vegeta18 Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 So I talked to a girl for a little bit on tinder. We talked very little, and havent really said anything super sexual or anything. She is about 18 or 19 years old and im 23. Yesterday, I was honestly just kind of bored, so I asked her out on a date to the movies. She ended up replying to me way later and said sorry she was sleeping after work and then said she has the house to herself tomorrow and asked if i would like to come over and we could go swimming. I mentioned that I really dont know how to swim although would have been nice to see her in a swimsuit right off the bat, she said just come over and we`ll chill and watch movies instead then. So I`m just kind of wondering how I should approach this? Kind of a random tinder date, and im going to her house i havent been on too many dates in the past. I`m not entirely sure what i should expect, like how do i know if she wants to have sex that night or im hoping we at least cuddle and make out or something. The hard part for me usually seems to be im not sure if this is her first time meeting me, if she will even end up liking me when she meets me in person, when should i try to put my arm around her or something? how do i know when to kiss, when to start making the next move etc, or when i should stop? Since she wanted me to come over to her house that kind of gives me the impression she at least wants to get a little bit intimate.
d0nnivain Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 It's Tinder & she's inviting you over, presumably for sex. Let her lead if you are not sure. Do verify that she is actually over 18. 1
Aquam Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 She likes you enough to invite you over. Just be confident and let her give you the signals. If you make a move the worst she will do is say no. 1
Poutrew Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Dude, I'm smelling jailbait.... just your luck, you'll be chilling out with a very mature 15 year old girl, and her dad barges in. "But your honor, she told me she was 18... you know how some girls look more mature than they really are? What was I supposed to do - ask for her birth certificate?" Just be careful... 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Dude, I'm smelling jailbait.... just your luck, you'll be chilling out with a very mature 15 year old girl, and her dad barges in. "But your honor, she told me she was 18... you know how some girls look more mature than they really are? What was I supposed to do - ask for her birth certificate?" Just be careful... EXACTLY! Be careful with this one. She's "home alone" and has a swimming pool at 18 or 19....she lives with her parents? This has huge red flags waving all over the place!
SevenCity Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 I'd be more concerned it's a 300 lbs. ex-con. Just let some trusted friends know where you are going and check in with them to let them know everything is ok. When I have a sketchy Tinder date I always text my neighbor that if my car isn't there in the morning he is to kick in the door, let my dog out and feed her, and take all the guns he wants as I'm likely dead
The Urbanyst Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Worry less about what she wants and more about what YOU want. Come on dude..
caveman621 Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Just repeating all of the above. I could be wrong (yeah, I've been wrong before), but "I have the house to myself! C'mon over and go swimming!", SOUNDS like she wants sex. Don't assume it. But try to look for signals when you're there. And, yeah, she's "18 or 19", or 15? I'm not sure how to play that if she explicitly says she wants sex. And, yes, PLEASE get enthusiastic consent before you do! Asking for ID seems in bad taste, but better than a couple years in prison!
Lil-Miss-Anthropy Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 In my experience, women are warier than men about going to one's house for a first date. The fact that she'd turn down a movie in favor of chilling at her house is a clear signal that she'd like things to go quite far.
Purepony Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 This sounds like an episode of to catch a predator 2
SevenCity Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 This sounds like an episode of to catch a predator "Have a seat" 1
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