my ex ruined my life after saying im not man enough

[JJNY]

This girl's deep depression, self-esteem issues, miserable life is no excuse to have treated you so ****ly.

 

Remember as you said you are a good looking guy that was really confident, happy , positive, so you CAN be that awesome confident guy again.

 

My 'man up' to you as a girl is: don't snap out of it, or just let it go. Rise above whatever petty childish things she's saying around the school. You're at college (you got yourself there, man!) and have shown you have been there for someone who asked you to be there for them. It's not your fault she turned out to use you.

You're not a b**** for treating her like a princess. You deserve better than this girl.

Don't worry about that moment of weakness of begging for her back. You tried to fight for what you wanted... it's done now.. and it shows more about how she poorly treats people. Think about how amazing it would be to have a man like you, someone who treats a girl well and is even willing to show vunerablity when fighting for something he wants.

 

IMO showing vulnerability is not being weak but in certain situations is really a sign of strength. She's shown who the person she's become, now showing vulnerability to her is only going to make her continue to treat you the same negative way. Time to show her your wall and absense. She is going to feel the difference of you now not being there. Let her feel what she'll never have from you again.

 

Stay clear from this toxic girl and anyone associated with her on campus, keep doing your studies... look back at who you were before this girl, and build that confidence and self-worth up again daily. We can't control other's words but we can control our reactions and focus.

 

Focus on you, your studies, hobbies, friends. Be so engrossed in you that you free yourself from her words and treatment. Good luck man, looking forward to hearing how you go!

 

First to the OP, I am with you man. Used to be a very confident, outgoing, successful guy with a great job. Now I feel so used, feel like I was someone's emotional crutch, and feel like a complete jackass for sacrificing my dignity and self-worth in the end by chasing. I didn't necessarily beg, but I certainly initiated WAY too much contact to the point she started ignoring me. We can get back there though. We just have to keep telling ourselves that.

 

And to you Fenix...your words really helped me. Feels like you could have been speaking to me. This girl told me over and over I was so good to her, how lucky she was, and then POOF she was gone. That's HER issue. If she couldnt accept that from me there has to be someone out there who can.

[preraph]

i really do appreciate all those beautiful comments guys .... im really feeling so much better because of you ... been down for months ... almost lost myself.... wish you all the best ...god bless you all

 

You are better than her. Don't doubt that.

[penguin7]

This girl's deep depression, self-esteem issues, miserable life is no excuse to have treated you so ****ly.

 

Remember as you said you are a good looking guy that was really confident, happy , positive, so you CAN be that awesome confident guy again.

 

My 'man up' to you as a girl is: don't snap out of it, or just let it go. Rise above whatever petty childish things she's saying around the school. You're at college (you got yourself there, man!) and have shown you have been there for someone who asked you to be there for them. It's not your fault she turned out to use you.

You're not a b**** for treating her like a princess. You deserve better than this girl.

Don't worry about that moment of weakness of begging for her back. You tried to fight for what you wanted... it's done now.. and it shows more about how she poorly treats people. Think about how amazing it would be to have a man like you, someone who treats a girl well and is even willing to show vunerablity when fighting for something he wants.

 

IMO showing vulnerability is not being weak but in certain situations is really a sign of strength. She's shown who the person she's become, now showing vulnerability to her is only going to make her continue to treat you the same negative way. Time to show her your wall and absense. She is going to feel the difference of you now not being there. Let her feel what she'll never have from you again.

 

Stay clear from this toxic girl and anyone associated with her on campus, keep doing your studies... look back at who you were before this girl, and build that confidence and self-worth up again daily. We can't control other's words but we can control our reactions and focus.

 

Focus on you, your studies, hobbies, friends. Be so engrossed in you that you free yourself from her words and treatment. Good luck man, looking forward to hearing how you go!

those words though , you made my day , i really do wish you the best , thanks alot