dorkyj2002 Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 I am three years older than my boyfriend, Chris. He is just now entering high school, and I'm entering my last year of high school come Sept. He and I are recklessly in love.... It sounds ridiculous, I know, but it's true. This is the longest relationship (and his first serious relationship) that we've ever had, and we just connect with each other. We just work. He has his life & friends, I have mine, but we're also so involved with all that we do. I've been worrying about something, though. Even though he's not the type to cheat (he can't lie about anything, he has a bit of a guilty conscience), I still worry about how our transitions are going to affect our relationship. I'm worried that he's gonna find some blonde bombshell who's captain of the cheerleading squad and have fun with her. That, and he's also an honor student, which means he spends quite a bit of his time on his schoolwork. And, he wants to join the football team of the high school he's entering. I'm wondering how we're gonna spend time with each other. Whenever I bring up the topic, he tells me, "I'll probably let you go in college... But I don't ever wanna think about that day..." This reply from him relieved some worry for me, and surprised me a bit, too. I'm VERY close to his family, specifically his parents. (I called them Mommy and Daddy before Chris and I were going out Lol :-P) They know their son better than pretty much anyone else. His dad has been more of a father figure to me than my real father, and I'm like their adopted daughter. When I asked his father what to do about this, he said to me, "Jess, you're so wise for your tender age, and so is he. You guys have something special. I doubt very highly that he'd just up and leave you for some girl. You're a very special girl, and that's part of the reason why he loves and cherishes you so much. He loves you alot. Just enjoy it. See what happens." And the impression that I'm getting from his dad that Chris feels more secure in the relationship than I do. I know there's a danger of us dying very bitterly, and this is why I worry about what might happen. I'll let it go if I have to, of course. But, like any relationship, when you have no desire to make it work anymore, is when it dies the worst way. And knowing this confuses the HECK outta me!!! Lol :-P Am I abnormal for thinking about it like this? And if what I'm saying makes any sense, how can we keep our love alive and healthily? Thanks, Jess
NYCmitch25 Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 I didn't read over every detail in your thread but the age thing seems to be quite dramatic. Then again, I can remember being your age and being a fool in love, Stephanie was 4 years younger than me and we started dating after I went off to college. It was amazing that we lasted as long as we did -- I even moved back to my home town (which was a blessing in disguise) to compromise - - be with her AND continue college. In your case you are saying that you are madly in love with an 8th grader (soon to be freshman) who is 3yrs your younger ( in male years like 9 years younger)? If this is the case, you surely do have *some* reason for concern because he has a heck of a lot of maturing to do, he may also want to date other people to really experience it for himself. However, I know of a lot of people who had married their highschool sweet hearts! The only advice that I can think of is to just not be too concerned with things you can't control (such is life) and to also be a bit of a realist about things. I mean, if you are very serious about him, realize that even the best realtionships will be severly strained if you go far away to college. Also, in light of all this, your College career is just about most important thing in your near future (unless of course you planning on becomming a business major jk ).
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