Female Co-worker from hell !!! ****Updated****

[Williamjacob]

The most baffling behaviour out of the two of you is yours.

You don't even seem to like her at all, your name calling and constantly complaining about her but say you want a relationship, a future with her.

 

She is being pretty damn clear she is only interested in sex and cash.

 

Take some responsibility for all this and stop doing this to yourself.

Deal with her at work when required/if required and cut all other contact.

 

We have taken some pictures together when we were out having breakfast and lunch. You know the first think I did for her was to clear off the haze on her car head-lights is something I like doing for myself started with a few prior dates. Women get a kick out of men doing something different for her. She had smiled and such that was on the first breakfast date.

 

Other things are she told her daughter all about me how she had a nice time with me. The daughter even said mom have you her from William? She said no that's why she had called me up again. I have asked her if she had any feelings for me, she said yes, but didn't want to say it to me yet. Odd to say I will never tell a want how I feel or if I feel anything for them. I take her out second or third time. She told me she knows I like her. I told her I never said that her. She said that everyone at work knows. Really how so. By me coming around her always.

 

Anyway she no longer works at our building she gone and traveling to WI state this Tuesday.

 

Yes I know she's into Sex and Money I told her that on the phone but i word it differently and she said no I told you William I am not really into gambling that much I would love to go other places with you and do more things together. Oh yes she has told me what and what she has never done before. I told her I would drive her up to Coco Beach, I would take her to Western Florida, I know places take care. But too late for that now. I think her feelings are clouded by the fact that her sister is dying of cancer. She can't feel anything but pain for her now. That's why she's going back home to WI. Did you know she wanted me to take her home, drive her there. I can't I have to work, I don't get pay time off yet for that length of time until next month. My company recycles the pay time off hours each year we start at June and end of June the following year. Or we get the money paid back on our pay checks. Not bad right..

 

I don't about her feelings about me and everything else. I had told her were done I even text her we're done, and yet she calls me up to say sweet things. I never gave her money I won't do it until I know were into each other 100% it has go be a good reason for that money. She told me to buy her large screen HDTV. She always wanted one, but not now. I say why because in my house have have so many and it's just me here! LOL

 

Just lets see what happen in the next couple of days..

I text the daughter to see where her mom was she said she gone to bed she was tired from work today. I know that's what she told me too. Still and the daughter was out with her daughter back to school shopping. At 8:30 pm most people shop way upto 11 pm her because is so hot outside here. I had left some text messages to the mom.It's up to her to contact me today, Monday I have off also. I am not calling, but she's the type of woman that a man should call the woman. Yeah, yeah.. I do not leave voice messages. I might just text my message instead.

 

Today she goes to the flea market with her guy friend she goes to sell things she has invited me once but I wasn't interested. She could sell some of my family things but I not doing it. Guy suppose to have stand or spot to sell her good and such. She makes money. All the money goes to her trip to WI.

 

I don't know but I think me and all of you here are taking this the wrong way but time can only tell. She wants me to come to her WI next month when I have my PTO (pay time off) I still not sure if I would do that because might be pushing things and that is the time she should be with her sister whose dying of cancer. She also have 75 year old mom too. Her life will get complicated when the sister dies and the 75 year old mom will be on her own. I will not live in WI state. I like where I am. She might move in with me. I don't know or do I have those answer yet. You might say it's wishful thinking ahead sure it is. I told her I do not care to be stringed along either..

 

She was suppose to spend the day and night with me and it never happen this is the second time this has happen. She's crying always about her sister in so much pain. I just chalk this up as something we can't explain. To bad I'll never know how she feels or feels. I can't feel for anybody right now. Why should I?

 

Don't get me wrong I feel sorry for what she going through her sister cancer. I too had a family member who died the same way. It's sad and rough when it's your own family member. That's her only sister that she has. So you know that going to be a tough one. Did I mention to you all she had send me a picture of her and her sister currently. So you can see the sister is in heavy pain from the cancer.

 

Just time will only tell what's going to happen next. I have my hands up in the air! On this one.

Edited August 6, 2017 by Williamjacob

[GemmaUK]

I don't understand what help it is you are looking for here on the forum.

 

You do have a choice and you can stop this farce but it seems you don't want to.

 

You complain about her and name call her and you more than anyone is dragging her daughter into this scenario as well by contacting her also.

 

What help do you want out of us here on the forum exactly?

