Logo Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 I have a profile on an online dating website. I have sent thoughtful messages, I have sent short quirky messages depending on the person's sense of humor, I have sent funny messages, serious messages, short and long, you name it. I can't seem to get a response from the women I like. To be perfectly honest, my pictures don't do me justice. I look much better in person. I just don't know what to do anymore. Should I hire a professional photographer? My profile is thoughtful, it shows who I am and clearly states what I'm looking for. Any ideas as to what's going on? Are most women on there just for the attention? Out of boredom? Are they just trying to see what their market value in the dating scene is to boost their ego? I don't get it. Online dating has by far been the worse experience for me. But lately I get that in real life, too. A woman might give me her number only to not respond when I contact her. And it's happening over and over again. I didn't have this problem before my last relationship. I don't know what's changed. I'm starting to feel like there is something wrong with me that I'm not aware of.
Lobouspo Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 OP, OLD is a pure numbers game heavily skewed towards women. The reality is that any woman with her two front teeth with decent looks is getting inundated with messages. I've had many women who OLD tell me if a dudes pics don't catch their eye, they don't even read the messages. Simply to many too many to rummage through. Maybe change up your pics. Realistically ask yourself how attractive you are. If you're a 7 or 8, message the 5s and 6s. I know it's silly and maddening but OLD is nothing more than human catalogue shopping these days 1
Author Logo Posted August 1, 2017 Author Posted August 1, 2017 If Ryan Gosling is a 10, then I'd put myself right there at 9. Not being arrogant. I may not be famous, but, seriously, what is it? And how do you explain all those women who give me their number in person only to disappear without a response after I text them or call them? Perhaps they think I'm too serious and they're afraid of a commitment and they just want to **** around.
preraph Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 I just think you do better in person. Because in person no one is accepting or rejecting you based on info they're really only surmising. In person, a woman can see how you walk and talk and if you seem straightforward and earnest, and if you seem fun. It's hard to convey any of that online.
Ami1uwant Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 What site are you using ? What ages are you looking at? How old are you? It's common knowledge that on many sites they have a ton of dead or inactive profiles who you will never see a reply from. If you are going purely based on looks then it will be competitive. slso...wHat ARE You Saying oR How Is YOUR profile? If you write like sn idiot then you don't get a reply. 1
Author Logo Posted August 1, 2017 Author Posted August 1, 2017 I just think you do better in person. Because in person no one is accepting or rejecting you based on info they're really only surmising. In person, a woman can see how you walk and talk and if you seem straightforward and earnest, and if you seem fun. It's hard to convey any of that online. Perhaps bars, of any type, are not the best place to meet relationship material women these days. I suppose I need to try a different demographic.
normal person Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 Where do you live and what do you do for work? 1
HarmonyDriven Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 IMO, I think you should try professional photos especially if you think you look better in person. The professional photographer might be able to truly capture what you look like in a photo, or a photo that best represents you. I had professional photos done and I was happy with the results. Personally, I don't want to see photos of anyone else but the man. No photos with family, no photos with friends, no photos with animals, no shirtless bathroom photos with a six pack and a bulging view down below (no need to see how dirty the bathroom is either,) no photos with toys (cars, boats, motorcycles, etc....) Keep it simple. 2
smackie9 Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 Let us see it and we can give you some tips. It's hard to be objective yourself when it's about you.
GemmaUK Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 What site are you using ? What ages are you looking at? How old are you? It's common knowledge that on many sites they have a ton of dead or inactive profiles who you will never see a reply from. If you are going purely based on looks then it will be competitive. slso...wHat ARE You Saying oR How Is YOUR profile? If you write like sn idiot then you don't get a reply. I'm quoting this as there were some good questions in there which you didn't respond to OP. Partly due to the fact I would be asking pretty much all the same questions but also, there was a fair amount of time between the above post and your next one. It's possible that you maybe skip questions or parts of conversation when in touch with these ladies - that might be another reason (on top of not great pics) as to why they drop conversation and contact with you. If I can't get a coherent conversation out of someone and have to re-ask things I will drop a conversation. It's too much hard work and makes me think (and has been proved several times once I've met people - colleagues or potential men to date) that they just aren't any good at listening or know what a real conversation is and that it's meant to flow two ways - it's not just 'speaking'.
guest569 Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 Get a photographer but make sure they are nice and natural images that depict YOU.. not glamour shots lol I'm sure you've read up on tips for dating profiles. They say a few shots. Portrait, full body and doing some activity. Outdoor shots with soft morning light
Miss Spider Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 (edited) my guesses are - Something going on with your pics, Look/style/vibe you're giving off in them.Maybe they are low quality or awkward. Most people think they look better in person than pics, but maybe you do photograph really,really bad. Good (not cheesy) pro pics might be a good idea. - Something going on with your profile. Maybe it's too dull or creepy or a whole host of other things that's turning chicks off - You are only going for the most in-demand girls Yes, there are a lot of fakes, attention seekers, time killers, but you should be getting SOME interest Edited August 2, 2017 by Cookiesandough
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