mislemay08 Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 I was with my ex for 1.5 years... before our agreement of space (his request) a lot of heat built up due to my insecurity and trust issues. He said there's some things I needed to work on which I can't complain, he's right. During this time he was having problems with work due to rumors about his position cuts. I gave him time from may 25th-the end of june. Things were good then and we texted everyday like the norm. I haven't seen him for a month and July 4th came up and i really wanted to spend that time with him, but he told me he had to work. I checked his snap and he was at his apt pool bbq and i just had an outburst. To make things worst a couple days prior i freaked and told him im getting my stuff from his place and giving him back his keys. When I went there i seen a used pantyliner (disgusting) on the bathroom counter, tampons in the draw, and VS lotion in the linen closet, boy was i infuriated. Later that evening he told me the story... okay whatever i thought. To make the story short there way another female clothing at his place and he explained why but didn't want to tell me then because he thought i wouldn't believe him and throw a bigger fit. I feel likes he's made it worst now. After the july 4 incident I visited him at work we talked and he was all over me. I some how ended up with his keys again and he told me he never asked for them back (what does that mean)?? He told me if he was doing something why would he still let me keep his key and at that trust me with everything he has and i could pop in anytime esp with the lil pile of **** he has in his living room. Well that's what i've been trying to figure out. I feel like im getting mixed signals yet maybe im just being bipolar and over thinking things. He wanted this space due to stress of job cuts and to reevaluate his living situation. He moved here 2 years ago for a job transfer so really theres nothing here for him. He sayings he pictures spending the rest of his life with me.. and through these hard 2 months of silence and arguements he tells me he loves me and that im still his best friend.. but he needs for me to work on my bi polar antics. please if anyone has any advices or insights im open. this isn't my first relationship break so i know the bs of it
d0nnivain Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 He lied to you about his whereabouts (work v the pool / bbq), his distancing himself from you (this "break" / "space" nonsense) & you have seen evidence of another woman staying at his place which he hid from you. You already said you don't trust him. He can't or won't handle your bi-polar medical condition. So why are you sticking around instead of just making a clean break?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 How did explain all the female items left at his house? That clearly was someone who was relatively comfortable being there; it's not a like a one-nighter leaves her tampons and lotion behind for next time. My guess is he's been seeing or at least sleeping with someone else. He didn't expect you to come there unexpectedly so he's trying to make it seem like you're jumping to conclusions because, well, what other excuse could he make?
Author mislemay08 Posted August 3, 2017 Author Posted August 3, 2017 he new i was going over there when i seen the tampons and panty liner. he told me it was a co-worker saying, bouncing from house to house due to unaffordable living expenses. i just kept cool when I left. i don't understand why he's not wanting his keys back and tells me im free to come and go as i please after all of this, like everything is fine. we are the only ones with the keys to the house. im tempted to run up in there.. but i know with my bad history of emotional anger it will make things worst. My deal is not getting back its more of figuring out this confusion. He doesn't owe me any explanations but i'd at least want the truth is to wtf his intentions are, because worse case scenario i will ****ing not be his back up.
d0nnivain Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 Why are you confused? This is crystal clear to me: he's a cad who no longer respect you & does not want to date you. What is there to be confused about?
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