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Hi guys

 

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months, I moved in with him earlier this year.

 

Anyway he's an absolute angel most of the time, he treats me like a princess and he always does nice things like cook tea, run me a bath with candles, makes me nice drinks etc

 

Lately he's been getting real stressed with work he's working 15 hour days and it's been getting to him. He's starting to take it out on me,

This week he's fallen out with me every day about something or other.

He shouts and throws things and says I don't care and I'm not making efforts in the relationship.

He said things have gotten worse for him since he met me he's more stressed.

I try to make him feel better as I know he's not in a good frame of mind so I offer to take him out and he refuses to go, I try to comfort him and tell him everything will be ok but he throws it in my face!

 

I was dropping hints about marriage not so long ago and yesterday he told me to forget all about marriage because it's not gonna happen!! That hurt me a lot and i started to cry my eyes out when driving because he's said so many nasty things like he's trying to push me away, he apologized and said he knows it's wrong but he can't help feeling so angry about things

 

All I try to do is cheer him up and make him feel loved ?

 

Last night I was so shattered from work and arguing, I wanted to go to sleep but he started initiating sex. I said I'm just too tired and he kicked off again saying I don't fancy him because he's fat (he's not) and I don't get turned on by him (not true I was tired) he's not spoken to me since! I don't know what I've done wrong! One night without sex and he's gone off on one.

 

He used to kiss me before he left for work and this morning he just left, no kiss, no love you... Nothing

 

I'm at a load at what to do

 

I think a break may do us good but he says if I leave him that's us finished.

 

Any useful advice anyone???

 

Thanks guys

Posted (edited)

do you make the same effort that he used to make for you? not your version of effort, this is not getting thru, I mean his version

 

you run his candle-lit bath? make nice drinks? cook? make up one too, you know him...

 

you argued over sex, and in this hostile time, set a mellow tone

Edited by darkmoon
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You moved in with this guy way too soon. You're dating only 8 months and you're now starting to see his true colors emerge. He sounds very manipulative and emotionally abusive. Making you nice baths and tea does NOT make up for his unwarranted anger towards you. I was married to this type of man for a long time. This is a guy with major emotional issues, and you are in for a lifetime of misery and walking on eggshells if you stay with him.

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