barbossa Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 I have become familiar with a Hot attractive divorcee, who is single now after 20 years. She happens to be quite hot for late 40's, takes care of herself and has professed to being attracted to men younger than her ( Professed to mutual acquaintances that also introduced us at a party) This single mom and I have met a few times in group settings but I found something strange about her. To me it seems she has this overly close relationship with her adult son (21) who lived with her all his life until he moved away for college, is healthy and otherwise normal Weirdness? 1. Her License plate of her car is (ILOVEMIKE) The luxury car she drives she got from her divorce and Mike is her son's name 2. Her facebook profile background are of her embracing her son and indeed most of all her pictures on her profile are of her warmly embracing her adult son or of herself alone. 3. Her messenger system ( whatsapp) profile picture is of her and her son again 4. His Research assistant picture is of him and his mom together at a party she showed his profile when she was gloating about him at a party.... ~~~~~~~~~ I love my parents too and have a close relationship and I hug my mom but the way she hugs up on him and takes pictures with him looks just too creepy, unnaturally close like the way i would embrace my gf when we took pictures We are of the same background as well, and I haven't seen that before so I don't know what the deal is as far as I know she has dated casually since Here is a google example of what her facebook profile looks like https://www.google.com/search?q=couple+embracing&rlz=1C1CHFX_enUS655US655&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiFhJmzrLLVAhUC7IMKHWf1CYEQ_AUICigB&biw=1366&bih=638#imgrc=_2yfkyraILJrlM: I kid you not IS this creepy for a mom/grown healthy adult son relationship or am I being sensitive?
preraph Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 I mean, these days you see a lot of needy mothers who are trying to be friends with their kids and hang out with them and their friends as they get older. It's not good boundaries, of course, and probably mortifying to a lot of the kids, though not all. The license plate isn't odd. That's her son. He's her everything especially now she's divorced. It's not unusual for her to plaster all her social media with her and him either. Parents do it all the time. What IS unusual is if they are posing like that link you showed which are photos of couples really close up in each others' face about to kiss. And what is further unusual is if the son is doing the same thing, although one photo of him and his mother at a party does not mean anything. But if he seems obsessed with her, then yes, got some problems there. Listen, I know a guy who became a heroin addict because of some overdependence on him by his mother after divorce that got out of hand. It can happen. I've been creeped out by too much touching between teens and their parents before, like rubbing and the like. Past a certain age, it's really not what I call normal, but these days it has become more common. Single mothers will often endow their eldest son with more of a husband role, letting him be in charge and make decisions, etc. No way to tell if something is really going on there or not, BUT if so do you really think she'd be even interested in other men? And do you think he'd put up with her having other men? I think they're maybe having some boundary issues, but hopefully it stops short of crossing the line. However, going in, you now know who the real love of her life is, either way, so my guess is nothing goes down unless he wants it to go down, so this could be a frustrating woman to be with. 1
amaysngrace Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 I'd trust your gut on this. If she always needs to be seductive in every single picture, to include pictures with her own son, she has a problem. 3
mikeylo Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 The son may not realize but the mom knows. No matter how hot she is , there is a line when you have adult or near adult kids. The number plate isn't the problem. The pictures are !
Steve51 Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 My wife and I shared a girlfriend for 30 years. The girls are both bi naturally. Our girlfriend wanted to move in with us but she has an adult son whom she still buys underwear for and even a car. He is always in school, just like his mother, at the age of 35. He has never lived along and as far as we know, never had a girlfriend. When we moved to where we are now, our girlfriend wanted to live with us. However she wanted us to take in her son too. First off there is not enough bedrooms and secondly, who wants an adult male roaming around our house when we are used to not dressing for company when at home. Plus it would feel weird to have the son of the woman we were having sex with, in listening distance. We said no and she called and asked one more time but our answer was still the same even though we still love her. She has enabled her son to the point where he cannot function on his own. If he gets a job he quits the first time things get tough. There is room and board waiting for him at home whether he works or not. She is one of those mothers who could not let go and likes that her son is dependent on her. I imagine that they will be together for the rest of her life. In your situation it may be that you will be the odd man out, in third place in her life. A friend married a woman he met online. All he does is complain about his wife's sons and how she takes their side. He said that at times he feels like a stranger in his own home. He comes to work on holidays just to get away from his new family. Think carefully. There is a reason why many men do not date women with kids. The kids will always come first. Unless you are OK with a teenage son, best not to settle. There are a lot of fish in the sea. I never wanted or had kids. I live a life of packing up and moving to another city every few years. I like that I do not have to lock my bathroom door when taking a shower and can walk through the house to my bedroom naked. I also like to just up and go on vacation to lift my spirits or for a change of climate. Also used to having sex whenever and wherever I wanted to in the house. A kid would be a dramatic change for me and there are were plenty of single women out there to date. I did and that is how I ended up with my wife of 45 years instead of a woman I had dated with not one but too kids.
