girlinNYC Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 (edited) I quite literally met the man of my dreams 4 months ago. Great personality, ticks all my boxes re physical appearance, lovely family, intelligent, etc. Leading up to us talking for the first time, he had continually made eye contact with me, would stare as I walked past him etc. I didn't notice all of this until a colleague noticed it first and told me. I would downplay it until I saw it for myself and not even I could deny it. The first month in terms of face to face conversations was great. His interest was reinforced through his body language (excessive smiling, standing close to me, complimenting me) but although he was obviously attracted to me, he still has quite a reserved persona. He's shown interest without being over the top, which is fine, who likes O.T.T too soon? Not me. We hadn't spoken for about 6 weeks, we only just resumed face to face contact a week ago. In summary, he was evidently having a bad day one day (which I recently put together) and I got the vibe in lieu of a 'cold' conversation/vibe from him that he no longer must have liked me. I was distant with him and it played on my mind but I found there wasn't much I could do, I refused to experience that awkwardness again, but there was still that excessive eye contact when we hadn't been speaking and I couldn't therefore deny there was still something there, whether it be minuscule or big. We resumed conversation recently and he was back to normal. Even gave me the "long time no speak" line and was lovely, again, without coming on too strong but still had all the body language. I complimented his suit and he started to show it all off to me He even mentioned that his sister had been asking about if he's seen me lately. His sister told my mom that I'm amazing and she's lucky I'm her daughter, so he must have the vibe from her that I'm a good girl (not to brag, just empirical evidence here to add context) Obviously the feelings on my part haven't gone away. He knows I am rather successful in academic pursuits, I dress extremely classily and he knows I'm girlfriend material, not just a one night stand girl. Could he be holding back asking me out in light of my connection with his sister (even though I knew him before I knew her), and the fact I'm driven and classy (so I've been told by others) as opposed to girls he's hooked up with in the past and met that night? Should I just tell him I like him? Or is that too much? I just find there's no use sitting on my hands when it's playing on my mind. It's not fair on me for the most part. To add further: every guy who has ghosted or hurt me in the past has always come on strong from the beginning in terms of chatting me up and making me think they're sincere. This guy has shown interest but hasn't been disrespectful about in, upon comparison with the other guys. Hence why because he's showing a different approach re interest, he may sincerely like me? I don't know, tell me I'm delusional if you have too. Edited August 1, 2017 by girlinNYC
Steve51 Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 Or you can do what I did and propose to my wife 3 weeks after we met. Nothing says I like you more than asking the other person to marry you. 45 years and still going strong. 2
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