Female Co-worker from hell !!! ****Updated****

[Williamjacob]

You're 56, she is 51 and you telling her you want to settle down and have kids?

I'm not surprised they laughed and made a joke about it!

 

My mistake, if forget to mention the she told me at age 51 she can still have kids. Doctor told her that everything still looks good for her. So she didn't joke. I was wondering why she didn't' mention that to her daughter. You know Alec Baldwin 59 he married 33 year old woman and had kids with. Frankly if I have to do the same I would in a heartbeat. This woman never got back to me I think the games are going to be busted. I have better things to do than to wait for her to call. I just slept the rest of the day. I have few other women to talk about here on LS this women is not the only one I am speaking too. She's going away Aug 5th I had mention I was going to take a trip she wants me to visit her instead. I as I did mention, I am not doing that. I could take another woman with me instead of her. I don't see this going any where. She's way to unstable for me.

 

There is another woman I am interested in and talking for 1 year now I'll called that thread Jamaican Connection. That one bit hard to tell where I stand. She was just here this year USA only 1 hr away.. More on that story in another post.

[Williamjacob]

So from Saturday to Monday not a word from her after she had called and spoken to me. Looks like she didn't want to cook and wanted to be taken out again. I didn't give in this time. Met her at work she was upset with me. I never said anything to her. Then our manger placed us together again to work. No a word from her. Today she was nice and smiled said good morning. I really didn't say much to her. I asked some of our other team mates what they thought about her. She was over worked and needs to slow down. She's leaving this Saturday and won't be back for a few months. Manager told me. I don't mentioned that we gone out a few times. I just don't say a word. I feel she's out of my league. She smokes I don't and she drinks I really don't. I know she must have another guy around but she said no. I can't believe she has never been to the Cheese Cake Factory. I would be very nervous to take her there. She would cost me arm or leg. There isn't anything romantic with us notice that now. She wants me to come and visit her in WI. I am not going to do that. Why should I. If we are suppose to be just friends. I would never again go through this with anyone at work ever again. Just to weird for me.

[Williamjacob]

Today while I entered the building I had see the female co-working strutting her stuff down the hallways. She had looked hot to me. But I wondered why she gone to all that trouble. I told her you look so pretty today. She had smiled and me When I left work, I was out the local Walmart Store, where I got a cell call from her. The first thing she said was "why haven't I call her back?" She had thought I was mad or upset with her no I wasn't I had told her. I said you said you were going to call me on Saturday and you never did. Of course this gone on way too long so lets just drop that for now.

 

So she then tells me she wants to come over this Saturday after work to be with me and have sex etc. I still trying to figure out where the heck we both stand on the issues. I feel I am lolly land with her. Does she have feeling for me or what. Entire week has gone by no communication just the simple hi, hello good morning at work. She told me everyone knows I am interested in her. How so I said? I haven't told a soul about us being together or some like that?

 

She wants to take care of her man, me, I said really how so? Dress sexy in her torn tight blue jeans. I don't want to get X-Rated her but she's trying to seduce me again, but this time it's the real deal.

 

I told her flat I am not taking her out for any lunch or dinner. I rather just dine in if it was okay with her. She had not problem with that. I see she doesn't want to cook still she might she said. Otherwise I'll do the cooking for the both of us.

 

She also mentioned she was to spend the night as well with me. Oh boy! What shall I do with her, I don't have any answer for her? Do I let you come in and do her worst or just tell her no go away and forget me.

 

I also mention I don't want any booty call, causal sex, hook-up, one-night stand. Just not me, and I seek a real woman to be with instead of all the games I ran into so far from other women I've dated.

 

She then goes on to mention she has dated men in their 70s and 80s! I said what, why she felt the older guy would treat her better than a younger. Another thing she wants to get married one day to me. She wants everything I want also. Including kids, she confirmed it today she can have kids at age 51. I got to see that to believe it!

Edited August 3, 2017 by Williamjacob

[harrybrown]

Is this the same female co-worker from hell that you posted about earlier?

 

If it is, you should run.

 

Do not mess up your job.

[preraph]

She sounds absolutely crazy. I wouldn't trust her not to use it as some way to sue the company or something. She sounds unhinged. Not for finding you attractive, but just the way she's going about things like an old stripper, which is probably what she is.

[RecentChange]

Wow.....

 

I agree, she sounds off her rocker, few cards short of a deck, one fruit loops shy of a bowl.

 

Do you really think a woman who clearly says she wants to come over and bang you, and no, you don't have to worry about a date, oh and by the way she will date really old dudes, guys she isn't attracted to etc....

