grays Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 (edited) My ex husband and I were very ambitious and career oriented and it didnt make me happy at all. Now Im dating a guy who's ceo of three successful companies and has homes in four cities on three continents. Im crazy over him but Im seriously thinking of ending it. We were supposed to see each other tonight because he got back from London last night and is leaving for Vancouver tomorrow, but he thinks he might be stuck at work till late. Id rather find myself a guy who's not so excited about his career. So, I suppose a lot of this is about what you value in a relationship. ETA: I posted at the same time as Elaine with the same advice, basically, but from a totally different perspective. lol Edited August 1, 2017 by grays 1
preraph Posted August 1, 2017 Posted August 1, 2017 How is he affording to travel if he's never kept a job? The first part of your description sounded like slacker rather than hippie. But then the last part sounded more hippie. Where's he get his money? How does he keep a roof over his head? And no, do not expect love to make him settle down. I've known a lot of hippies because I'm an old hippie who didn't get stuck in that role, but there are those who stay mired in the mindset and just become slackers.
Author oneinamillion93 Posted August 1, 2017 Author Posted August 1, 2017 How is he affording to travel if he's never kept a job? The first part of your description sounded like slacker rather than hippie. But then the last part sounded more hippie. Where's he get his money? How does he keep a roof over his head? And no, do not expect love to make him settle down. I've known a lot of hippies because I'm an old hippie who didn't get stuck in that role, but there are those who stay mired in the mindset and just become slackers. I don't know this deep about his finances situation. How he managed to keep traveling like that. He told me he got jobs over his traveling and doing the things that back packing people do when travel around. He stopped traveling a long time ago tho. This is the point. I don't even know if it's just pure slacking or this is a hippy lifestyle. @Grays and Elaine567: I myself am a nature person I guess. I prefer a peaceful life in a rural town surrounded by plants fields kind of, but got scared when I met someone having the same mindset like me. Feel like our life could be better or we could dragged us to the bottom, also on the other hands I still pretty much longing for a successful life where I got something in life and to be proud of it.
grays Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 I have very little money these days but feel that i have a lot to be proud of. Id say do what feels right to you, not what youre expected to do. If youre ambitious and want to make money, maybe he'll make a great homemaker/kid raiser/woods walker/travel companion. Or maybe that would feel lopsided and youd rather be part of a power couple where both parties are excited about the same thing and egging each other on and enjoying the fruits together. Maybe part of the issue is figuring out if hes just lazy and a moocher or if he's a nonconformist who takes care of business enough to support a lifestyle that feeds his soul. 3
No_Go Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 Very much agree here - OP is not saying what his career path is (but I assume is substantial if he wants to stick to it), and she's not saying where she stands. It will be a bit hypocritical to judge the guy if she doesn't have her sh*t together... But in any case, it is not clear at all why she's dating him if she doesn't like him. I have very little money these days but feel that i have a lot to be proud of. Id say do what feels right to you, not what youre expected to do. If youre ambitious and want to make money, maybe he'll make a great homemaker/kid raiser/woods walker/travel companion. Or maybe that would feel lopsided and youd rather be part of a power couple where both parties are excited about the same thing and egging each other on and enjoying the fruits together. Maybe part of the issue is figuring out if hes just lazy and a moocher or if he's a nonconformist who takes care of business enough to support a lifestyle that feeds his soul.
GunslingerRoland Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 There is so much open to interpretation and we are all reading this differently Never committed to a job for a long time as he told me it got boring after a while. I took this line to mean that he stay in a job for a couple of months to a couple of years and then moves on to a new one. I know people who do this, who've never made less than 6 figures in a year. Others took this to mean that he works a job for a few months, quits it and then just doesn't work for an extended period. So really it all depends on what the details are behind these sorts of facts about him. Many multi millionaires don't own homes, and probably the majority of homeowners these days are flat broke. Again it says nothing about his financial situation or stability. 3
divegrl Posted August 2, 2017 Posted August 2, 2017 I think you just need to take the time to get to know this guy better. He's loving, kind, good with kids. As your tag line reads..... he might be one in a million. Judge not by appearances. Good luck my friend!! 1
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