We broke up due to reasons out of our control....any chance we can still reconnect?

[ktragers]

My boyfriend of almost two years had to break off the relationship with me due to his job not tolerating a spouse with many foreign contacts/relatives if we were to live together and get married. It hurt us both so badly and he said a part of his soul died that day and that he will always love me and I'll always be that girl who "got away." He basically panicked when he heard the news and very much overwhelmed about what's going to happen next. I guess on some level he'd always known that there's a possibility that this might happen some day but I was completely shocked, which is why I'm having a very hard time accepting this.

 

Our relationship was perfect and we were on the right track to move forward toward cohabitation and eventually marriage. I was so hopeful that things would work out too. He's also not exactly sociable (pretty much a loner) before he met me and he doesn't have many friends so he always said that I'm the best thing thats ever happened to him. I've basically opened up his world. Some of his older friends out of town noticed the difference in him when they came to visit and everyone around us (even strangers) say we're a cute couple. Things were always really good until the day he suddenly got the news from work that he'd lose his job if he's going to live with me or marry me.

 

My friends wondered why he couldn't just get another job but honestly he doesn't really think that he could. He's been through a period of unemployment once and he applied to so many jobs back then and nothing worked until his current job renewed his contract again. He also loves what he does and is very proud of it. Every now and then he wants to get out of the field but he really doesn't have many skills. School has always been hard on him too, as he says, and he can't seem to just jump into another field so easily. His current job is basically a great safety net for him.

 

We kind of ended things on the condition that we're taking a break and that he'd try to calm down and see if there're other things that we could do to let us stay together while he can also keep his job. However, he hasn't really contacted me at all and I think he's still healing. He was kinda firm when we broke up and it saddened me to see him like that because he used to be so loving toward me. I can't believe we have to give in to this job issue and I think he's torn too.

 

I'm wondering if he'll ever reach out to me again or his mind is basically made up and he's moving on. I'd really like to think that if he really loved me that much and if everything we had really meant so much to him like he always said, he's going to come back to me sooner or later. The whole thing really happened with no warning (unlike some relationships where you basically see that the two people are growing apart), and I'm having such a hard time dealing with life without him in it all of a sudden.