Do you want a place to moan about her and name call her?

Do you want help with how to manipulate or control her somehow into being a different person so that she fits what you want in a relationship?

[Williamjacob]

I don't understand what help it is you are looking for here on the forum.

 

You do have a choice and you can stop this farce but it seems you don't want to.

 

You complain about her and name call her and you more than anyone is dragging her daughter into this scenario as well by contacting her also.

 

What help do you want out of us here on the forum exactly?

Do you want a place to moan about her and name call her?

Do you want help with how to manipulate or control her somehow into being a different person so that she fits what you want in a relationship?

 

I came here for help. As I had taken her out about 7 times, find out more about her. I really didn't have much to go by at work we have no time to socialize. She seem different at work now not so bitchy.. I do not have experience with this type of woman. That's why I am here. I told you everything that has happen from the first day to the last. What is the best way to deal with this situation.

 

Yes now I see she's more into sex, she likes to gamble, her feeling are unclear now, I feel too but this is a lot different than I am use too. I always have the woman I am with or dating in my own car not this way she's doing. Following me around. Just not right. She has been married once and so have I we both share in that she has kids only 2 I don't. She's a grandma of 4 grand kids, again I don't have kids so no grand kids. We both work for the same company she sill work for them in WI she might come back. Could this be a love connection you tell me. I still confused to all of this. I use all your suggestions here.

 

Why does life have to be so complex and why can't others understand not everything going to be the same on paper. I would like to see where this goes and where it ends. What happens if someone else has the same issue. Don't tell me your going to turn them away also. My situation is different. I could manage some but not this one.

 

This woman wasn't found a online dating site or met at bar. She came from work. A place I would never bother to ask a fellow co-worker out. She just seem a lot different and we did get along after the first trouble she had with me. I didn't talk to her for a month or two. Once day we both had to work together she seem nicer to me. So the first date was breakfast and here we are now..

 

In this situation what should I do move on or keep trying.. Or let her try to contact me.. I tried to block her but I see she had contacted me still calls me up and such. The oddest part of this all she doesn't hug me when she sees me. I did get one kiss from her when she was in my house.

 

I do not want to control anyone, not me I am more willing to work with them. She shouldn't try to control me. I not going out of my way to please anyone either.

[GemmaUK]

I came here for help. As I had taken her out about 7 times, find out more about her. I really didn't have much to go by at work we have no time to socialize. She seem different at work now not so bitchy.. I do not have experience with this type of woman. That's why I am here. I told you everything that has happen from the first day to the last. What is the best way to deal with this situation.

 

Yes now I see she's more into sex, she likes to gamble, her feeling are unclear now, I feel too but this is a lot different than I am use too. I always have the woman I am with or dating in my own car not this way she's doing. Following me around. Just not right. She has been married once and so have I we both share in that she has kids only 2 I don't. She's a grandma of 4 grand kids, again I don't have kids so no grand kids. We both work for the same company she sill work for them in WI she might come back. Could this be a love connection you tell me. I still confused to all of this. I use all your suggestions here.

 

Why does life have to be so complex and why can't others understand not everything going to be the same on paper. I would like to see where this goes and where it ends. What happens if someone else has the same issue. Don't tell me your going to turn them away also. My situation is different. I could manage some but not this one.

 

This woman wasn't found a online dating site or met at bar. She came from work. A place I would never bother to ask a fellow co-worker out. She just seem a lot different and we did get along after the first trouble she had with me. I didn't talk to her for a month or two. Once day we both had to work together she seem nicer to me. So the first date was breakfast and here we are now..

 

In this situation what should I do move on or keep trying.. Or let her try to contact me.. I tried to block her but I see she had contacted me still calls me up and such. The oddest part of this all she doesn't hug me when she sees me. I did get one kiss from her when she was in my house.

 

I do not want to control anyone, not me I am more willing to work with them. She shouldn't try to control me. I not going out of my way to please anyone either.

 

 

In bold is your answer.

 

Good luck.

[Williamjacob]

What help do you want out of us here on the forum exactly?

Do you want a place to moan about her and name call her?

Do you want help with how to manipulate or control her somehow into being a different person so that she fits what you want in a relationship?

 

I see you point, no nothing like that.. Well she leaves Florida for Wisconsin on Tuesday. My point was why she was acting like she did and what was her goal. I am not into a woman like this your right I am not.

