She wants to tell people before making it facebook official, plus other things?

[amazonrambo]

Hey, so I've met this incredible girl and we've seen each other 10-12 times over the last 5-6 weeks. We click in every way, same interests, but enough differences to learn more about each other, etc.

 

After our date last Friday she asked me where do we stand in my eyes and are we officially together? I jokingly told her to wait until I saw her Monday to find out (my message's tone suggested my answer would be yes) and on Monday I gave her a bear and a card as a graduation gift with it asking if she wanted to be my girlfriend. She smiled and said yes.

 

We had a great date and she told me her best and close friends/parents know about me and really want to meet me. At the end before we kissed, I asked if she was fine with me making it "facebook official" and she said yes.

 

Then as I walked away, two minutes later, she texted me "Just going to say maybe don't make it facebook official just yet as I want to tell people first if that's okay?"

 

I agreed and we carried on as usual, when she got home she ended the texting saying "Right I'm off to bed now so night night boyfriend haha".

 

Yesterday she text asking if I was free to come to her house this Sunday so we could cook or order a takeaway and that she's on her own this weekend and would like some company. I agreed and conversation continued.

 

Could I be right in thinking that she's waiting to see if we're sexually compatible and holding off on making it "facebook official" until then?

 

I know she was in a 6 year relationship with her ex which ended at the end of 2015. I've noticed her ex sometimes pops up in conversation, but only if it relates to what I said. It sometimes pops up once per date. A few dates ago she told me we had spoken on a dating website at the end of 2016 but apparently I stopped talking to her and that she was glad because she was talking to her ex at that point.

 

He's now been in a relationship with a different girl since then so I shouldn't worry about that, they're not friends on FB, but part of me is wondering if it has anything to do with revealing her new relationship status, etc.

 

As long as I'm seeing her and we both see it as a relationship, I'm not bothered about announcing it publically. What I am bothered about is why she doesn't want to right now when she's already mentioned her closest friends/family knowing about me?

 

I'm leaning more to the fact that she has a free house this weekend, possibily testing our sexual compatibility before announcing it on Facebook?

[darkmoon]

why don't you ask her?

 

she is your girlf now, so communicate with her

 

perhaps this weekend she hopes to facebook you two together, and you are over-thinking all this today

Edited July 27, 2017 by darkmoon

[preraph]

I can't imagine it's about seeing if you're sexually compatible. I've never known a woman who would do that. And no telling if she's planning on having sex anyway, but maybe.

 

She probably just doesn't want people to find out via social media and feel like they were the last to know.

[fmfan08]

why don't you ask her?

 

she is your girlf now, so communicate with her

 

perhaps this weekend she hopes to facebook you two together, and you are over-thinking all this today

 

I did ask her on Monday as I saw her to her car, but she did text me after asking to wait until she lets people know.

 

Do you think I should bring it up on Sunday? I don't want to sound annoying like it's a huge deal. I'd like to put it on Facebook but I'd be equally happy if not. Just her reasoning had me wondering is all.

[fmfan08]

I can't imagine it's about seeing if you're sexually compatible. I've never known a woman who would do that. And no telling if she's planning on having sex anyway, but maybe.

 

She probably just doesn't want people to find out via social media and feel like they were the last to know.

 

She seems to take things slow, which is what I really like about her. My last relationship resulted in having sex around date 4, seemed a bit quick for me. If I'm honest, I'm hoping we don't this weekend just so when it happens eventually it's special.

 

I'll just be glad to spend some time with her privately as the closest we've had to that is in the cinema, but that had a few people in there.

 

I'll go with the flow. I like her a lot but I have been hurt in the past. She puts effort into her texts with me and wants to see me so I'm happy with that.

[darkmoon]

I did ask her on Monday as I saw her to her car, but she did text me after asking to wait until she lets people know.

 

Do you think I should bring it up on Sunday? I don't want to sound annoying like it's a huge deal. I'd like to put it on Facebook but I'd be equally happy if not. Just her reasoning had me wondering is all.

 

wait, perhaps she has not told all of her friends yet

 

each tell could take any amount of time, not just quick calls but meetings or visits to schedule

 

you are just getting to know her, and her friends, bring them up, if anything, who are they? when do they get together?

Edited July 27, 2017 by darkmoon

[Robratory]

I asked if she was fine with me making it "facebook official" and she said yes.

 

Don't do that. I mean, why? Log off the internet and go have fun with your girl.

[smackie9]

No no no....it's not what you think...you have such tunnel vision. She wants to tell the people who are closest to her the news in person because IT MEANS SOMETHING TO HER. This is something special...so STFU and let her have her moment.

[guest569]

Don't cause unnecessary drama (again)!