 

Is someone you would want to wife?

 

You said that casual sex wasn't for you. Why are you even entertaining the thought of peesuing this woman?

[act00]

This is that female coworker from hell from earlier. She's a nutcase and she's only interested in money and I wouldn't even say she's in it for the sex, but she wants to keep you hooked. She's going to cause some serious problems for you at work. You need to keep your distance. Do not entertain doing anything with her.

[Williamjacob]

First off, thank you so much for those replies, to help me figure what to do with this woman? Oh YES she is the woman in question is her. I really at my wits end of worry! I really don't know what to make of all of this. That's why I came here for help! I just spoken to her a few minutes ago on the cell. I think she really needs to talk things over first.

 

A. I want to know how she feels towards me?

B. What does she really want?

C. What long terms plans are there?

D. Can you go exclusive

 

I have so many questions there are to many holes to fill into the doubtful mind of mine that I have about all this. Don't get me wrong, I know it sounds awful what's she saying but what is the main goal of all this. What I get from just talking to her on the phone is she is lonely and wants a man to be with. But we hardly know each other. Dated over 6 dinning out dates and 1 casino date (more like watching her play the slots). My concern I already spend a lot of money on those food dates. I had to put a stop to that! What was I getting out of that, nothing in return.

 

Seducing way she goes about sex is the scary part of all of this. Why come on so strong to a man. I didn't mention you the pictures she wanted me to take of her naked self. I thought that was cheap and rude for me to take of her. I didn't like that. She wanted me to remember her by looking at those naked picture. I didn't want them I had removed them. I guess this is the sort of behavior she's used to with the prior older men. I am her age just 5 years older. I don't see why she would date 75 to 80 year old men. She said she known them for 20 to 30 years and they're dead now. One she kept as a friend she use to live with him. He was always watching her, like he didn't trust her she said.

 

That makes me wonder what she would be like with me. I feel so uneasy about all of this. I rather get to know her first then to just in to have sex her way. She wants "D" and she said like her 36 old daughter got "D" from her guy friend on Saturday she never came home she said. That would explain why I wasn't asked over the daughters condo. My best friend told me not to even bother go over there. I wouldn't know what I was walking into. Maybe nothing, but all of this sounds strange.

 

Why can't she use one car to drive us both around why do we have to use two cars. That is no date if I have to drive on my own she follows me. I never dated any woman like this before. I think it sucks. Woman that pull this usually are bullied or smacked around by their husbands or boyfriend and use their own vehicles. She told me she doesn't want to leave her car behind. I am not putting up with that.

 

I would to get to know her but after the food dates and her bi-polar episodes I worried about what could happen next?

[rightondude]

I would to get to know her but after the food dates and her bi-polar episodes I worried about what could happen next?

 

run boy run like the wind

[mikeylo]

what could happen next?

 

You might get served with a sexual harrasment case at your work place.

 

Take Care

[mortensorchid]

Guy don't do this. I could write a diatribe as to why you shouldn't do this, but I think you already know this. Just don't.

[smackie9]

 

A. I want to know how she feels towards me?

B. What does she really want?

C. What long terms plans are there?

D. Can you go exclusive

 

Is it not obvious what her intentions are? She is just lookin to slam.....that's it NSA. There are no long term "plans", she will get what she wants out of ya until her next adventure arrives. Maybe a new coworker will be her next victim. She ain't got no interest in "exclusivity".

[harrybrown]

hope you run, but if you do not, protect yourself with a VAR.

 

You do not want her saying you raped her.

 

Again, protect your job. Run.

[kendahke]

This is an H.R. "you're going to lose your job" set up scenario if I've ever seen one.

 

I'm shocked a 50-something year old man needs advice on this.

[vanhalenfan]

Run, run, run RUN!!! Don't even pick up her calls. Stay away from this crazy woman. She is a total whack job!

[Bastile]

She's trouble.

 

I like trouble. But not at work.

[preraph]

I guarantee you this woman feel zero for you and is after money. Her whole approach is that of a sex worker so I think she's a retired sex worker who isn't it quite retired

[Williamjacob]

I came here for help in judgement call. I never had any sort of experience with such a mean liar. Yes I read every thing here and I had gone after her after work. I did it a sort of way to see if she is all what you all said she was. Yes she is all what you all said she was. I am not sadden by her, I really didn't feel much of anything for her. I couldn't believe it she said to me how many times in a day you want to have sex with her. OH my lord why would she said that. That's all s on her mind is sex. My friend calls her a Ghetto Rat.