 

You all said:

Sex worker

 

 

I said

Skank woman

 

My closest friend said

Ghetto Rat

 

Her daughter I assume is the same way as the mother sum it up for me yesterday.

 

No man can tell them what to do so in others words she and the mom are controllers. Her mom hasn't been really involved with a serious man for 10 years. Red flag. Her first story was she married her high school teacher because she love older guys. I didn't know there was a second guy she was in love with and never married him just had the second daughter with. Both girls raised by the mothers values and ways. Ouch. I am not ready for that life. I see it now.. I am not contacting her I am done thanks to all the help here. I hope next woman won't be so complex either.

 

If a woman your seeing can't be in the same car as you then you have a problem right there.

 

Thanks for showing me the way. I get back to work on Tuesday in away I am glad she is not in my way.. I really don't need other people problems she has some mental problems I should really seen this coming.

 

No-shows were done on purpose. Oh well you win some you loose some. I will not pick up anyone at work ever gain this is not been fun for me.

[Williamjacob]

I got a call just a second ago with a sick woman phone. I know, she gave me the address of the daughter condo I going bring her something up for her cold and I going to have a talk to her. I need to know where things stand. Before she leaves. If I need advice I'll ask.. Thanks for understanding.. Wish me luck.. I going to need it..

[Williamjacob]

I was out with her from 2:30 pm to 11:30 pm. Yes a very long time to find out the truth about things. I had a blast of a time and so did she.. Most of the time we were holding and hands and such. I met her at her daughter condo, even met the daughter who look just like her mom. Wow! I told her, that her mom was in good hands you got nothing to worry about with me with her.

 

Red Flag #1

Things was looking great until she started to smoke weed, something I do not or never did myself. She kept smoking it every time we gong somewhere. Outside the vehicle.

 

That was it the rest of the day she shown me some cool places to eat, swim and have fun. I did the same thing also. At the end we had grab some pizza and had it under the full moon looking over the bay at night. Hold hands an etc..

 

Took her back to her daughters she was so happen with me.. She was talking future plans and such. She had shown me pictures of her mom and etc. It was her mom birthday.

 

That was yesterday today a complete change over. I am little sad what happen today. She had called me but I was still at work. Once I had gone of work I call her to say where you are, she was at the casino! The CASINO! I told her I would meet her later I had to change, shower and dress. Once I got to that same casino I can't stand because of all the smokers I had noticed..

 

Red Flag #2

She smoking like she can't stop smoking (Chain smoker) . I am not a smoker and never had smoked.

 

Red Flag #3

Drinks, beer and mix drinks she know how to drink I see. So much for not drinking. Ask me to buy her a beer! Is she seriously think I would do that no way.

 

Red Flag #4

ATM Withdrawals of large some of money to play one slot machine until she thinks she can hit Jackpot! She put in over $400 and I am sure it's at $500 now since I left her there. I had enough at 2:30 pm I was there since 11:30 am. I know that's crazy she playing one slot saying she was going to hit 1K but she kept pulling out money for that slot. She has all this cash and won't pay for dinner or anything else except what she wants to do with it. I don't see me and her long term at all now..

 

 

I would nuts to continue this.. I thought it was perfect yesterday it was but now forget about it. Gambling is overboard at lease and the rest I can't deal with else. Not fair and she rude and lost it again this time I told her off but she's doesn't hear me.. Must be too drunk to even notice.

 

You all was so on the mark with her behavior, I should have know better than to trust her good faith. Oh for some odd reason she's didn't fly out yet. Told me next week. I wondering if she's really going..

 

Why a woman would be like this is beyond me, I strong man not a weak one, she play her game well. I exit out fast...

[kendahke]

I strong man not a weak one, she play her game well. I exit out fast...

4 1/2 pages of this thread says otherwise.

 

Seems you'd have been done with this chick months ago.

[Williamjacob]

4 1/2 pages of this thread says otherwise.

 

Seems you'd have been done with this chick months ago.

 

No I don't consider myself weak minded as you say, the fact is just that I am lonely.

[Williamjacob]

I thought this was over and done with a few days ago she called and said she was sorry for everything. I such a sucker for this gave in and allowed her back. She no longer works for the company well she has taken leave for now. Plans to work In our WI building. She hasn't left yet for her WI trip. Now she wants me to drive her there. This gets crazier each and every day. What I am suppose to do with her. She's starting to get closer to me on top of that. Calling and texting me a lot more. You all said to run but she's not running away. Plus I don't get why her first child the 36 year old daughter is always calling her mom seeing what we're doing.

