CryForNoOne Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 I rarely use OLD. I generally find that I can't meet women who are as attractive as the ones I meet IRL. So I only dabble a little when I'm bored or restless - like last night. Anyway, I had my half dozen or so convos that went nowhere then right before I went to sleep I got a "like" from a drop dead gorgeous girl. I've found that 9 times out of 10, a girl like that is a bot. But this one was real, or at least a catfish. We started a convo and instantly hit it off. We were both tipsy and that progressed to drunk. We exchanged about 150 messages and it started getting raunchy after about 50 or so. She started it by saying the best cure for a hangover is morning sex. Which I followed by isn't morning sex the best cure for everything? Next thing you know she's talking about giving me a BJ and accusing the wine of making her talk dirty. Anyway, I don't want to make it sound like it was all just dirty talk. We really connected on an intellectual and emotional level as well. The BJ talk was just flirting mixed in. Anyway, we passed out about 430AM and I wrote her a kind note this morning. She wrote me a really nice long message after that and it looks like we're going to meet soon if our schedules line up. But my BS detector is still giving me red flags until I meet her in person. Do I subtly try to get proof the pics are her (IG, video chat etc) or do I just go with the flow and wait for the meeting? It just feels too good to be true and that bugs, because I'm usually right...
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 Eh, I'd say just take your chances at this point.
Mkn1010 Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Just go with it and see, the most recent online date I had the guy was sure I had to be a bot or something and told me later that he kept thinking I wasn't going to show up! And I had quite a few people accuse me of this before when I was doing online dating. Lo and behold, I turned up to the date and he was surprised that I looked even better in person. So just see how it goes
HarmonyDriven Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Who knows, could be a catfish, could be real. At the very least, I would want to talk on the phone before meeting, just to be sure I am talking to the gender/person you are expecting to meet. If the person avoids or makes excuses about talking on the phone.....GIANT RED FLAG.
Steve51 Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Last time I did that with a girl online it was a bunch of guys messing with me. I was their entertainment for the evening.
coolheadal Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 I rarely use OLD. I generally find that I can't meet women who are as attractive as the ones I meet IRL. So I only dabble a little when I'm bored or restless - like last night. Anyway, I had my half dozen or so convos that went nowhere then right before I went to sleep I got a "like" from a drop dead gorgeous girl. I've found that 9 times out of 10, a girl like that is a bot. But this one was real, or at least a catfish. We started a convo and instantly hit it off. We were both tipsy and that progressed to drunk. We exchanged about 150 messages and it started getting raunchy after about 50 or so. She started it by saying the best cure for a hangover is morning sex. Which I followed by isn't morning sex the best cure for everything? Next thing you know she's talking about giving me a BJ and accusing the wine of making her talk dirty. Anyway, I don't want to make it sound like it was all just dirty talk. We really connected on an intellectual and emotional level as well. The BJ talk was just flirting mixed in. Anyway, we passed out about 430AM and I wrote her a kind note this morning. She wrote me a really nice long message after that and it looks like we're going to meet soon if our schedules line up. But my BS detector is still giving me red flags until I meet her in person. Do I subtly try to get proof the pics are her (IG, video chat etc) or do I just go with the flow and wait for the meeting? It just feels too good to be true and that bugs, because I'm usually right... Go with your gut feelings. Yes you can do skype, facebook video chat etc. To make sure she's a real woman. Most of this sounded like a woman from Nigeria or Ghana Western Africa. Most of the OLD are those type of fake woman. They only want your money from rent to itune cards. Yours might be real, she could be overweight or worst. Woman use that OLD like some sort of sexual party game. You got into her with that you know it. 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted August 4, 2017 Author Posted August 4, 2017 Go with your gut feelings. Yes you can do skype, facebook video chat etc. To make sure she's a real woman. Most of this sounded like a woman from Nigeria or Ghana Western Africa. Most of the OLD are those type of fake woman. They only want your money from rent to itune cards. Yours might be real, she could be overweight or worst. Woman use that OLD like some sort of sexual party game. You got into her with that you know it. No way she's from Nigeria or something like that. She knows the local area well and her colloquialisms are distinctly 20-something American. At worst she's a fat chick or a younger dude. Also not trying to scam for money. I gave her my number and she said she saved it to her phone. Didn't give me hers which isn't great but not really something to freak out about yet. The sad thing is she already has plans for the weekend and I'm going out of town all next week, so the earliest we can meet is next Thursday. She asked if I was available Monday night which was obviously a no since I said I was gone Sun-Thu. The one big positive is that she claims she has a 4 yo daughter and has several pics of her. She talks like a parent. I don't disclose that I have a 3 yo daughter on my profile but I told her right away and she really warmed up after that and immediately started talking about play dates. I don't think someone catfishing would pose to be a 26 yo hottie with a daughter. The parts that seem bogus is that she is a homeowner in LA (too young) and drives a Tesla, is drop dead gorgeous and struggling to meet someone? Hmm...