 

This is from Urban dictionary

Ghetto Rat is the term for a girl who lives in the hood and has no other ambitions other than to get pregnant and/or be saved (removed from the hood) by a man

 

But it sure fits her to the tee. How she talks to very vulgar, I know we're adults but still i don't want to hear gutter mouth being spoken always.

 

So some things I wanted to see her reaction I said I wanted to head up to the Outlet Mall and go to the Nike Store to get a new sportwear outfit. She said why should she go she didn't have money. Yes she does, more later. But I said you want lunch she jump for the chance. She never gone to mall or anything else. She did try to go without me. I see she has no intention to go directly with me.

 

Even today she calls me while I was out shopping and yet she wouldn't leave her daughters condo. To hangout with me. I am still feeling her out. I want to see what she would do. So later on she calls me to say she's going out, I said where you going why not you come and meet me half way she agrees. But she never does what she said she would do. So we have here a woman that said one thing and doesn't follow through. In other words doesn't mean what she says.

 

This happen again today. She said she didn't want to drive but yet she still did. She was going to the casino to the on the turnpike she has to drive right pass my exit. She told me she would call me when she got to my exit. Did you know what this woman did she drove pass my exit and drove to the casino instead!! So mean I said her why did you do that she wanted to play some free money on her card. She been there last week also she never came to my house. She has some nerve. She won $90 bucks so she can for her own lunch.

 

We never hug or kiss just nothing. I don't see the point for her to come her tomorrow to stay for what a BOOTY CALL! Hell no!! I am not into this what happen to romance of course I guess she never had such and experience with someone like me.

 

She was suppose to come here after the casino she never shown up another lie. I have had enough and this with her. Tomorrow is her last day at work. She goes to take care of her sister. But to me she wanted me to take time off to drive her to her sister or take her to the airport. I mean why? But again she didn't show-up here. I tried to call her no answer goes to voice mail could be cell phone dead but still no excuse. I told her I don't have time to waste over foolish lies if your going to come here then come here if not so be it!

 

Let this as the last text message and I quote"What you did today was the meanest thing you have ever done since I've been talking to you. You gone to the casino and then you let and rove back to your daughters and you didn't care to come to see me here. The End

[RecentChange]

Have you ever heard the term it takes two to tango?

 

Personally I would have ignored her, but I think you kinda liked the drama

[Williamjacob]

Have you ever heard the term it takes two to tango?

 

Personally I would have ignored her, but I think you kinda liked the drama

 

I had them moved me out her team and her manager. So I am a new department. Today they were cheering her on for the work she did. My mistake is that too her for what is was worth. Her story about herself. But now I see what she's really doing. Yes money is so important to her and nothing else matters. Our head manger I had mention to her I was tying to fix him up. She said today she wanted me to fix her up with him. But I said wait a minute what about us. She said oh forget it I didn't mean anything about it. Forget it. Oh see now I know she was not thinking at all. I don't care not about the drama it was that she was free but I know it was a lie. I am glad she's leaving and hope it's for good!

 

I made a call and going out with my friend she's nice but still I do not need to be with a crazy woman like this female co-worker from hell sums her up just right! I am blocking her on my cell and tomorrow I won't say a word to her. Leave at that. I don't want here at my house, why would she ever come back after the last booty call, or whatever it was..

 

I am smart but and didn't understand her gestures and what or who she really was. Someone to avoid at all cost who's she is really.

[Williamjacob]

This woman lied over the phone and too me. What sort of woman is she. You all have told me things.

 

A. Sex Worker

B. Etc.

 

What a shame, she turned out like this. Today is her last day at work. I was going to help this woman, not with money what I can do for her show her some interesting time. I guess she not into that. Just another sex addict who's addicted to older men. Older than me I see. I never met her daughter and I guess I will never ever will.

 

She's moving back to WI I doubt she'll come back after her sister passes away due too cancer. It's really bad. She always crying when she calls me I perk her up. I can't deal with this and I see no love or nothing in such what we were trying to have.

 

No I was not into drama with her, I was trying to reach out to her. I didn't see the point to continue. Now today he last day to see her at work in a few hours. At work she is know by others has the older woman. I've asked around people who work with her. They say she's okay but she's always rushing working so quick never slowing down. It like she was taking something. This woman told me she always been like this since she was kids.

