Coolmee Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Hello everyone;i met this guy on tinder and he asked me out on a date later that week so we didn't really get to know each other until the date .So the date went good i think we both liked each other because he told me he wants to build a relationship with me.The problem is that he studies abroad and he comes to our country only during the summer;and he even asked if i want to go join him and continue my studies there which i'm also considering but after about four years.He will also be leaving the country this month and he asked me to go meet up with him before he goes where he lives because we live in different cities knowing that he came to me the first time. but the problem is i can't really go see him where he lives because i have a restricted family i don't think they can approve it .So i don't know what to do here,because i really liked him and i want this to work.ANY ideas?
Zahara Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Maybe I am reading this wrong but after one date you both are planning some sort of future together -- even daydreaming about uprooting yourself in 4 years? After one date? 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Maybe I am reading this wrong but after one date you both are planning some sort of future together -- even daydreaming about uprooting yourself in 4 years? After one date? My thoughts exactly
ExpatInItaly Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Back the truck up...how long have you known this guy?
Author Coolmee Posted July 27, 2017 Author Posted July 27, 2017 Yeah we just met one date,but i think we're both looking for a serious relationship so those were just thoughts
ExpatInItaly Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Yeah we just met one date,but i think we're both looking for a serious relationship so those were just thoughts OP, this is way, way too fast. People who move this quickly are best avoided. Trust me on that!
Author Coolmee Posted July 27, 2017 Author Posted July 27, 2017 OP, this is way, way too fast. People who move this quickly are best avoided. Trust me on that! I agree with you but i dont see How are we moving too fast,it's not like i'm flying next year to live him or anything
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 I agree with you but i dont see How are we moving too fast,it's not like i'm flying next year to live him or anything Because you're basically planning out your entire future with him after just one date. Even in theory, it's a bit crazy. Especially if he only spends a couple of months a year in the same town as you. 1
smackie9 Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Enjoy going out on dates with him casually, and keep looking and dating others. If you expect anything more out of this you are being unrealistic.
kendahke Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Give this 6 months and then start thinking along the lines of your initial post. Planning the future after only one date is called projecting and it's not realistic. Your first goal is to get out from under your domineering family.
Zahara Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 The problem is that he studies abroad and he comes to our country only during the summer You don't even know this guy. Yes, one date won't tell you anything about someone and the worst thing you can do is place your trust in the words of someone you went out with on one date. Aside from that, how do you intend to truly get to know/date him and foster a relationship when he only comes down during the summer months? It's unrealistic.
Redhead14 Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Hello everyone;i met this guy on tinder and he asked me out on a date later that week so we didn't really get to know each other until the date .So the date went good i think we both liked each other because he told me he wants to build a relationship with me.The problem is that he studies abroad and he comes to our country only during the summer;and he even asked if i want to go join him and continue my studies there which i'm also considering but after about four years.He will also be leaving the country this month and he asked me to go meet up with him before he goes where he lives because we live in different cities knowing that he came to me the first time. but the problem is i can't really go see him where he lives because i have a restricted family i don't think they can approve it .So i don't know what to do here,because i really liked him and i want this to work.ANY ideas? Want what to work???? he told me he wants to build a relationship with me -- Did he say he specifically wants that with YOU during the first date? Or, did he just make a statement about his dating goals overall? If he said it was you specifically, there's something wrong here. I always find it a little "suspicious" when a guy wants to start a "relationship" when he's leaving very soon for an extended period of time. Very often, they are setting up a "last hurrah" wherever they are before they leave -- meaning, have a one-night stand and then make their exit no fuss no muss. Or, they keep them on a string so they can come back around when they are in town. There is a song by Ricky Nelson, 1961: I'm a traveling man . . . and in every port I own the heart of at least one lovely girl . . . 3
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