Tserath Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 I think I posted in the wrong spot, so am posting again here. Dunno what I'm doing. So, I met a guy online. Wasn't going to meet him, didn't really want to meet him, but I did. He's a truck driver and doesn't live in my city. I didn't think we would hit off, but we did. Had an extremely great night, and continued texting, as of now it'll be 2 months of friendship, or whatever you wanna call it. We texted every single day and talked on the phone a few times. The other day I was severely stressed out and sorta became an emotional wreck in my texting, was kinda a bitch to him. He said "hmmm" "I..." "K". 3 separate texts. Then I apologized and said maybe what I said was uncalled for. He didn't respond. So then I just blurted out that I had feelings for him and it was confusing and blah blah blah. He didn't respond.. So the next day I sent an apology basically saying I overreacted and was sorry for it. There's a lot more to it all than that, but I'm trying to keep this short. I was the cool chick, totally not nuts until the other day when I had that little breakdown. He already knew I had feelings for him, I'm sure. But I think I might have scared him away forever now, because hes not responded at all. Only thing I can do is let it go, it couldn't be anything anyway since he's not even in my city, but it sucks. It's making me nuts and making me want to text him more to explain myself, but I've already dug my hole and texting more would just dig it deeper. no matter what I say it will now come across as desperate and pathetic. I'm just curious if anyone else has done this before and felt this pathetic, desperate crap. I'm not sure if I've already come across as desperate and pathetic to him, but I sure feel like it. And I want to fix it all. But I can't.
fred123 Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 I think I posted in the wrong spot, so am posting again here. Dunno what I'm doing. So, I met a guy online. Wasn't going to meet him, didn't really want to meet him, but I did. He's a truck driver and doesn't live in my city. I didn't think we would hit off, but we did. Had an extremely great night, and continued texting, as of now it'll be 2 months of friendship, or whatever you wanna call it. We texted every single day and talked on the phone a few times. The other day I was severely stressed out and sorta became an emotional wreck in my texting, was kinda a bitch to him. He said "hmmm" "I..." "K". 3 separate texts. Then I apologized and said maybe what I said was uncalled for. He didn't respond. So then I just blurted out that I had feelings for him and it was confusing and blah blah blah. He didn't respond.. So the next day I sent an apology basically saying I overreacted and was sorry for it. There's a lot more to it all than that, but I'm trying to keep this short. I was the cool chick, totally not nuts until the other day when I had that little breakdown. He already knew I had feelings for him, I'm sure. But I think I might have scared him away forever now, because hes not responded at all. Only thing I can do is let it go, it couldn't be anything anyway since he's not even in my city, but it sucks. It's making me nuts and making me want to text him more to explain myself, but I've already dug my hole and texting more would just dig it deeper. no matter what I say it will now come across as desperate and pathetic. I'm just curious if anyone else has done this before and felt this pathetic, desperate crap. I'm not sure if I've already come across as desperate and pathetic to him, but I sure feel like it. And I want to fix it all. But I can't. its hard unless you tell us the full story. 1
HarmonyDriven Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 Yes, I have had a couple of desperate texting breakdowns.....and I let it go. The guy never texted back and I moved on. This was years ago but I remember it well..... IMO, let it go. Honestly, based on what you have noted, I would be too embarrassed to even talk to this guy again. Hopefully, he does not text you and moves on.... You do the same. It will be better this way. Learning experience. You are 100 per cent right, the more you text this guy, the more desperate and pathetic you sound. Good luck
Robratory Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 I'm sorry to hear you're going through this! It's not you. It's impossible to tell what the story is with him, but in any relationship, whoever shuts down is the one with the problem. Don't feel desperate and pathetic. You had a bad day, and then you acted in good faith and apologized. If he can't handle that, he's the one with the shortcomings, not you. And not responding in the moment to someone who is clearly in emotional distress is just thoughtless and cruel.
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