rie39 Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 Hey, I don't know if my recent partner is really insecure or what to make of this situation but it's really gotten to me so I need some help. He had been feeling unsure about exerting efforts into me because of who I chose to be with in the past. My first boyfriend was not very academic or ambitious. My new partner was the opposite, studious and ambitious and high achieving. I think he is insecure because he's not my first boyfriend, so he wants to feel I will give him more than just any guy. He wants to feel that I don't choose a guy just because that guy loves me. That I chose him for more than that. He says to me any guy can love me. When i told him my reasons for being with my ex before him (he asked..), he said those are not good enough reasons and why should he exert efforts for someone who easily chooses anyone. I feel humiliated and rejected but this also doesn't sound right to me. I'm left stressing about my past choices and if I choose guys too easily.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 Tell him your former boyfriend had a bigger cock....that should get him off his high horse pretty quick. This guy sounds like a pretentious jerk. Of COURSE you are good enough. He's the one who is not. 2
fred123 Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 Hey, I don't know if my recent partner is really insecure or what to make of this situation but it's really gotten to me so I need some help. He had been feeling unsure about exerting efforts into me because of who I chose to be with in the past. My first boyfriend was not very academic or ambitious. My new partner was the opposite, studious and ambitious and high achieving. I think he is insecure because he's not my first boyfriend, so he wants to feel I will give him more than just any guy. He wants to feel that I don't choose a guy just because that guy loves me. That I chose him for more than that. He says to me any guy can love me. When i told him my reasons for being with my ex before him (he asked..), he said those are not good enough reasons and why should he exert efforts for someone who easily chooses anyone. I feel humiliated and rejected but this also doesn't sound right to me. I'm left stressing about my past choices and if I choose guys too easily. Yh why should he make effort when you choose guys just so easily when he chooses them really wisely. He thinks ur really special.
d0nnivain Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 Forget what your BF wants. Why do you want to be with such an insecure man who covers his own shortcoming with callousness? 4
central Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 He wants/needs to feel superior. He's not - he's just different. Sometimes different is good, and sometimes it's not. The overall package (no pun intended) is what makes for good compatibility - or not. He does not appear to have good compatibility, because of his own biases and insecurities. 1
smackie9 Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 If he can't accept you for who you are and acknowledge that nobody is perfect and has a past....he's a total dweeb. He's just too perfect to date anyone.....Dump this chump.
stillafool Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 He wants to feel like you were so hard to get that no man could land you but him. That way his value increases. Next him. 1
elaine567 Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 People you are dating should not be humiliating and rejecting you and making you feel miserable and "less than". He is not a good person and if you allow this to continue he will just get worse. By putting you down, he feels better about himself and he will thus do it more and more often. Time to say Adios. You can't even say it was "fun" while it lasted, can you? 2
darkmoon Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 (edited) date somebody less weird, he might get weirder, more head-games please just let him move on Edited July 29, 2017 by darkmoon 2
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