TravisBik Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 Howdy, I've been talking to this girl about 4 weeks. I'll be 29 soon, she's 22. So there's a little age gap. I've taken her out on 2 dates in that time--and our 3rd will be in a few days. That might sound like very little, but we have a common group of friends so there's been about 3 times which we happen to be at the same gathering/bar during those 4 weeks (one of them was a 2-day camping trip, we shared a tent). During the group outings she seems less mature than when we're out alone. The issue for me in this new romantic situation is navigating the fact that we will likely run into each other from time to time. It kind of upsets the balance of things. I'm just not sure how often I should be texting her or calling her or asking her out--because of these frequent occurrences. She's always receptive to calls or texts (never been a case where she didn't answer). But I'm just not sure how often I should be doing things. Does 3 dates in 4 weeks seem like not enough to you considering the situation? It's difficult to decide since we end up at the same party almost once a week. How often she a new person be texting/calling? Do I have to text everyday? I initiate about 80% of the time. Since I've known her for so long prior to hooking up, I have incredibly strong feelings so I'm also trying to navigate those as well. Am I overthinking? Thanks. T
smackie9 Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 You treat her the way you treat anyone else you have dated in the past. If she doesn't like it then you are not compatible as a couple....pretty simple. The worst thing you can do is force trying to be on the same page just to keep her interested...that's just immature in itself.
Author TravisBik Posted August 1, 2017 Author Posted August 1, 2017 Wow I didn't think of it like that. I think you're right, smackie. The only problem with that is, in the past I've lost some great flings early on, only find out years later that they thought I just wasn't interested because I didn't hit them up enough/or I seemed too aloof--and to tell you the truth I wouldn't have minded calling them more, so maybe it's about being truer to myself. Something I've been trying to remedy with new flings, but this feels like more than a fling--hence my concern. Thanks again.
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