kgal Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 I'm so frustrated.... I have so many things goin thru my head, it's hard to sleep. One major reason is that I am wayyyy over here and he is over there... so we basically don't talk on the phone b'cuz my phone isn't running at the moment. I didn't get back to where he was as planned, cuz my funds were limited.. I am just so mad that I can't be there right now. It's driving me crazy!!!!!!! I flip out at stuff like.. if he goes a day w/out talking to me... I get all bothered. I feel pretty insecure.. this distance helps by no means. Grrrrr!
Mr.positive Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 Use this as an oppertunity to work on yourself. So you can get over the issue.
Ellie Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 I hate long distance relationships, Ive been in one for 4 years and he barely calls me... I get so annoyed and angry I want to dump him at times. Its hard though cuz we are engaged. The worst is when I call him and he doesnt answer. I should just blow up!! My phone bill is crazy expensive, and I'm broke. Yet I still manage to call him. He always has a billion excuses as to why he doesnt call, like he tried but it wont go thru. If I had any advice for anyone... it would be to steer away from LD relationships. I would but I'm in it too deep.. once your inlove its hard to let it all go, esp since you try so hard to keep it going.
Author kgal Posted August 17, 2005 Author Posted August 17, 2005 I know what you mean, Ellie.. I feel like I am into this 'ship too much to just give up on it. I hate thinking of us not talking or being "something" someday... once we can get things going, like our jobs... I'm sure we will find a way to get our acts together. Hope things get better for your relationship!!
sinkerswim Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 I know how you feel Kgal..I really do. I HATE being so far away from my man. I hate going a day without talking to him. I get very insecure and I shouldnt. He never makes me feel insecure. But Im one of those people who need constant reassurance. I gotta stop that or it will drive him crazy. Anyway...I know how you feel.
TnT Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 WOW, I thought i was the only one feeling insecure being in a LDR. I know how u all feel about this, and i honestly thought i was being an idiot about feeling insecure till i read these posts. Why do we feel this way? the men we love, love us for a reason... and i think sometimes its hard for us to understand this. U know one thing i have found is that when u dont call them for a while, they start wondering why u havent called, and then call u. When u call them all the time and wonder why they are not answering, thats when the mind starts to wonder. So, with this in mind, i have tried to not call him as much, which seems to be a good thing, as hard as it is, cos he calls me and asks what i have been doing etc etc. Hmm, this is a hard one u know.... i think the more occupied u r, the less time u have to think about why they dont answer calls etc etc. Hope this helps...
Author kgal Posted August 22, 2005 Author Posted August 22, 2005 LOL.... YES! I believe that when you do stop calling all the time.. they wonder why you haven't.. and call you! I know sometimes I am calling or talking to him too much... so I've tried playing it cool. I have to trust him and go about my day. It is hard to be far away and not miss that person!! I can't wait til I see him again.
sinkerswim Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 I totally know what you guys mean.. I hate to be that way... like, not calling because you think you call TOO much.. But you are right, it makes them wonder what WE are up to. Gosh..I miss him sooo much... last time I saw him was July 17th.. I know that wasnt TOO long ago.. but still. Right now there is no definate plans on when he is coming here next.. I think thats whats totally bothering me. We always have a set date. But things are tough with money right now for him, so hes holding off for a bit. My friend told me the other night that I should remain the person I was when I met him. Like dont get too clingy, dont lose your identity. I guess shes right. She said.. he fell in love with you for a reason. *sigh* I love him soo much. Does anyone else feel dread sometimes with your LDR's? Like you think, What if he ever ends it.. etc? I get so sad sometimes. I would be devastated and completely heartbroken. We have plans for the future. He came into my life when I least expected it. I truly love him sooo much.
Author kgal Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 I know how you feel sinkerswim... July is the last time we saw one another.. and now I sometimes wonder if he's even thinking of me as much as I think of him! It is a pain when you don't know when you're going to see your sweetie again. I will hopefuly see mine before the holidays!! It's just good to have that time set so you can both look fwd to it.... and it also gives you something to talk about! I understand your bf's sit.. not having enough money to travel is the pits!! IT TOTALLY BUGS ME!! The best thing to do is to just keep it cool and not get too ansy over it. Know that you will see him again.. that will help you!!! I hope I'm not too clingy w/my bf.. sometimes I think he uses excuses to cut off the convo early.. cuz he's sick of me.. haha. I am bein wayyy too paranoid when it comes to that, though. I will tell him, "I'm buggin you again!" but he will be like, "No you aren't!!" So... he's either bein nice or ... lol Oh well... it helps to just be yourself, like your friend said! Afterall..we don't need them to be our only source of happiness!! Am I right!!? ;-) I don't think he would end it... afterall.. it's too easy to just not tell me.. jk. I asked him the other week about if he had another gf.. he said if he did, he wouldn't leave me in the dark.. that he would tell me. He also said he had no intentions on hurting me... anyways, I don't feel he would end things. Good luck w/your beau sinker!!
Frontvauxhall Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 God you sound like me.....I am in a long distant relationship and what you said was just like me.....I feel insecure as well....
Author kgal Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 Isn't it amazing, the emotions we women put ourselves through when our "guy" is so far out there? Who knows.. he might be havin a beer, watching football.. and you are in your room dreaming of him! Ha..makes me laugh!! I just want to take things as they come, I've stressed way too much over it all.
TnT Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 Funny as u two say the last time u saw ur men was in july... thats the last time i saw my man to. But since then, i have broken up with him, which only lasted 3 days cos i knew i made the wrong decision. I think it was the distance more than anything that made me so angry and whatever. But yeah, i will be going over in about 3 weeks, i am so happy, but after that, who knows when i am going to c him next. Damn these things are so hard.
Author kgal Posted September 7, 2005 Author Posted September 7, 2005 I feel like I would love him no matter what he did, isn't that absurd! I just can't help it, though. I guess that's when you know you're really in love, is when you can love them.. wanting the best for them ... wanting them to be happy. I guess it's just so hard w/LDR's. but you have to be strong and be there for each other. It's not so hard sometimes but when I don't hear from him, I start to get all buggy.
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