lily999 Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 I had this happened to me several times already A guy would ask me if I want to meet up tomorrow, I would say yes. Then the next day, I don't hear from him. And I don't contact him either. Is this type guy playing games or just treats me as a back up plan?
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 I had this happened to me several times already A guy would ask me if I want to meet up tomorrow, I would say yes. Then the next day, I don't hear from him. And I don't contact him either. Is this type guy playing games or just treats me as a back up plan? You've just provided two of the best answers. 1
Miss Spider Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Do you guys actually go on the date?? Maybe they think they don't need to confirm since you're making plans the night before. 1
Author lily999 Posted July 27, 2017 Author Posted July 27, 2017 Do you guys actually go on the date?? Maybe they think they don't need to confirm since you're making plans the night before. No. Since neither of us confirmed the date, so we both flaked on each other.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 No. Since neither of us confirmed the date, so we both flaked on each other. Neither of you were interested enough. 2
Author lily999 Posted July 27, 2017 Author Posted July 27, 2017 Neither of you were interested enough. I think if he initiated the date he should confirm. This guy is like he wasn't interested enough at the beginning, then nearly two months later he came back, but I am no longer that interested. 1
Miss Spider Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 (edited) Yes online dating is filled with flakey men and women. There's this one who asked me for my # and small talked me for a couple exchanges. He didn't ask me on date a so I stopped answering. Like a week later he texts "just thought I'd say hi so you don't forget about me haha" WTF?? Blocked. Don't even try figuring out the minds of these people. I'm at the point from now on if a guy isn't interest enough to ask me on a date within the first 5 back and forths and confirm the date, I'm sorry, but you're blocked. I'd rather be on Xbox and loveshack on a night off than on a interrogation with a strange man so it isn't any loss Edited July 27, 2017 by Cookiesandough 2
Author lily999 Posted July 27, 2017 Author Posted July 27, 2017 Yes online dating is filled with flakey men and women. There's this one who asked me for my # and small talked me for a couple exchanges. He didn't ask me on date a so I stopped answering. Like a week later he texts "just thought I'd say hi so you don't forget about me haha" WTF?? Blocked I'm at the point from now on if a guy isn't interest enough to ask me on a date within the first 5 back and forths and confirm the date, I'm sorry, but you're blocked. I'd rather be on Xbox and loveshack on a night off than on a interrogation with a strange man so it isn't any loss Exactly! Guys I met online are more flaky than the ones I met in real life This guy I mentioned we actually met a few times already, but I wasn't dating him, more like a casual meet up. He flaked on me twice already. Two months ago I thought he seemed like a nice guy, so I initiated contacts and told him my feelings, but he disappeared. Then I moved on and never contacted him again. He even isn't man up enough to cancel the meeting. I won't see him again. 1
joseb Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Yes online dating is filled with flakey men and women. There's this one who asked me for my # and small talked me for a couple exchanges. He didn't ask me on date a so I stopped answering. Like a week later he texts "just thought I'd say hi so you don't forget about me haha" WTF?? Blocked. Don't even try figuring out the minds of these people. I'm at the point from now on if a guy isn't interest enough to ask me on a date within the first 5 back and forths and confirm the date, I'm sorry, but you're blocked. I'd rather be on Xbox and loveshack on a night off than on a interrogation with a strange man so it isn't any loss Lots of women, especially ones fairly new to online dating, will not agree to a date that quickly. Some even act shocked if you ask, and stop contact. So as a guy, it's hard to get it right! My guess is he wasnt getting enough back to think you were interested so backed off to see if you were. 2
angel.eyes Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Like cookiesanddough, I had a very practical approach. Was the guy acting interested? Did he set up a date (specific time, place, activity)? If the answer to these two questions was yes, then I prioritized him. No date and just aimless chit chatting or vague "we should go out sometime," with no concrete follow through? A non-priority in my book. I got around to responding whenever and after a week or ten days, I just didn't bother responding. You can't worry about why every guy you never date does what he does? You'll drive yourself nuts and waste a lot of your time contemplating empty rabbit holes. Focus on guys who ask you out on concrete dates. That's where your time and energy should be spent. I was there to date and find a relationship. My sole focus was on guys who wanted the same things and most importantly, behaved accordingly. Whether these guys you're meeting are behaving this way because they're playing games, have you on the back burner, lost interest, or whatever, the outcome is the same...no date! Keep it moving. Find someone who wants a date with you and puts one on your calendar in a timely manner. 2
angel.eyes Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 Since he has flaked on you a couple of times already, all the more reason to just block him and spend your energy elsewhere. In early dating, people are putting their best foot forward if they're interested. His best foot forward has been to flake twice in the brief time you've been interacting, and then to not follow through on his third suggestion! Just cut him loose.