 

I did help with this, just getting out of control. She can't show me more of what I need because of her sister condition and she then can't spend the time with me if I do drive up with her to WI State next month I taken off for work for almost 2 weeks. She knows this and wants to be with me on the trip and some there in WI when she can. The entire picture is so unclear. Who's going to foot the bill for trip expense? I am sure not doing that! I told her maybe it's best she flies to WI and have the car you has sent over. What would all of you do in a situation like this forget her for what she is, I want to know would you travel with her or should she just fly on a plane. My close friend said it's a bad idea plus how do you get back and plus is she going to drive back by herself after the 2 months she said she'll be in WI?

 

Today I had helped get ready for her flea market. She was at my house yesterday watch a movie with me she wanted to see. I wanted to go to the movies to see Dark Tower, never got there. Something always comes up with her. I wanted to take her racing cars together at the local arcade park. She sound okay about then she changers her mind and we don't go.

 

110 miles with her and I still don't see what we have done together except watch movie on the couch she always undresses herself for me, she likes to be free she said. At times I enjoy her company and sometimes I looking for more. She can't give that to me because she's not 100% and still thinking about her very ill sister.

 

Meanwhile she still smoking pot not in my house, she won't eat anything if I cook it and she just horny always. This is what I am seeing.

 

1. Money

2. Sex

3. Gambling (Lottery daily routine)

4. Pop Smoking

5. Flea Market Store Front (Sunday)

6. Nosy 36 year old Daughter is always calling more than once.

 

She called a guy who had shown up in late model min-van I guess he's the drug dealer. He drove right passed us both and she did that loud whistle with her two fingers. By this time we're back her her daughters condo. Which by the way I can't go up into yet. So she spends her money on drugs, lottery, but doesn't help pay for things she wants, but I told her you have to buy the things you want I am not buying anything for you. Food yeah but to a point.

 

All I am seeing also is just booty calls no real sex acts she said she's only be close to 4 guys okay. When I was at the storage place she gave me 4 pictures these 4 pictures had her showing off lower half yes nude pictures I guess another time with a guy she was with just her in the picture on the bed. She told me I could have them. I told her why don't you take these and destroy them why to you hang on to these. She said she would get rid of them.

 

Beside all of this I want to see where all this goes. I have nothing to loose no I am not going to loose my shirt or job. She's not there at the job anymore. I did tell her she should move int with me when she gets back to FL. Instead of going for section 8. She worried I would throw her out of my house, why would I do that?

 

Trip for WI is on my mind, so what would you all do go with her to WI or just let her fly there?

 

I had taken her to goodwill she got a nice large tote bag suitcase for $20 bucks and found a game boy advance in it. She paid for this not me.

[Miss Spider]

You really need to stop giving in and messing w this chick. She is trouble

[Sweetfish]

No I don't consider myself weak minded as you say, the fact is just that I am lonely.

 

 

I have identified two things.

 

You have low self esteem and clinging on this women because it gives you some form of self worth.

 

You really enjoy the drama deep down inside... it hurts you..but you enjoy the thrill and excitement as it make you feel alive.

 

Don't take this as an insult...but your 56 but the drama is 5 going on 6.

 

No one on this forum can help you because you want advise that resolves the problem and there is no advise to solve the problem other than leaving her.

[Williamjacob]

You really need to stop giving in and messing w this chick. She is trouble

 

I feel sorry for her and the way she was treated by the other 4 men. She can be her best with me but she made a comment saying she wasn't the type for kiss, love and touch. I had tried something on her and she seem to go with it. For her it's been a long time. I wish she would stop smoking anything including the pot. The daughter tells me to give her mom a chance, shes' been through a lot. I live in better areas where she doesn't with her daughter. I really don't care about that, what I look for is who or what they can be from within. If I see that much I will continue if I feel it's not going anywhere then I'll pull out. I really wanted to take her away this week so she doesn't have to focus on her daughter life and hers. The flea market selling sees to be a part of her routine also. So you think this chick is bad news because of her living lifestyle drugs is bad yes I know I told her to this not good but I can't stop her. I told her you do whatever you want but I have no part of your drug habit.

[Williamjacob]

I have identified two things.

 

You have low self esteem and clinging on this women because it gives you some form of self worth.

