Kicking myself for not giving him my number! Now what

[emsx0x]

So there's this guy at work that I am sooo attracted to, haven't felt this way in a while actually, it's like everything about him, his personality, smile, I think he's just great. Anyway we work together but in different departments so I rarely see him, hadn't talked much but when we do it's very fun and we have a connection. we had a training session together the other day and chatted briefly here and there. Very friendly and I think I definitely give off flirty vibes because I smile and laugh a lot and give the typical signs when a girl likes a guy.

Anyway we had a chance meeting at the bus stop (was so happy) and we ended up getting on the same bus and chatted, we added each other on instagram lol, he was asking me lots of questions about my life and it was great but I'm clueless as to whether he is just being friendly or flirting. We got off the bus and basically parted ways and I am kicking myself for not saying something like "we should hang out sometime here is my number"

My question is, would it be weird to message him on instagram and see if he wants to go out sometime? Also the fact that he hasn't asked me out makes me insecure to do so

Is it a general rule that a guy WILL make the first move and ask you or is that old school and I should just message him??

Edited August 3, 2017 by emsx0x

[coolheadal]

You need find out first if he's:

 

1. Seeing someone (gf (girl friend), or he's into guys) this is very important gave you example how to ask that in a mention.

2. Engaged

3. Married

4. Straight

 

Also the rule of thumb here never date anyone from work. I even stumble into that myself but found out the girl was married. Funny she did everything you co worker friend did. But just being friendly that's it. I don't he's the type to play around with other co workers.

 

As this this question, so say his name was "Steve" So Steve what's your family life situation like today? You and your girl friend or wife having BBQ party plans for next month holiday?

 

Something like that you can generalized the mention. That is what it is not a question. This way you get an idea to see what's his social calendar is like? This is where most men and women fail to check to see if the so call new person in their life is totally free.

[bluefeather]

There don't need to be rules like that. If you like him enough, I say go for it.

[emsx0x]

Thanks for the replies, I know for a fact he is straight and like 98% sure he is single. But yeah I guess I could find out for sure. I just remembered he is getting a tattoo on Friday so I could message him about that as a conversation starter?

[OneForMe]

Definitely engage in conversation with him and see where it leads!

[PegNosePete]

Is it a general rule that a guy WILL make the first move and ask you or is that old school and I should just message him??

Unfortunately these days it is more of a general rule that a man should not make any kind of compliment or personal conversation to any woman in a work environment otherwise he is risking his job and possibly criminal charges for sexual harassment. Welcome to political correctness gone crazy.

 

Sure, if you like him, message him.

[kortz]

Drop him a message and get the conversation going and see how he responds. If anything this is a better approach because if you'd flat out given him your number without knowing much about his personal situation it could have been embarrassing and remember you work with this person. Once you've chatted a little you can drop in a few hints about maybe going for a drink or something if he doesn't ask you.

[caveman621]

Message him! It sound like he likes you. He will probably be flattered. Even if he says no or that he is in a relationship, it's better than wondering what might have happened!