laguna404 Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 Hello, I went out on a first date with a guy I met from POF. Before date by texting he was very nice and respectful. He traveled an hour to come see me in NYC and we had a 3 hour long date and I thought we had some good chemistry and he seemed to be enjoying himself. He walked me home but at the end he didnt kiss me, we just hugged. He said a couple of times, that we should get together again and I said yes. Now I've had guys say that before and never heard from them again and also since there was no kiss I thought he is not interested. I texted him after date thanking him for food and drinks and we chatted. Next day I didnt reach out and waited for him to text me and he did text midday saying he was hoping I was having a good day. Then still having good chemistry, however, I'm now noticing he is not initiating out as much or asking how I'm doing. Also I noticed he added a picture to his profile. Sounds like he's interested or not???
Deidre Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 Hello, I went out on a first date with a guy I met from POF. Before date by texting he was very nice and respectful. He traveled an hour to come see me in NYC and we had a 3 hour long date and I thought we had some good chemistry and he seemed to be enjoying himself. He walked me home but at the end he didnt kiss me, we just hugged. He said a couple of times, that we should get together again and I said yes. Now I've had guys say that before and never heard from them again and also since there was no kiss I thought he is not interested. I texted him after date thanking him for food and drinks and we chatted. Next day I didnt reach out and waited for him to text me and he did text midday saying he was hoping I was having a good day. Then still having good chemistry, however, I'm now noticing he is not initiating out as much or asking how I'm doing. Also I noticed he added a picture to his profile. Sounds like he's interested or not??? Might be too soon to tell, yet. I would say after another date, if he's distant, then probably is just dating around casually, and isn't interested in something serious. That he added a pic to his profile after going on a date with you, could mean he's still 'looking.' I recently got married, but when I was dating, I didn't kiss on the first date, so I wouldn't read into that part of it. Did you both decide when to meet again? 1
bachdude Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 It can be totally different from guy to guy regarding how they show interest. If he is more reserved, the lack of a kiss is nothing negative. So far, I think it is way to early to tell what his interest is since it was only one date. And if you look online to the vast majority of dating advise, they all instruct guys to sit back and play it cool, to hold their cards close to their chest, to not act too interested. So who knows where he is coming from. So I recommend do not get overly invested too early in any guy - you will drive yourself crazy doing so. Just sit back and let him reach out to you. 2
Scarlett.O'hara Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 He might want to see you again but he is still keeping his options wide open so you should do the same. Something might develop in time, but for now it is best to keep going on dates with other men to avoid wasting your time on a "maybe". 1
HarmonyDriven Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 IMO, I would not be too concerned with no kissing on first date. You both had a great date! So leave it at that. If he is truly interested in you, he will make plans to see you, not just talk about it. If he doesn't, his loss and you move on. Don't give him another thought. I know.....hard to do, but do it. 1
girlinNYC Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 It is too early to tell, don't jump the gun in any case and assume he is interested or he isn't. It does seem like your date went well enough to warrant a second, so see how it goes next time around. He may be more reserved or was planning to kiss you all night but chickened out last minute. Some guys have fears of going in for the kiss and not getting kissed back, ha. Continue to meet others if that's what you want to do, otherwise focus on him, gauge interest level and take it from there. If he ultimately isn't, you've lost nothing. Good luck.
smackie9 Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 IMO no he's not. An interested guy would engage in more conversation/ flirt rather than the generic "hope you are having a good day." He would be asking you out again.......some say he's trying to not look too eager and just wait a few days....with my experience, if he really likes you, he won't waste time on this waiting game crap. You are worth more than that......set him aside and keep your options open.
Author laguna404 Posted August 2, 2017 Author Posted August 2, 2017 Yeah I think your right, oh well too bad he was cute and nice and respectful. Wonder why though he said couple of times let's get together again and said for next time maybe near where he lives. Like why bother saying that stuff just leads me on. Or why reach out to me afterwards if he's not interested. Would have rather he not reached out to me next day after date. On Monday we had good back and forth texting funny texting, yesterday he didn't reach out just responded to me. And today I'm not reaching out waiting to see if I hear from him. Of course I'm moving on was just one date, just disappointing and tired of trying so hard to meet someone through online dating and all sorts of social events in person.
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