richieb Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 She left 3 months ago, after 13 years together. 3rd time she has left. Her and her daughter are staying with a friend. She took her daughters bedroom set and clothes etc. and took her clothes, but not all, about 50 percent are still here and even though I have trying to have NC she emails once a week "can i come by and get some stuff" my reply is, get all of it. She had a vehicle that could have hauled it all off in one shot for 1 month and I kept saying, while you the truck come and get everything. OK was the reply but she never has. What to do with everything? we have boxes and boxes of family pics etc. Suggestion?
HarmonyDriven Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 I would continue to do NC as much as possible. IMO, you could do two things: Send her email/text noting she has until August 17 (2 weeks) to pick up belongings or items are going to Goodwill/donate to charity. If she has no where to store items, she can put them in storage and pay for it. Or Send her email/text noting your friend is dropping off all of her things at place she lives on August 17. (get a friend to help you out) Keep email/text polite and to the point. Good luck
Author richieb Posted August 3, 2017 Author Posted August 3, 2017 Together for 13 off and on, mostly on. Lived together for 4 years, then I popped the question, she said yes and we were engaged, only to find out 3 months later that she had been having a year long affair at work and still accepted the ring, we talked and went to counseling and things were good for another few years, then affair #2. She moved out for a few months and we got back together, another round of counseling etc adn good for a while. Pattern developing you see. And yes another affair....last year i was diagnosed with TN and was getting pain meds, well she started "taking" them, basically stealing them. I had to hide them in all different places. She was also smoking weed , not a big deal, but if she wasnt at work she was high . just sit in her chair high on her phone all evening long. I was sick and they couldnt find out what is was, so went to Mayo clinic, day she dropped me off she went and bought a bunch of panties and dissappeared, said she couldnt go with me, didnt have time off. then i get back and a week later she is gone. Doesnt seem to care about 13 years of stuff, just took clothes etc. but keeps dropping by weekly to pick up a few things.
Maldives Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 Together for 13 off and on, mostly on. Lived together for 4 years, then I popped the question, she said yes and we were engaged, only to find out 3 months later that she had been having a year long affair at work and still accepted the ring, we talked and went to counseling and things were good for another few years, then affair #2. She moved out for a few months and we got back together, another round of counseling etc adn good for a while. Pattern developing you see. And yes another affair....last year i was diagnosed with TN and was getting pain meds, well she started "taking" them, basically stealing them. I had to hide them in all different places. She was also smoking weed , not a big deal, but if she wasnt at work she was high . just sit in her chair high on her phone all evening long. I was sick and they couldnt find out what is was, so went to Mayo clinic, day she dropped me off she went and bought a bunch of panties and dissappeared, said she couldnt go with me, didnt have time off. then i get back and a week later she is gone. Doesnt seem to care about 13 years of stuff, just took clothes etc. but keeps dropping by weekly to pick up a few things. Dude she is toxic and I think u have well and truly put up wth ur fair share of dramas wth her 3 affairs u able o been gone the 1st time. I been cheated as well they never change once a cheater always a cheater. Be done wth her. She's doing it bit by bit because she's not a 100 percent about leaving but u should be walk away from this one yes 13 yrs but I don't think there's any sign of her changing in fact there's none smokes weed cheats bad combination
springy Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 Box up her stuff and tell her its on the porch or drop it at her friend's house. Please do not let this woman back for round 4. Change your locks and go NC so you can get over her and make room in your heart for someone who is worthy of your love. 1
Author richieb Posted August 4, 2017 Author Posted August 4, 2017 Well couple months back she was asking about appliances and stuff. I think I will go the storage locker way, pay for 30 days rental. Move everything I know she wants in there , then have her daughter give her the key, tell her she has 30 days to retrieve it if not they will sell it. There will not be a round 4. I have finally realized what kind of person she is. its just getting past with NC so i can heal from all this.
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