Is she interested?

[jonesey0]

Hey there.

Met a girl, really like her, were coworkers even though we dont work together.

 

The plot:

She joined our company 18 months ago, but i only met in the christmas party.

When the party was about to end, i went to talk to her, and we talked for two hours.

Two days later, on her day off, she went to visit me at the location i was working (were both civil engineers). Spent some hours together, it was great.

After that, i visited her facebook page and saw old pictures of her with someone. Assumed she had a boyfriend. Didnt engage anymore.

On february we started having weekly reunions on friday along with other site engineers, and every time we had oportunity we would talk alone about what we have been doing, and she initiated it 90% of the time.

Come July, she told me that next week she would come work in the companys main office, where i spend most of the time.

She arrives, we talk alot everyday, and a few days later i hear that She is single, broke up with her 7year boyfriend one year ago.

I ask her to have lunch with me the next day, she says she cant, but suggest the day after. I agree.

The day arrives, she texts asking if we are still up for lunch, and i confirm.

I go the office to pick her up, she comes out all dressed up and looking gorgeous!

Lunch went very well, talked about our families, the places where were from, hobbies, movies, etc

I told her we should meet outside of work hours, to grab a drink and have dinner. She agreed, and said we would arrange it after she gets Back from her vacation (one week later).

 

Later that day i texted her, saying i really liked to be with her, that im looking forward to our next time together, and wishing her good vacations.

She repplied thanking me, and saying that when She comes Back we should arrange something together.

 

She came back from vacations, we talked the very first day for more than one hour, but I didn't ask her, neither did she say something.

Then I had a really busy week at work, where i Just saw her two or three times, and just passing by.

 

We had coffee with other coworkers two or three times, and every time i said a joke (even a lame one, I'm not a funny guy ) she smiled a lot.

 

So, does she like me or is she just being friendly since we work together?

Is she waiting for me to something?

Should I just wait it out?

 

Some important things:

1. We work in the same company. We don't work together, have almost none professional interaction.

2. I'm 34, she's 26. It's a considerable age gap, even though she is very mature and not party girl like.

3. I really, really like her. And it's not even the physical side (she's drop dead gourgeous). We both were born in small towns, now live in a big city, and I feel that our upbringing is very much alike.

 

So, what should I do? I don't want to create a bad environment between us if she doesn't feel the way I do.

 

Thanks in advance.

Edited August 1, 2017 by jonesey0

[d0nnivain]

Go ahead & ask her on a proper date.

 

You will never know until you try.

[Sara1989]

You are 34 years old...do you really need to ask the "Is she interested in me?" question. Also surely you should know by now that you should have asked her out on another date, she most likely at this point think you are not interested in her.

 

Also wait out for what?? for her to ask YOU OUT, well good luck with that as she already told you before vacation she wanted see you again.

[preraph]

You dropped the ball. You had been talking about getting together when she got back and then you completely didn't ask her out. Now yes there is a chance she is not going to get romantically involved but all you can do is ask her out and find that out.

[Miss Spider]

Why didn't you bring it up to her when she came back? I agree you dropped the ball. There's no way we can know. Email her and ask

[jonesey0]

Asked her to get coffee together yesterday after work...she said she couldn't.

But said she was free to lunch yesterday or today.

So...lunch yesterday it was.

 

So we had lunch and it was just perfect.

I had a table booked in a cosy and romantic restaurant...and we were there alone!

Talked, laughed all the time. We shared a bottle of sangria, she loved it.

Once again, she dressed up for the occasion, and prior to us leaving for the restaurant, went to the bathroom, and came out with her hair loose and smelling of perfume.

 

I flirted a little with her, touched her a few times and she didn't mind at all.

Said to her when we were going back to work "by now, I think you have already realized that I really like being with you, and can't wait for us to be together again".

She blushed, and said yes.

 

Now...how do I followup?

I want to be with her outside of work time, dinner and drinks through the night.

Wait for her to suggest it or say something? She says she doesn't like me paying alone, next time she will invite me and she will pay for it.

Or do I have to take the initiative all the time?

 

One thing: she looked that surprised that I booked a table for us. Also when I opened the car door for her to enter.

Do women still like this stuff? Or is it oldfashioned?

I don't do it to impress, its just a natural thing to me.

[Ieris]

@jonesey0 ~ It all sounds promising.. don't worry too much. If you really like her then don't fuss too much about who asks who out as you both clearly enjoy each others company. She's making the effort to look good for you and accepts all your invites so just plan lots of things to do with her.

 

There is nothing wrong with booking a table or opening a car door, if that is who you are then just carry on being you.

[Miss Spider]

Great to hear it went well. Just ask her out again soon. & nothing wrong with opening doors etc. That's very sweet.

[jonesey0]

We had lunch again today (she invited me and was keen on paying for it) and Thursday...dinner and a movie.

Thanks for all the advice and support, I think things are looking good.