She's out of my league, should I go for it still?

[Versacehottie]

Are Twitter / Instagram habits now used for diagnosing people?

 

I've never logged into or looked at either site / app. Does that make me a sociopath?

 

Well, that would make you cool

 

There is a fair amount that one can gather from reading people's feeds. Even when most people are only presenting the "best" of themselves. I think those that like to people watch can read between the lines. After all, the whole premise of social media is to "show yourself". There are people who choose to be private and not engage or engage in more anonymous ways---and then with the people who do use social media you can figure out to an extent who they are. So using or not using social media is a separate issue and then if you use it, how you do so is another. One can make inferences based on the how's (and who someone is friends with or follows). I'm sure you have more than two friends, right? Well either she doesn't or thinks she is more important than them to follow them back or give likes (that's a thing). If she is just using it for business (modeling) purposes, well then she is either dumb about how instagram works as a business or over-hyping herself and our OP bought it up because she calls herself a model and poses scantily (that's also a thing). The real models on instagram follow back their clients, cross promote, etc.

 

Anyway, I say OP keep moving forward with his interactions with her: i'm diagnosing her as a a lonely, probably insecure person so apart from what it looks like any communication means he has a chance.

[Black Cement]

There is one critically important piece of information here which you did not address. How good looking are YOU?

 

Not having seen any photos of the instagram model, you seem to make it clear she is highly attractive; or at least you find her to be. Therefore, she is "high value" in the dating market.

 

Where do YOU rank in the looks department? Low, middle, above average or exceptionally good looking?

 

Take a look at my "are you very good looking?" thread for a realistic appraisal of where you stand.

 

There's no telling how this particular situation will turn out, but if you start with a realistic assessment and then work your way up in the looks department, you will have more success overall.

 

Hahaha, well to be honest, ppl say I'm attractive. But that's mostly from cougars. On tinder I have 550 matches lol.

[Black Cement]

Well, that would make you cool

 

There is a fair amount that one can gather from reading people's feeds. Even when most people are only presenting the "best" of themselves. I think those that like to people watch can read between the lines. After all, the whole premise of social media is to "show yourself". There are people who choose to be private and not engage or engage in more anonymous ways---and then with the people who do use social media you can figure out to an extent who they are. So using or not using social media is a separate issue and then if you use it, how you do so is another. One can make inferences based on the how's (and who someone is friends with or follows). I'm sure you have more than two friends, right? Well either she doesn't or thinks she is more important than them to follow them back or give likes (that's a thing). If she is just using it for business (modeling) purposes, well then she is either dumb about how instagram works as a business or over-hyping herself and our OP bought it up because she calls herself a model and poses scantily (that's also a thing). The real models on instagram follow back their clients, cross promote, etc.

 

Anyway, I say OP keep moving forward with his interactions with her: i'm diagnosing her as a a lonely, probably insecure person so apart from what it looks like any communication means he has a chance.

 

 

 

She posted pics books on how to love, writes poetry. Maybe you're right.

[Black Cement]

I decided to tell her I've had a crush on her, she said "me?! omg I'm so flattered. I like your pictures btw." I asked her if we can have a photoshoot, but she said she doesn't model anymore. I said ''just for fun?" & she replied "yeah, maybe sometime."

 

I know I didn't follow the rules you guys told me but I had to spice it up. Judging by what she said, do you think I still have a chance or was she letting me down easy??

[Popsicle]

I don't know if she's just being nice, not interested or playing hard to get...

 

What was she supposed to do in your mind?

[rightondude]

I think you gotta shot! Keep it up!!!

[Popsicle]

I hope this girl lives close to you so you can "date her" in person....

[Black Cement]

Well in my mind, i would want her to say "I'd love to!" Her saying maybe can go either way, but I guess she saying that because she doesn't model anymore.

 

I'll try to keep it up, but don't want to bug her.

 

She lives pretty far, but I have free, unlimited travel through work.

[ManOfLove123]

Here's what's going on, been following this girl on Instagram for a couple of years but she doesn't follow me back. She's kinda famous, & I feel like I have no chance. Yet I decided to send her a message and was surprised she answered back. We small talked for a while then I sent a flirty joke and she laughed at it. I stopped talking to her so I don't seem like I'm thirsty. I don't know if she's just being nice, not interested or playing hard to get, but all I know is that I want to date her. What should I do?

 

 

Bro, all you can do is try. If she says no, then she says no.

 

What if she were to say yes?

 

Don't live with the regret of never knowing what could have been, what are you waiting for? Talk to her more and ask her out!

[Black Cement]

Bro, all you can do is try. If she says no, then she says no.

 

What if she were to say yes?

 

Don't live with the regret of never knowing what could have been, what are you waiting for? Talk to her more and ask her out!

 

I kinda did, if you read the whole thread.