 

You really enjoy the drama deep down inside... it hurts you..but you enjoy the thrill and excitement as it make you feel alive.

 

Don't take this as an insult...but your 56 but the drama is 5 going on 6.

 

No one on this forum can help you because you want advise that resolves the problem and there is no advise to solve the problem other than leaving her.

 

You don't know me that well to pre-judge me in my personal behavior. 56 is just a number do I act my age no. I want to feel like I am 20 again. The lady in question is 52 and she doesn't look it either. We both don't look our ages. No wrinkles in plain site yet. LOL. But your observation 5 going on 6 that doesn't make much sense to me. In a business choice I would have to disagree. I will admit to be lonely but otherwise I can live on my own without climbing the walls. 52 year old isn't the best choice but she's bossy, direct and a hustler. In a way I am just like that way too. I give women a chance up to a point. I just ended 1 year with a liar and that didn't end so well. Now I've met my match Drugs smoking it so much is so wrong I told her she can do whatever she pleases just that I have no part of it. No smoking while I drive or you drive. None of it in the house. Those are my rules. If she doesn't like that she can GET THE HELL OUT!

 

Now my question was beside the person she is which would make more sense for her right now flying or me driving her car. I had told her flat out I will not drive my vehicle out of this state. She wanted me to tow her car behind mine. No way!

[GemmaUK]

Now my question was beside the person she is which would make more sense for her right now flying or me driving her car. I had told her flat out I will not drive my vehicle out of this state. She wanted me to tow her car behind mine. No way!

 

You'll do whatever she wants.

You keep saying 'no way' about things and then pretty much going along with things anyway.

It's a sign of weakness - probably because you're lonely.

 

Only you can change anything and the smart thing would be to cut all contact but you are loving the drama so you won't stop.

Hence there is not much point in asking us for help as you're determined to keep continuing with her.

[Williamjacob]

You'll do whatever she wants.

You keep saying 'no way' about things and then pretty much going along with things anyway.

It's a sign of weakness - probably because you're lonely.

 

Only you can change anything and the smart thing would be to cut all contact but you are loving the drama so you won't stop.

Hence there is not much point in asking us for help as you're determined to keep continuing with her.

 

Yes, I do whatever she wants, because that's the way I am to a point though. Sunday not a word from her, I had contacted her but nothing. I sent a text to the daughter to see how she's doing she said her mom was at the flea market. I knew that I didn't even comment on that fact. Later in evening I got a text message from the mom saying she needed me time. That was way before she met me. Okay no problem. I do not like to argue with her she quick temper woman. I just found her on facebook this morning and was looking at her in Jan 2017 photo and comparing it to today with the pot, drinking , smoking. Boy what a huge difference. She's a total wreck now.

 

At 6:35 am she calls me up told me in a whisper she made a mistake to calll me, but she didn't make it she called for a reason. She was crying and she was a wreck on the phone. Her daughter is attacking her while she speaks to me. Daughter said she should tell me something that I don't know. I wonder what that was all about. I know she leaves on 16th in 2 days. She is not coming here to stay with me, so that means she's not really into me or she just want to be with her dying sister with cancer. She asked me if she could donate part of liver to her sister who has stage 4 liver cancer. I really don't want to get mixed up in this drama. Just getting out of hand. I know she'll never be with me and she'll never be back maybe to see her daughter. I wanted to see if she would live with me here at my place I guess she doesn't consider this home for her. I live differently, we don't have drug vans and crime here this is nice area low crime if any. Streets are clean, people are very friendly a place you want to raise family in. Oh well I didn't push my wants on her because she has enough trouble. I share this all with you, because I don't have close family and friends have their own drama as well. I am in a way glad she's going to be with her sister and not with me. I can't cope with the pot smoking and mood swings and her misleading gestures.

[Williamjacob]

Update

I decided to move in with her and give this a go at this. So far we're doing very well despite all the odds. We are both doing well she has given up the pot smoking and other things. I've met the rest of her family. She's gone back to work. I am no longer in her department and I have new manager. I think we'll do go together also.

[Sweetfish]

Update

I decided to move in with her and give this a go at this. So far we're doing very well despite all the odds. We are both doing well she has given up the pot smoking and other things. I've met the rest of her family. She's gone back to work. I am no longer in her department and I have new manager. I think we'll do go together also.

 

 

What ever comes your way you deserve it... everyone warned you here..