 

When she came to my house 2 weeks ago she wanted to get to know me see my family and such in pictures. I still confused buy her actions there but I should have talked more about us, but was never given the time to do so. She rushed into changing her clothes she had on. It was all about being sexual and not being really understanding all about sex with her. I never touch in the way she wanted or perform the sex act on her. I didn't feel it was the right way to go and I am so glad I didn't do what most men would do in that situation is to go for it. I found her to aggressive and not reallly the type of woman I would choose to be around. But some of you said she was after money and I should run for the hills. Well I did that and this woman calls me up to say why I didn't call her back. I think I got a basket case her someone who doesn't remember what she said. Or she's just not interested in the moment afterwards.

 

In my case going to the casino was more important to seeing me. And talk things over. Well it's her lost no mine and frankly she things I am into her well how could anyone be into her when she acts with lies and not with truth!

I won't miss here she takes her flight on Monday. She wanted me to take her to the airport. No I'll be a no show..

[Miss Spider]

I see a lot of gambling and a lot of talk and no actual sex going on here but maybe I missed something

[Williamjacob]

Well there was one sex act, it kinda odd one at that. I never knew what she was planning just happen so quickly. She had complain to me she had pain in her legs and back. I have a massage table here and well I was going to give her a deep tissue massage. But she had other plans you know the kind where sex was involved. My fingers works wonders but she was completely nude on my table first butt view and then you know what I was shocked. I don't want to say she was a skank but she sure acting like one.

 

Flip side to all of this I couldn't help myself she said go for it, well I did, lets say the forest was in plain view. So I guess you can say some sex. I think she wanted more but way too soon for me, plus I like to do it another way. That's why she was coming over here today.

 

Today she never shown-up for work the manger had a special feature for her but she was no show. I had asked did she ever come in he said yes. I was so busy running my department I never had the time to leave it to go check on her. By time I could everyone had gone and including her. It wasn't until I got into my car to see there was odd number calling me up. I don't answer numbers I don't have listed in my contacts. Sure enough it was her.

 

Her excuse was that her cell phone got wet, and she couldn't use it. She didn't know my number so she couldn't call me. She said she didn't know where I had lived so she didn't bother to drive over her. All of that could have been avoided if I had gone to the casino to be with her. But the other time I did that was like I felt I was being used. I don't like to waste time and in that place everyone is smoking and I don't care for smokers. Since well all know she smokes that's why she can tolerate the smokers club.

 

Anyway she wants to get a new cell phone today after she wakes up from her nap. Then she'll call me later. I had asked her are you coming over today? Still not sure of what she has install for me. I thought she would come cover yesterday evening I was outside washing the car and getting it ready. I got it into my head to play a joke on her. I don't know why I did but I guess I wanted to see if she would take the bait?

 

I said this, it's a shame you didn't come over I had dinner reservations at exclusive restaurant at the beach side. I had to cancelled everything because you didn't show-up!

 

I wanted to see what would happen if I did that. Not a word until this morning.

[Williamjacob]

I've texted and called her nothing. So I decided to call her 36 year old daughter up same thing nothing. Text her got her to say call me back. So I called and she had spoken to me. I see where the mom is doing. The daughter is doing the exact say way. So men can't tell her what to do, she said she doesn't need a man. I said what about your kids father you mean fathers wow that means both kids have two different set of dads. Ouch.. That's what her mom did too with her two kids now grown. So mom has 2 girls the 2 girls also had 2 kids making the mom grandma. I see all of this going nowhere for me. No hope there is no future plans. I told the daughter I have everything I want except for the missing piece a woman. But the mom raised her 2 girls just like her the same thinking. Get D from the man that's it. You don't need anything else from them. You don't have to live with them either. The daughter was fine iiving with her two kids. I guess the mom did the same.

 

Her mom left a few messages on my cell phone yesterday If I had check I would have know more things. I feel even if I had attempted to take the mom out tonight I won't be to happy with her would be the same garage attitude from the other priors dates. I see she doesn't want to cook me a meal we have to go out still!! She and her daughter at the cell store trying to get the mom another cell. I had offered to go with them but was refused. I guess they don't want a man around as the man would suggest and someone tell them what to do. I just don't get her and wacko daughter also.

 

I told go to your boring casino I am not into that I like to have fun, I don't consider gambling fun.

[GemmaUK]

The most baffling behaviour out of the two of you is yours.

You don't even seem to like her at all, your name calling and constantly complaining about her but say you want a relationship, a future with her.

 

She is being pretty damn clear she is only interested in sex and cash.

 

Take some responsibility for all this and stop doing this to yourself.

Deal with her at work when required/if required and cut all other contact.