contel3 Posted July 30, 2017 Posted July 30, 2017 I feel kinda silly just typing out the title of this thread but this is something I was genuinely wondering about. I read somewhere that for men to feel happy in a relationship, they need to feel admired by their girlfriend/wife. As it seems, this is something pretty inconsequential for women, but crucial for men. I've noticed most of my boyfriends have liked being admired (who doesn't really). Especially for things like their intelligence, their achievements at work or overall success. I've also noticed that most guys really like feeling a bit superior to you, in the sense that if you need their help for something they really enjoy teaching you how to do stuff. Or help you with physically taxing stuff. Now this is something that really doesn't come naturally to me. I don't really like asking for help (it makes me feel like an idiot) and I am really bad at complimenting people (even if I mean it). For the guys out there, what are the things that make you feel admired, or to be a bit old-fashioned, what makes you feel like a real man?
fred123 Posted July 30, 2017 Posted July 30, 2017 I feel kinda silly just typing out the title of this thread but this is something I was genuinely wondering about. I read somewhere that for men to feel happy in a relationship, they need to feel admired by their girlfriend/wife. As it seems, this is something pretty inconsequential for women, but crucial for men. I've noticed most of my boyfriends have liked being admired (who doesn't really). Especially for things like their intelligence, their achievements at work or overall success. I've also noticed that most guys really like feeling a bit superior to you, in the sense that if you need their help for something they really enjoy teaching you how to do stuff. Or help you with physically taxing stuff. Now this is something that really doesn't come naturally to me. I don't really like asking for help (it makes me feel like an idiot) and I am really bad at complimenting people (even if I mean it). For the guys out there, what are the things that make you feel admired, or to be a bit old-fashioned, what makes you feel like a real man? Yh one thing that would make me feel admired is if i had a girlfriend she would tell people she had a boyfriend and not say things like " i dont want people to ask questions if they see us together". That would make me feel special and human
preraph Posted July 30, 2017 Posted July 30, 2017 I think among all the things I did wrong in relationships, making a guy feel good about himself was the one thing I did right and why I had so many males around when I was younger. I was like Susan Sarandon in "Bull Durham," except about music or art or whatever their dream was. I would really support them and encourage them and even market them in my own small way. Guys may like to be told "You're handsome." I don't know because I've never done it. But I do know they like that you notice the details of whatever their heart's endeavor is and compliment them on it, or even give constructive criticism if it's warranted. It shows you're seeing them and appreciating what they feel is the best part of them instead of wanting them to be something else or just not valuing what they are doing. Women want the same thing, really, to be noticed and appreciated for things other than how they look, what they've accomplished, etc.
MonkeyLogic Posted July 30, 2017 Posted July 30, 2017 1. Date a man you admire. 2. Let him know why you admire him. Problem solved! 5
basil67 Posted July 30, 2017 Posted July 30, 2017 I agree with MonkeyLogic. If you are with someone you admire, your feelings should naturally show through. 2
rushed Posted July 30, 2017 Posted July 30, 2017 Last night my guy and I were hanging out on the couch. He was on his laptop, I was on my phone, and he had some science show about dark matter on tv. I wasn't really paying attention to the tv, but they had said the word WIMPs a few times, which I thought was funny, so I asked my boyfriend, "Did they say WIMPs? Is that an acronym for something?" He told me what it was and what it stood for, and then also told me something about MACHOs, and what that stood for. I looked at him dead serious and said, "You are sexy as f***." (Intelligence makes me go weak in the knees.) From his expression, I could tell he really liked my compliment. Any compliment you give has got to be sincere, though. That's the key. 1
rightondude Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 I agree, be sincere, but if he brings you to orgasm, let him know it was GOOD. Tell him what he did that you liked specifically. That would make my head swim.
SammySammy Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 I don't remember needing to be admired. Appreciated, yes. But, not admired. 1
anduina Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 Females are complimented about their looks and males, complimented on their accomplishments or intelligence. If you really want to pleasantly surprise him, compliment him on his looks. You might be surprised how many males appreciate it since those are rare compliments from females. 1
GemmaUK Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 This is easy! Admired or appreciated is easy. Unless there is nothing to admire or appreciate. That's when it becomes tricky.
caveman621 Posted July 31, 2017 Posted July 31, 2017 I think everyone likes to be complimented. We won't say it, but we like it. For me, it's more don't compare me unfavorably to a past relationship. Maybe I'm a bit insecure, but it bugs me. My fiance tells me I am the most wonderful everything! But, one thing I am not, is handy. She had a prior LTR (note we are both in our 50s) with an electrician. I am not handy. So sometimes she'll innocently say how handy he was and talk about how much work he did on her house in her old city, etc. And I'll be thinking, "Oh, well wasn't he just wonderful!" Only one time, when we were house hunting and saw a house that needs a lot of work so she brought him up a couple of times, did I say, "You know, can I stop hearing about how great XXXXX was for a while?"
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