[BaileyB]

You decided to move in with her??

 

Well, I should be be surprised because you've ignored your common sense, all the red flags, and all the warnings you have received on this site.

 

Good luck to you - you are going to need it...

[Williamjacob]

You decided to move in with her??

 

Well, I should be be surprised because you've ignored your common sense, all the red flags, and all the warnings you have received on this site.

 

Good luck to you - you are going to need it...

 

She had spend a few nights here with me so, it's worth a shot in the dark! I haven't ignored anything you all said I want to make a go of this why shouldn't I? I seen most of you here have all sorts of relationship as well. Well mine is a bit different than most but still I value my willingness on my part is greater. She has told me she finds me funny she likes a lot about me. Her temperament is concern me but being a strong individual I am sure I can handle that shorting.

 

Thanks for your comments. I will post more at a later time in a different post if need some direction. I am rusty at this, but some WD40 to loosen my nerves! LOL

Edited August 26, 2017 by Williamjacob

[Williamjacob]

A few days ago I had visited with her where she is with her sister who has cancer. I see no difference of her being anything different as she has describe to me. I can't even touch her, can't even kiss her she pushes me away from her. She goes on to say we should be friends first yet we are sleeping partners.

 

I am so confused by her actions, she acts like she's hustling me into doing things yet what do I get out it? Nothing! She's rude, blunt, cold fish nothing I do can make a dent in her mind. The pot smoking is worst now than ever. She takes a hit more than 6 times a day. She stinks of pot! First she tells me she doesn't do it front of her family but that's a lie as well.

 

I've met her mother who loves me to death, her dying sister with cancer in the cancer treatment center told me she finds me as a great man. I only met a few from her family here. I am in hotel suites and she spends the night with me but still nothing happens in the bed if I approach her she said not in the mood. She's always not in the mood. If she's in the mood she just wants to get her off than that's it for sex. What happens to me? Nothing..

 

I was suppose take her back with me to my house for us to live out our lives, she tells me she shouldn't leave her sister right now. I told her then stay then I have to get back to work. I can't stay any longer.

 

I feel this is not going anywhere any time soon. She's not right mentally. I had a few moments with her mother. The mother told me don't let her get under your skin. Then the mother circle her head meaning that her daughter wasn't emotionally stable in the head she's nuts!

 

I do not want a nutty woman, I want someone who can show me love and be affectionate as well. I can't see myself long time with her. I gave this a try because I wanted to know where I would stand in her life. She can't even manage her life how could she do it with us both. It should be a total mess!

 

I met her other daughter her and two kids 10 year old and 1 year old. The one year old is funny got use to me quick. I don't see myself with their grand unless she changes but I don't think she could ever change her life style for any man.

 

This woman would get a grade of F- from me for all what a woman should be like with a man like me. I am 4 years older than her but again I am not perfect. I don't expect her to be perfect either.

 

I really like her I told her so she in her own way has told me the same, but she wants to move slow where I want to move it a long. We're not getting any younger and I would like to enjoy what we could have right now! Why do we have to wait..

 

She had embarrassed me directly in front of her mother just because I had asked the mother how was she when she was growing up? The other one took that as threat and gone after me like mad woman. I wanted to say thanks for your welcome but I have to go. The daughter said why your upset with me you want to leave me. I said no..

 

She keeps telling me she doesn't know me as well as I should know her more. Really how so? Right now I am in my hotel suite typing this out to you all. She's at her daughters apt. That's a total wreck where she lives. I was shocked at the living conditions but I do not prejudge anyone living conditions.

 

I've been very lucky I haven't spend much this time with her with her mother and friends I've ate for free. Even her mother invited us both over and the so call gf had cooked for me.

 

She's always swearing at me, foul mouth, or tells me to shut-up! How rude! I do not need to go down to her level.

 

I am suppose to leave today.. Faced with Hurricane when I get back I going to stay with friends in another state for now. I do not need to be here with her and off beat behavior.

 

Either she doesn't love me, or she can't stand to be with me? She tells me no if she wasn't welling to deal with me she wouldn't be with me. That doesn't make much sense. I think she doesn't know how to deal with me I am not asking for so much but I only want to be appreciated and respected!

[Zahara]

The writing was on the wall when you first posted about this woman. You received good advice but you chose to further get involved with this woman.