d0nnivain Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Try for a Skype but if that is real, meet her. If this isn't her MO, she may be too embarrassed to meet you though. 1
Miss Spider Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 I say just go for it and meet up. Nothing makes me lose interest more than a guy asking to skype or for more pics. It's online dating , you take a riskS just meet in a public place first(heard of guy's being baited and mugged before). 3
CptInsano Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 I'd say meet at a public place, you have little to lose. Just be prepared for her possibly looking slightly different than you expect. 1
No_Go Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Just meet her in public place, don't be a coward and ask for skype and pics, it's a turn off. She's most likely just a bored single mom, probably also quite busy - it doesn't surprise me at all that she's struggling to meet someone because as a parent of a toddler and home owner - she sure has a lot of responsibilities. No way she's from Nigeria or something like that. She knows the local area well and her colloquialisms are distinctly 20-something American. At worst she's a fat chick or a younger dude. Also not trying to scam for money. I gave her my number and she said she saved it to her phone. Didn't give me hers which isn't great but not really something to freak out about yet. The sad thing is she already has plans for the weekend and I'm going out of town all next week, so the earliest we can meet is next Thursday. She asked if I was available Monday night which was obviously a no since I said I was gone Sun-Thu. The one big positive is that she claims she has a 4 yo daughter and has several pics of her. She talks like a parent. I don't disclose that I have a 3 yo daughter on my profile but I told her right away and she really warmed up after that and immediately started talking about play dates. I don't think someone catfishing would pose to be a 26 yo hottie with a daughter. The parts that seem bogus is that she is a homeowner in LA (too young) and drives a Tesla, is drop dead gorgeous and struggling to meet someone? Hmm... 1
Ieris Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 If you have her pictures you should try them in Google Image Search to see what comes up. 2
SevenCity Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 I'd be more worried she was real and gonna give me herpes if she is offering BJs and sex to internet strangers. 3
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 (edited) If your schedules lining up will take more than a week than start researching her name and social media accounts as well as asking for pics (not ones you pull yourself) and dropping them into Google reverse image search or TinEye. I will warn you that they are NOT 100% accurate since savvy catfishers have grown smarter over the years with how and where they get their images. Even if a picture has been altered in the slightest way; color, crop etc., they very often won't show up so take it with a grain of salt. Still worth a shot regardless. I can't even begin to tell you how many men I managed to rat out just by doing this. Ugh. If you're going to meet up within the week, then just go and see who turns up. I will echo what SevenCity said and that is to be mindful of the fact that what she did with you, she's very likely done with many other men too. If she turns out to be real and you end up in bed together just remember to be SMART and PUT ON A CONDOM! You don't want to baby daddy #2 or catch something you don't want or can get rid of easily enough. I will warn you that there are women who do this kind of thing professionally. Not necessarily prostitutes (although please watch for this too), but ones who are indeed hot as hell but who have an agenda to extort money from unsuspecting dumbfounded men. Their game varies so just be mindful again. I'm a believer that your gut already knows what it needs to know. Listen to it. Good luck. Edited August 4, 2017 by Michelle ma Belle 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted August 4, 2017 Author Posted August 4, 2017 I say just go for it and meet up. Nothing makes me lose interest more than a guy asking to skype or for more pics. It's online dating , you take a riskS just meet in a public place first(heard of guy's being baited and mugged before). That's kinda how I feel. Part of the excitement is the mystery of meeting someone new (not that she might be a catfish). I did a Google image search on her pics and nothing came up. If I dig any more than that, it starts sucking the romance out of it... 1
rightondude Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 yeah go for it, just meet at a sports bar or something and if you see Big Brutus in a wig start heading for your table, make a bee line and get the hell outta there.
Author CryForNoOne Posted August 4, 2017 Author Posted August 4, 2017 I'd be more worried she was real and gonna give me herpes if she is offering BJs and sex to internet strangers. She didn't offer. It was innuendo. She also said random stuff like "marry me already". It was fun and flirty. She claims she hasn't had sex in nearly a year. It's either likely all BS or all true. I did my 5 minutes of private sleuthing and found nothing. Anyway, I haven't heard from her in 24 hours now and she has my number. So the ball is in her court. She is taking a road trip this weekend so I'll wish her a nice trip and leave it at that. She's either busy or not interested. I hit it off with someone else who is more my speed, as-in girl next door pretty, but not bombshell where a guy has to worry everywhere he goes. She offered up her number right away and we're already texting. It feels much more real... 1
SevenCity Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 She didn't offer. It was innuendo. She also said random stuff like "marry me already". It was fun and flirty. She claims she hasn't had sex in nearly a year. It's either likely all BS or all true. I did my 5 minutes of private sleuthing and found nothing. Anyway, I haven't heard from her in 24 hours now and she has my number. So the ball is in her court. She is taking a road trip this weekend so I'll wish her a nice trip and leave it at that. She's either busy or not interested. I hit it off with someone else who is more my speed, as-in girl next door pretty, but not bombshell where a guy has to worry everywhere he goes. She offered up her number right away and we're already texting. It feels much more real... Awesome. I've found that really hot ones are riddled with problems. I'll take a girl next door type any day of the week.
salparadise Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 Awesome. I've found that really hot ones are riddled with problems. Oh man, true more often than not. This could be a thread of its own... of course it's not a given, but the experience they have the world is usually so different from everyone else that it's almost inevitable. When my daughter was a kid growing up I always tried to emphasize the inherent value of every human being, and praise accomplishment rather than cuteness. But I see it every day at work... ultra hotties (usually ID'd by dress and makeup indicating that they identify that way) believing that only a select few are worthy of acknowledgment. OP, you're right to be skeptical, but stop short of being completely cynical. There are good, real women out there... and a tiny fraction of them may even be on a dating site from time to time. However, you must realize that offering you a blowjob (or talking about such to a stranger online) in an initial conversation puts her into a certain category automatically. I'd say go for it, but be very careful. And don't be surprised if she ghosts or turns out to be completely bogus.
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