Happines95 Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Is it just me or does it seems that from the moment you moved on and everything is going well in your life your ex popps up in your life again? We broke up in August last year (bad broke up), she blocked me everywhere and the last time we spoke to each other was somewhere in October. Two weeks ago I got an email from her saying that she hopes that everything is okay with me and that she's happy that I look good(I started working out after our break up and gained 30 pounds) and she wishes me all the best. I replied to her mail and the day after i sent it i found out that she had unblocked me on Instagram. In the mail i wrote that the break up was the best decision for the both of us and i asked how things were going in her life right now. Two weeks have passed and of course she hasn't replied and now i feel like a fool for replying.know that I need to stay away from her because it took me a lot of effort to move on from her but why does she do this now after almost 1 year? 1
Marc878 Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Breadcrumb temptation strikes again. Block everything and move on.
SevenCity Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 I swear there is a magical force in the universe that somehow communicates to an ex when you are over them. This causes them to reach out. It all falls under "Too little, too late". If you are really over her you should not feel like a fool. Are you really over her? And good for you for using the breakup to better yourself - and the way in which you responded. She likely felt like a big piece of crap:D 1
Author Happines95 Posted July 28, 2017 Author Posted July 28, 2017 I swear there is a magical force in the universe that somehow communicates to an ex when you are over them. This causes them to reach out. It all falls under "Too little, too late". If you are really over her you should not feel like a fool. Are you really over her? And good for you for using the breakup to better yourself - and the way in which you responded. She likely felt like a big piece of crap:D I am over her, but I feel like a fool for falling for the breadcrumb (as Marc said). I should have ignored the email.
SevenCity Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 I am over her, but I feel like a fool for falling for the breadcrumb (as Marc said). I should have ignored the email. I don't agree. A breadcrumb is only when you are hungry. You were being a cordial well adjusted person responding to someone from your past. Personally I think ignoring it would have sent the message that you were still butt hurt. Instead, your message said "Not being with you has been awesome for me". My money on the lack of response is she feels like an ass because she has no hold on you any longer and any fishing she was doing for potential reconciliation was just shut down. You did good young grasshopper! 8
Author Happines95 Posted July 28, 2017 Author Posted July 28, 2017 I don't agree. A breadcrumb is only when you are hungry. You were being a cordial well adjusted person responding to someone from your past. Personally I think ignoring it would have sent the message that you were still butt hurt. Instead, your message said "Not being with you has been awesome for me". My money on the lack of response is she feels like an ass because she has no hold on you any longer and any fishing she was doing for potential reconciliation was just shut down. You did good young grasshopper! Hahaha thanks
preraph Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Women sometimes think they can be friends after a breakup, just friends. Sometimes that's all they really wanted too. You just have to do what's best for you.
brokenheart415 Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Is it just me or does it seems that from the moment you moved on and everything is going well in your life your ex popps up in your life again? We broke up in August last year (bad broke up), she blocked me everywhere and the last time we spoke to each other was somewhere in October. Two weeks ago I got an email from her saying that she hopes that everything is okay with me and that she's happy that I look good(I started working out after our break up and gained 30 pounds) and she wishes me all the best. I replied to her mail and the day after i sent it i found out that she had unblocked me on Instagram. In the mail i wrote that the break up was the best decision for the both of us and i asked how things were going in her life right now. Two weeks have passed and of course she hasn't replied and now i feel like a fool for replying.know that I need to stay away from her because it took me a lot of effort to move on from her but why does she do this now after almost 1 year? That was a mistake by replying. She just wants some attention and you gave it to her. Her emotions are probably going haywire and had the urge to contact you. But don't worry, you can still catch up again with your no contact record. You have the strength because you already did it before. Keep on working out, it'll make you look and feel better. Don't waste anymore time. The next person is waiting for you, only if you're prepared. Never ever go back or look back. 1
kortz Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Don't feel bad for replying and don't give a damn that she's not replied to you. Ex's pop in and out of your life from time to time, think nothing of it. 2
Maldives Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Is it just me or does it seems that from the moment you moved on and everything is going well in your life your ex popps up in your life again? We broke up in August last year (bad broke up), she blocked me everywhere and the last time we spoke to each other was somewhere in October. Two weeks ago I got an email from her saying that she hopes that everything is okay with me and that she's happy that I look good(I started working out after our break up and gained 30 pounds) and she wishes me all the best. I replied to her mail and the day after i sent it i found out that she had unblocked me on Instagram. In the mail i wrote that the break up was the best decision for the both of us and i asked how things were going in her life right now. Two weeks have passed and of course she hasn't replied and now i feel like a fool for replying.know that I need to stay away from her because it took me a lot of effort to move on from her but why does she do this now after almost 1 year? There's a no. Of reasons 1; they're insecure 2;they're life's crap at the moment 3; the dating pool is empty 4; an ego boost 5;To wrap u round they're finger 6; to play with u 7; to play with ur mind 8; to play with ur heart 9; to play with ur emotions and feelings 10; a fallback 11; your they're safety net 12; to reset your healing 13; they're selfish 14; they don't know what they want 15; they're crazy Feel free to add to the list 3
Zul Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 Trust me, I have had the exact same thing happen. I have been enjoying my life post breakup with her and she can't stand it. She actually is dating one of her ex boyfriends now and tried to rub it into my face. It's just when I thought I was all healed and then she sprung it on me that she is dating him. It never ends with people. You need to completely block and remove her from your life. No matter what you think or feel; it is best or you will never be able to move on. I know it is difficult right now, but with time it will be easier. She's doing it to see if you will follow her like a lost puppy. The best thing to do is to remove your collar, turn around and run... Never look back. 2
breadbin Posted July 30, 2017 Posted July 30, 2017 You said it was a bad break up, and that you're moving on so i'm guessing she did the breaking but correct me if i'm wrong. She will probably always feel a bit of uncertainty if she made the right decision. That's life. We have bad days and our confidence wanes from time to time and this sort of thing happens. Don't read too much into it. It definitely doesn't seem as if she wants to get back together. She is probably trying to make herself feel better by reaching out, knowing you are a nice guy and that you will probably answer her. It's a situation i'm very familiar with.
Author Happines95 Posted August 8, 2017 Author Posted August 8, 2017 You said it was a bad break up, and that you're moving on so i'm guessing she did the breaking but correct me if i'm wrong. She will probably always feel a bit of uncertainty if she made the right decision. That's life. We have bad days and our confidence wanes from time to time and this sort of thing happens. Don't read too much into it. It definitely doesn't seem as if she wants to get back together. She is probably trying to make herself feel better by reaching out, knowing you are a nice guy and that you will probably answer her. It's a situation i'm very familiar with. Yes, She did the breaking a week before we both attented college. She said that she did it for herself and that she wanted to be alone. Apparently she partied a lot during the year and now she has dropped out of college * So maybe that's why she reached out.
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