letmein Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 Disclaimer - I know the best way to find out if I was on a date vs. hanging out is to just ask her. I'm just trying to find out if you were in my position, what you'd think. So my coworker asked if I wanted to get drinks a few days ago. I said sure, and we grabbed drinks/shared an appetizer. While we were there, she asked me if I could help her with some work related stuff after my shift, so I said I could in a couple days. That day came and she suggested we get drinks before tackling the work stuff. So we went to a bar and got drinks/food. Then she said she really wanted to go to another bar to play a video game. So we went there, played the game and grabbed some more drinks. We then went to another bar and split some dessert that she wanted. During the night, she was pretty flirty with me. She rested her head on my shoulders a couple times, rubbed my back, made sexual jokes, and even said we could "fake make out". At the end of the night, she ended up being drunk and someone had to come pick her up. She said I could stay on her couch if I wanted but I declined. We've gotten drinks and hung out before so this isn't the first time. I outright told her a month ago I liked her, which she replied "I like spending time with you..". She still has a thing for an ex so I kinda thought dating was out of the picture. I've already asked her if she wanted to go to a different bar in a few days and she said she would. This feels like more than just "hanging out with a co-worker" but maybe I'm reading into it too much? TL;DR - Went to a few bars and split some food with a co-worker. Wondering if you were in my position, how you'd feel.
bachdude Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 It doesn't matter, in my option, at this point if it was a date or not. She seems flirty and interested so I suggest just asking her out and going from there. Don't bother asking her, "Was that a date?" If you are interested, just go for it.
Bastile Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 She was all over you, and offered you to stay at her place. You decline, and then wonder if it's a date. What's up with that? Wondering if you were in my position, how you'd feel. Like I'd just missed an open goal. 2
Author letmein Posted August 2, 2017 Author Posted August 2, 2017 Her mom picked up her up (she still lives with her parents and siblings). So it would have been a little weird riding to her house with them. This girl is kind of a conundrum. She's told me outright before she's pictured having sex with me. She's told me if I'd made a move on her she would've gone for it. So I've tried making a move on her a couple of times and they were denied. Then she accused me of "just looking for a hookup" (which she later said was an overreaction). So at this point, I don't even know if I go for a move or not. She's agreed to see me again at another bar so I guess that's a good sign
Versacehottie Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 um, she likes you very obviously. Proceed with caution because she might not be over her ex (one can like two people at once) AND because you work together. But yeah she likes you!
bachdude Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 Her mom picked up her up (she still lives with her parents and siblings). So it would have been a little weird riding to her house with them. This girl is kind of a conundrum. She's told me outright before she's pictured having sex with me. She's told me if I'd made a move on her she would've gone for it. So I've tried making a move on her a couple of times and they were denied. Then she accused me of "just looking for a hookup" (which she later said was an overreaction). So at this point, I don't even know if I go for a move or not. She's agreed to see me again at another bar so I guess that's a good sign No, she's not a conundrum, she's a head case. I retract my previous advise to ask her out. Keep your distance and move on
Versacehottie Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 No, she's not a conundrum, she's a head case. I retract my previous advise to ask her out. Keep your distance and move on You DO have a valid point. It's a little sketch her behavior and you DO work with her, OP.
Author letmein Posted August 2, 2017 Author Posted August 2, 2017 Well I use the word "work" lightly. We work at the same company, different offices. We'd see each other once every three weeks or month maybe. I agree with enigma32 though, she does seem to be playing games. It does seem like she wants attention sometimes. When I purposely ignore her or don't text her for awhile, that's when she comes to me asking to hang out. I would've given up on this girl long ago l if I weren't so into her. At some point I just have to go for it and see what happens, right? 1
bachdude Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 Well I use the word "work" lightly. We work at the same company, different offices. We'd see each other once every three weeks or month maybe. I agree with enigma32 though, she does seem to be playing games. It does seem like she wants attention sometimes. When I purposely ignore her or don't text her for awhile, that's when she comes to me asking to hang out. I would've given up on this girl long ago l if I weren't so into her. At some point I just have to go for it and see what happens, right? You are not thinking with the correct part of your body. She's a mess. But sometimes we just have to live and learn.
rightondude Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 She sounds kind of flaky:confused: this girl sounds like a hoot, I dunno, I'd ask her out directly and then make it happen. If she's TOLD YOU she imagined you two having sex, she a'int gonna say no. I'd try to keep it "fun" though as it doesn't sound like she's ready to settle down anytime soon.
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