Feel so miserable the day after every date!!

[lepca]

Been seeing a girl for about 3 months and we always have an awesome time! But the day after every date I feel so miserable and depressed because it'll be 7 days before we can hang out again because we both live with parents. I'm also paranoid she's gong to reject me the next time we hangout and I can sense she's becoming frustrated due to the lack of sex. We like to kiss loads and touch loads and we both really want it but when i suggest a hotel she doesn't sound keen on it!!

I wish I had my own place so I could invite her round a few times a week.

How long before she meets a dude a with his own place!

[rightondude]

what does she say when you propose the hotel? how old are you two exactly?

[lepca]

what does she say when you propose the hotel? how old are you two exactly?

 

We're both mid 20s. She always says something like let me think about it.

[d0nnivain]

You think she's going to leave you for someone with his own place so she can have sex with him. In light of the fact that she enjoys making out with you but doesn't seem too keen on getting a hotel, I suspect that she doesn't want to have sex with you or anybody else. She's happy to go to a certain point physically -- kissing & touching -- but no farther.

 

What does living with your parents have to do with only seeing each other once per week? Why can't you go out more than that?

 

Try to find some solace & hope in the idea that she is seeing you & enjoying your time together. Focus on what you have not what you perceive you are lacking.

[Erik30]

Suggest going on a trip with her. I'm sure most girls don't want to go to a hotel just to have sex...

[rightondude]

so I'm assuming it's for economic reasons why you're still at home ... any chance you have enough cash to plan a getaway somewhere for a weekend? that'd be a little classier than "hey I got a hotel room" ... but actually, I'd say go ahead and put together a full plan (even if it's just reserving a room) and saying, "I've got a hotel room" rather than "do you want me to get a hotel room?" The former will put less of the decision on her hands.

 

Please also work towards getting your own place (if at all possible) just as enthusiastically as trying to sex this girl.

[lepca]

You think she's going to leave you for someone with his own place so she can have sex with him. In light of the fact that she enjoys making out with you but doesn't seem too keen on getting a hotel, I suspect that she doesn't want to have sex with you or anybody else. She's happy to go to a certain point physically -- kissing & touching -- but no farther.

 

What does living with your parents have to do with only seeing each other once per week? Why can't you go out more than that?

 

Try to find some solace & hope in the idea that she is seeing you & enjoying your time together. Focus on what you have not what you perceive you are lacking.

 

We are very physical and she whispered into my ear one that she was horny so I think she wants sex but in the right environment rather than some hotel!

[lepca]

I'm going to look at getting a flat ASAP!

[d0nnivain]

Maybe. But a woman who wants sex as badly as you think she does would be open to a hotel, even one that charged by the hour.

 

I think she's saying what she thinks you want to hear knowing she doesn't have to go through with it as long as she keeps saying no to the hotel because there is no other place.

 

I'm not saying that she's not into you. I am saying she may not want sex as badly as you think she does.

 

I agree with the other posters who think taking her on a romantic trip might be the right solution. If money is an issue, use a discount site like hotwire or try airbnb

[lepca]

The sex stuff doesn't worry me too much cause it'll happen sometime!

 

Dating her is like a drug because we have an amazing time, so much fun, loads of kissing, touching and then we say goodbye at the end of night and it's over for a week and come down is so bad! I wish it could continue on but it can't cause we live with family!

 

She has alot of friends so she can occupy her week well. I don't have very many friends so I spend the week thinking about meeting her again! So sad!

[Els]

so I'm assuming it's for economic reasons why you're still at home ... any chance you have enough cash to plan a getaway somewhere for a weekend? that'd be a little classier than "hey I got a hotel room" ... but actually, I'd say go ahead and put together a full plan (even if it's just reserving a room) and saying, "I've got a hotel room" rather than "do you want me to get a hotel room?" The former will put less of the decision on her hands.

 

I would strongly recommend this - and yes, make a trip out of it, don't just rent a hotel room for a couple of hours! The latter sounds real cheap and almost like prostitution (not saying that was your intention, I'm sure it wasn't, but that's what it would feel like to me if a guy I'd just started seeing told me he'd rented a hotel room for us for 2 hours).

 

This is assuming you have the money to do so and that the living-with-parents situation is temporary, though. If you don't, perhaps it might be better to just focus on getting your finances where they need to be to live independently.

 

Please also work towards getting your own place (if at all possible) just as enthusiastically as trying to sex this girl.

Yupyupyup.