smackie9 Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 Just for s&^%s anf giggles, why not ask her about it. Ask her does she not find it a little odd to be coupley with her kids so much. 1
LivingWaterPlease Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 It's creepy to me, the license plates, photos, all of it. I wouldn't have dared put ILOVESON on my license plate as he'd have had me get it changed immediately and expressed in no uncertain terms his embarrassment over it. I dated a guy who had a teenaged daughter and he and the daughter had the same issue as this lady and her son have. It was a pain dealing with it even while just dating and I would never have considered marrying him. 1
elaine567 Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 1. Her License plate of her car is (ILOVEMIKE) The luxury car she drives she got from her divorce and Mike is her son's name What was her husband's name?
Chilli Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 Bit creepy ,too much son son in all that. Some kinda ego thing going on for her too and using her own son for it and probably his friends too. Tell ya one thing if he's a normal healthy young bloke you'd think he would of ripped those plates of her car though too wouldn't you, that'd be way too much motherly love for most guys. 5
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 Bit creepy ,too much son son in all that. Some kinda ego thing going on for her too and using her own son for it and probably his friends too. Tell ya one thing if he's a normal healthy young bloke you'd think he would of ripped those plates of her car though too wouldn't you, that'd be way too much motherly love for most guys. I agree. I have a friend who is kinda like this with her adult daughter. It's obviously not sexual or anything, but the way she gushes, often in all caps, about her daughter is just so weird. She has her on such a pedestal and barely ever mentions her younger son. 2
Popsicle Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 (edited) My ex bf and his mother were like this. It's weird and I didn't like it. I'm glad I'm done with him. Some parents who act like this with their children are damn proud of it (like ex bf mom) and almost do it on purpose. They aren't stopping anytime soon and the codependent children like it too or else they would put an end to it. Edited July 31, 2017 by Popsicle 2
coolheadal Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 I have become familiar with a Hot attractive divorcee, who is single now after 20 years. She happens to be quite hot for late 40's, takes care of herself and has professed to being attracted to men younger than her ( Professed to mutual acquaintances that also introduced us at a party) This single mom and I have met a few times in group settings but I found something strange about her. To me it seems she has this overly close relationship with her adult son (21) who lived with her all his life until he moved away for college, is healthy and otherwise normal Weirdness? 1. Her License plate of her car is (ILOVEMIKE) The luxury car she drives she got from her divorce and Mike is her son's name 2. Her facebook profile background are of her embracing her son and indeed most of all her pictures on her profile are of her warmly embracing her adult son or of herself alone. 3. Her messenger system ( whatsapp) profile picture is of her and her son again 4. His Research assistant picture is of him and his mom together at a party she showed his profile when she was gloating about him at a party.... ~~~~~~~~~ I love my parents too and have a close relationship and I hug my mom but the way she hugs up on him and takes pictures with him looks just too creepy, unnaturally close like the way i would embrace my gf when we took pictures We are of the same background as well, and I haven't seen that before so I don't know what the deal is as far as I know she has dated casually since Here is a google example of what her facebook profile looks like https://www.google.com/search?q=couple+embracing&rlz=1C1CHFX_enUS655US655&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiFhJmzrLLVAhUC7IMKHWf1CYEQ_AUICigB&biw=1366&bih=638#imgrc=_2yfkyraILJrlM: I kid you not IS this creepy for a mom/grown healthy adult son relationship or am I being sensitive? Listen my friend we men put up with a a lot crap from woman, but this one takes all of that to the extreme. She's very close with her son, you can't stop it and you shouldn't even think for one minute to change her. That's the way she wants to live her life with her son. Seems like the only meaning of her life is her only son. I am surprise he managed to move out! LOL You can stay in that if you want, I wouldn't because you will always comes in 3rd place in her heart. 1. Son 2. Her 3. You I don't know about the Ex-husband of 20 years, if she close to him then you would No. 4 on the list then. Face it this woman is so into her son she has the plate on the car which reads it. This is not as weird and creepy as you think. A lot of this goes on today! I had a few woman with sons that were really into the son so much. Even 5 year mom was 47 that child was her dream child
thefooloftheyear Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 I'm crazy about my daughter........but not that crazy..... I've run into some of these...My guess is she is just another 40 something woman that thinks she's back in the old days now and feels she identifies with her son and his type.... Good luck with that deal...She'll wake up one day, take a look in the mirror at her sagging tits and wrinkles, and probably realize how stupid it is..one can hope, anyway... TFY 1
jay1983 Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 His might be one of those things where mom's been sexually intimate with her son. I
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