 

She has shown you more than once as to her true colors but you chose to ignore. At some point you have to take responsibility for your own behavior and figure out why you settle and why you desperately cling even when they treat you badly.

 

You can point out all her flaws, but you should start looking at yourself as well.

[Williamjacob]

The writing was on the wall when you first posted about this woman. You received good advice but you chose to further get involved with this woman.

 

She has shown you more than once as to her true colors but you chose to ignore. At some point you have to take responsibility for your own behavior and figure out why you settle and why you desperately cling even when they treat you badly.

 

You can point out all her flaws, but you should start looking at yourself as well.

 

 

Sure what you say is true I am not clingy to her. She had asked me to come to WI, so I flown out here to be with her and take her back with me. She had agreed to leave yesterday but now there is a storm. So what! It's my life if I want to go after her I will but she wants the same. She had accused me of lying about coming to her. I did show-up and she was happy. Now I have to leave and she's thinking things over in her mind. I think she would be better off without me and she would be also better off with her own family than to live in my world. I don't do much more than what I had set force. I wanted to come to see how things where really with her here in WI state. I can't see myself living here either, just won't work. I been with her pretty much all day. I had to help her pay her storage bill in cash. I did that because again she hustled me into it. I seeing that now. $40, then she told me she would get an EBT card for $40 plus $15 for $40 bucks. I guess she got that in turn she would get the food for the trip back for us. I wanted fresh food sandwiches. Now all of that didn't happen.. I am not spending anything on her right now.. I am done..

 

I am suppose to see her at 11 am CST after I check out of this hotel. She can't put me up she doesn't have a house. I know her mother doesn't want me to give up on her daughter she will never find another good man like me again. She know the gf knows that much. I feel there are other men calling her up on the cell phone. I made it sure we were 100% committed to each other. She told me in WI we are just friend and when I get back to Florida we are gf and bf. I said hell know no, what gives you the right to change things like that. She doesn't want the family to know we are more than friends she wanted them to know we are co-worker friends. But her mom knows otherwise.

 

I had told her I wanted to see her sister in the hospital before I leave. So that where I am going with her. She would sit in the rental as a cold fish no expression at all. Once of her friends I did met she too like me as well, they where supposedly been drinking all night together.

[Zahara]

Sure what you say is true I am not clingy to her. She had asked me to come to WI, so I flown out here to be with her and take her back with me. She had agreed to leave yesterday but now there is a storm. So what! It's my life if I want to go after her I will but she wants the same. She had accused me of lying about coming to her. I did show-up and she was happy. Now I have to leave and she's thinking things over in her mind. I think she would be better off without me and she would be also better off with her own family than to live in my world. I don't do much more than what I had set force. I wanted to come to see how things where really with her here in WI state. I can't see myself living here either, just won't work. I been with her pretty much all day. I had to help her pay her storage bill in cash. I did that because again she hustled me into it. I seeing that now. $40, then she told me she would get an EBT card for $40 plus $15 for $40 bucks. I guess she got that in turn she would get the food for the trip back for us. I wanted fresh food sandwiches. Now all of that didn't happen.. I am not spending anything on her right now.. I am done..

 

I am suppose to see her at 11 am CST after I check out of this hotel. She can't put me up she doesn't have a house. I know her mother doesn't want me to give up on her daughter she will never find another good man like me again. She know the gf knows that much. I feel there are other men calling her up on the cell phone. I made it sure we were 100% committed to each other. She told me in WI we are just friend and when I get back to Florida we are gf and bf. I said hell know no, what gives you the right to change things like that. She doesn't want the family to know we are more than friends she wanted them to know we are co-worker friends. But her mom knows otherwise.

 

I had told her I wanted to see her sister in the hospital before I leave. So that where I am going with her. She would sit in the rental as a cold fish no expression at all. Once of her friends I did met she too like me as well, they where supposedly been drinking all night together.

 

In most of your posts, you seem to run off on a rant. And you are probably using this forum as a place to vent rather than receive advice.

 

In any case, you should move on from this woman. Block her on your phone and social media. There is nothing more to salvage from this. It would be best to focus on your own behavior.

[Williamjacob]

Everyone has voiced their opinion, sure I am making some wrong choices but it's my life and hers. She tells me to come here to WI. She had told me to come and get her. But when I get here she's making up excuses each day. So I am going to say with friends about 800 miles from her after the hurrcane. She can tell me she wants to come or go. But I am not waiting around here any more.