[Black Cement]

I would never tell a woman I have a crush on her. Just seems too middle school-esque. Definitely not a good opener, IMO.

 

Do you have a shot? Likely not. You asked her to model for you and she turned you down. You asked again, and she turned you down again. Saying "maybe sometime" is not a yes. If I were you, I would try another angle, if I felt compelled to keep trying at all.

 

It wasn't an opener, that was after weeks of talking. She hasn't modeled in years, I was just trying to convince her to get back in it

[Miss Spider]

Way to go, OP. GJDM!!!

[Black Cement]

Way to go, OP. GJDM!!!

 

Thanks! Hopefully this works out.

[Black Cement]

So after weeks of light conversation and flirting. I just asked her straight up if we could go on a date. Her response was "I'm genuinely flattered, but at the moment, i can't right now. Thanks."

 

I don't know how to take it, am I getting let down easy?

 

She posted a poem about missing someone, is my timing off??

[anna121]

So after weeks of light conversation and flirting. I just asked her straight up if we could go on a date. Her response was "I'm genuinely flattered, but at the moment, i can't right now. Thanks."

 

I don't know how to take it, am I getting let down easy?

 

She posted a poem about missing someone, is my timing off??

 

I would take that as: she doesn't want to date you. Time to move on.

[SevenCity]

So after weeks of light conversation and flirting. I just asked her straight up if we could go on a date. Her response was "I'm genuinely flattered, but at the moment, i can't right now. Thanks."

 

I don't know how to take it, am I getting let down easy?

 

She posted a poem about missing someone, is my timing off??

 

That's a rejection, take it as such.

 

If she wanted to go out with you, you would know it.

 

But good for you for trying! Now you have your answer and can move on without what ifs in your head.

[morrowrd]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You're brave, and that's worth something....girls are attracted to confidence. So she's out of your league, yet....you've tried and she's communicating. At this point, keep communicating, go with the flow, and see what happens. Good for you and your efforts.

[morrowrd]

I probably should have read the updates. Although, my previous post still applies - you put yourself out there, an honest effort to snag a hottie, and it didn't work. How many others out there whine about "never having a girlfriend" and post about their unsuccessfulness. Yet here you are, taking a step of faith.

 

Polish up, and try try again. I'm pretty sure you'll win in the end.

[Black Cement]

I probably should have read the updates. Although, my previous post still applies - you put yourself out there, an honest effort to snag a hottie, and it didn't work. How many others out there whine about "never having a girlfriend" and post about their unsuccessfulness. Yet here you are, taking a step of faith.

 

Polish up, and try try again. I'm pretty sure you'll win in the end.

 

So are you saying, work on myself, then try again later with her?? Or move on?

[morrowrd]

If I were you, I'd drop her before you lose yourself and look like a puppy dog. Hot girls are used to male attention, actually average women are used to male attention for that matter.

 

What I'm saying is you tried, and found out she wasn't interested. Tweak your system (polish up) and be ready for the next opportunity.

[Black Cement]

I've been through this situation before. Girl I was hanging out with said she's not ready to date, needs to focus on school and herself. I really didn't respond and stop showing interest. A couple months later she kept asking if I still liked her but I told her it was to late.

 

With this new girl, I feel she's just focusing on herself. She's insecure about her body and has been in the gym lately. Been posted things about changing her life and being someone new. I feel its just the wrong timing. But I'll talk to other girls in the meantime.

[Versacehottie]

I've been through this situation before. Girl I was hanging out with said she's not ready to date, needs to focus on school and herself. I really didn't respond and stop showing interest. A couple months later she kept asking if I still liked her but I told her it was to late.

 

With this new girl, I feel she's just focusing on herself. She's insecure about her body and has been in the gym lately. Been posted things about changing her life and being someone new. I feel its just the wrong timing. But I'll talk to other girls in the meantime.

 

I'm am wrong--I thought she was the hot instamodel? Which doesn't mean she wouldn't have issues with her body, no matter how close to perfect--but don't make excuses for her absence or not accepting your date invite. It is what it is. Yes, talk to other girls. Maybe she will pop back up, who knows. Goodluck

[Black Cement]

I'm am wrong--I thought she was the hot instamodel? Which doesn't mean she wouldn't have issues with her body, no matter how close to perfect--but don't make excuses for her absence or not accepting your date invite. It is what it is. Yes, talk to other girls. Maybe she will pop back up, who knows. Goodluck

 

Like I said before, she doesn't model anymore. There's a number of things I realized why she can't date right now. I just have to respect her decision and move on to other girls I'm talking with. She's the only one I really want, so I'll just keep her on the back burner.

[knabe]

This girl said no. Take her no and move on to someone else.

[Miss Spider]

Yeah her message means she is not interested. At least you had the courage to ask and you won't have to wonder what if. Maybe she's the only you want now, but that will change