The411 Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 I suppose point 1 makes a lot of sense and is probably what I'm most afraid but. But I also think she knows I'm interested in more than being her friend, but I guess I haven't come outright and said it. I was nervous because we never agreed it would be a date we just sort of went and I know a lot of people don't kiss on the first date, so I didn't want to do something to upset her. Is not kissing on the first date really a deal breaker? Assuming she believed it was a date? I plan to take a step back because I have this out of town trip (5 days away from her and the office), but would it be okay for me to text her late next week, and ask if I could call her to talk as opposed to text? Thinking something along the lines of: Hey! I hope your day is going well, I know you've been quite busy lately, but I was wondering if I could give you a call so we can chat? Never tell a woman you are interested, show her you are interested by touching her, kissing her. Forget about agreeing to a date it's irrelevant. Once you go out with a woman your job as a man is to lead, ask her questions, and escalate physical contact and try to get her to have sex. There is no hard and fast rule, but the issue is that you with her for 6 hours. If you are about to have sex after 6 hours with a girl you aren't being foward enough. Honestly keep your first dates short and you end the date at a high point. Be aggressive and don't apologize for expressing interest like a man. Now that doesn't mean force yourself in her but it does mean initiate by touching her arm, and increasing your touching as long as she's giving you the green light. (Not pulled my away or getting you dirty looks). Again, never ask a woman permission. It shows weakness and unattractiveness. If elect to contact her by text engage in 2 or three texts of banter ask her what her schedule looks like next week/ for the week. If she gives you a day and it works in your schedule then say let's me up at xyz place at xyz time, or you can say I'm heading to this outrageous bar that has this amazing drink (don't oversell this) being your butt down there and we'll have a great time. Again never ask because it gives her a chance to say no. By making a statement let's meet up here you lessen the chance she'll say no and you are doing what all great salespeople do assume the sale. Do not under any circumstance use what you wrong to talk to her. Never tell a girl/woman that you know she has been busy. It suggests third equally bad messages about you. 1. You might be stalker because it makes it seem like you've been keeping tabs on her 2. You don't have a lot going on in your life because you are waiting her to be available. 3. She has greater value than you because she is so busy and you have to "interrupt her", which conveys that you don't think you are worthy of her, and her time is more valuable. Again heed my advice never ask a woman permission. You should be getting angry at yourself as a man for even thinking you need to ask. Di you think that man who are successful with women ask permission? Absolutely not. They just call.
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