lostconfusedbroken Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Hi guys... Where do i begin. Me and my boyfriend had an incredible relationship. He lived in another country but would fly to me every single weekend without fail as he is a pilot and so routed all of his flights through my country to see me whenever possible. During this time there was no fighting just pure joy for 6 months. He was best friends with my brothers, all of my friends and my parents loved him. There was absolutely nothing that i could say was wrong. He told me he loved me almost immediately and when i asked him if it was true he stood by it and said it every single day thereafter. I then told him i loved him after 4 months and then proceeded to sleep with him on the 5 month mark. After that he became even more obsessed with me and things were perfect. We then went on holiday together and his friends were also there conveniently there at the same time. All who were nice apart from on who wouldn't acknowledge me. On the third day of our 5 day holiday i brought it up to my boyfriend " baby i really am worried your friend doesn't like me etc etc" and my boyfriend was furious. He said i crossed the line but later calmed down and we enjoyed the rest of our night. Later on i asked him in the car to stay at my place which he refused, said he did not want to come in my home or sleep with me and that i immediately get out as he was tired and wanted to sleep. I refused and told him that i didn't want to leave things on such a terrible note but he insisted i leave. The next day he blocked me everywhere apart from WhatsApp and so i messaged him many times asking to sort things out and he ignored all my messages. He then extended his trip to go out with his friends, avoided me, and is having the time of his life. This was on the 25th june. On 14 July it was my birthday and i found out i was pregnant and so i messaged him telling him and he responded with some cruel words, called me a freak and never to message him again. I told him " i need you to go through this with me you are my boyfriend and we've both created this situation" to which he said, " I'm not your boyfriend,". I then said " why did you dump me though i don't understand what I've done" and he then said " i didn't dump you. You messed up, end of. He then blocked me from WhatsApp and over the course of the days after he has erased all my comments and photos from his instagram, deleted me everywhere. Ive now been blocked absolutely everywhere He still follows all my friends and brothers on instagram and i have no idea what do do... Im so worried and depressed and i still have no idea what I've done wrong. PLEASE HELP or give me some sort of explanation please someone.....
Zahara Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 You've done nothing wrong based on what you have posted. You're dealing with someone that sounds very narcissistic. The incredible relationship you had with him in the beginning was a facade, a front that he presented in order to rope you in. The person he is showing you now, is who he truly is. We often focus on the good parts but the bad is the true and realistic nature of this man. Thank your lucky stars you didn't marry him because he sounds like someone who would and may have abused you. I'm sorry you are in such a painful situation. You have to accept the fact that he may/will not take responsibility for your child. So you need to come to terms with that reality. If you are keeping this child, try to keep your health up and focus on creating a stable environment for the both of you.
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