He gave me his phone number and after texting a few days we set up a date on a Wednesday. Things went well but I went out of town that weekend so we didn't see each other. Gradually his responses slowed down and he didn't set up any dates so I assumed he was losing interest. On Friday he went out with a girlfriend and myself, and I stayed at his place, we went out to breakfast, and as we were saying goodbye he said he would like to hang out again but his job wears him out during the week (he's 25 and works a mentally exhausting job). He messages sporadically throughout the week, cancels Sunday plans right after made them, and it's Thursday and he hasn't messaged me to set up any plans. I'm wondering if I'm just on his backburner or if he really is too tired, or if he just isn't interested now he got what he wanted. I'm confused as to how to proceed and am considering waiting to see if he makes the next move. When we are together we really seem to click and make each other laugh and engage in interesting conversation so I would hate to give up when there is so much chemistry.
preraph Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 People with jobs are often too tired to do things through the week. He sounds interested but he doesn't sound like someone who wants to get together every other day.
smackie9 Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Ya chemistry is great but he's too unavailable. It's already falling flat before it can even get off the ground.
Miss Spider Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 He doesn't sound interested to me. I don't think it's necessarily because he got what he wanted, because he even sounded lukewarm before that. I guess now he just has even less of an incentive. If a guy acted this way I would assume he was not interested and move on. 1
Scarlett.O'hara Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 If you start to feel like you are becoming someone's backup, then you need to flip the script and make them your backup. You don't have to shut the door completely, just scale back your investment and start dating other people. Do not sit around waiting for the guy. Keep your options open until you meet a guy who you have great chemistry with and makes the effort to progress things and making more effort to spend time with you. When a guy starts behaving like that, there will be no mistaking his interest. 2
rushed Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 and I stayed at his place Did you have sex? If so that might have been all he was interested in.
HarmonyDriven Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 IMO, based on what you have noted, his interest has waned. It was great while it lasted, not a bad thing. But, time to move on......Good luck 1
Author NightLee Posted August 5, 2017 Author Posted August 5, 2017 People with jobs are often too tired to do things through the week. He sounds interested but he doesn't sound like someone who wants to get together every other day. Thank you for the advice but he still has not set plans for the weekend, if he wanted to see me he could have planned something in advance.
Author NightLee Posted August 5, 2017 Author Posted August 5, 2017 Ya chemistry is great but he's too unavailable. It's already falling flat before it can even get off the ground. Thank you, I've really come to terms with the same idea, if we can't take off we will never fly.
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