Author lily999 Posted July 27, 2017 Author Posted July 27, 2017 Since he has flaked on you a couple of times already, all the more reason to just block him and spend your energy elsewhere. In early dating, people are putting their best foot forward if they're interested. His best foot forward has been to flake twice in the brief time you've been interacting, and then to not follow through on his third suggestion! Just cut him loose. This guy is too flaky for me. I wont contact him again. And if he texts me again, I will just tell him I am no longer interested. He is actually out of my mind lately, but he started to get back in the picture then I was wondering why he was doing like that...But he will be out of my mind soon again. 1
Redhead14 Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 I had this happened to me several times already A guy would ask me if I want to meet up tomorrow, I would say yes. Then the next day, I don't hear from him. And I don't contact him either. Is this type guy playing games or just treats me as a back up plan? guy playing games or just treats me as a back up plan? -- Both perhaps. Keep moving. Guys sometimes kinda collect girls' numbers as a little ego boost too sometimes. The way to know that a guy is perhaps at least a little more interested, is when they ask you for a date and it's backed up with specifics -- "Will you go to Xplace, on Xday, at Xtime with me?". Even then, you let them confirm by the night before. If they don't confirm, you make other plans. 1
Robratory Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 No. Since neither of us confirmed the date, so we both flaked on each other. You shouldn't have to confirm a date. It's not like confirming hotel reservations. When you talk about the date, set the time and place right then, and then just show up.
oneinamillion93 Posted July 27, 2017 Posted July 27, 2017 I'm im the same situation but a little bit different since we hangout before once. He would ask me if I free in any days to hangout again together, kinda of making plans yet I never heard from him and tomorrow is the day we're suppose to meet. I initiated the text sometimes and he did too. I don't want to sound like needy or clingy. So tell me guys what do I suppose to do then? We rarely talk after the first time hangout but still keep intouch.
smackie9 Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 There are some people that are all talk and not action...dump and move on. 1
The411 Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 I had this happened to me several times already A guy would ask me if I want to meet up tomorrow, I would say yes. Then the next day, I don't hear from him. And I don't contact him either. Is this type guy playing games or just treats me as a back up plan? Depends. Men of value don't confirm. They set a time and place and expect you to be there. An exception is often made if the date is more than 3 days from when it is set up. They often reach out by flirting with you or teasing you either day before or the day of (at least 4 hours before but typically in the morning).
TheFinalWord Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 Why would a guy set up a date then never confirmed? Because he's disrespectful. Who knows why, but even if we go with "you're a backup" conclusion, which we don't know for sure, its just basic human respect to let someone know if you changed your mind or can't make it. 1
TheFinalWord Posted July 29, 2017 Posted July 29, 2017 Yes online dating is filled with flakey men and women. There's this one who asked me for my # and small talked me for a couple exchanges. He didn't ask me on date a so I stopped answering. Like a week later he texts "just thought I'd say hi so you don't forget about me haha" WTF?? Blocked. Don't even try figuring out the minds of these people. I'm at the point from now on if a guy isn't interest enough to ask me on a date within the first 5 back and forths and confirm the date, I'm sorry, but you're blocked. I'd rather be on Xbox and loveshack on a night off than on a interrogation with a strange man so it isn't any loss LOL that's hilarious. 1
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