Rocko Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Hi All. First Time Poster, Long Time Lurker Just wanted to remind all you other heart-broken individuals out there that each of the threads posted here are different from your own experiences! Although many share similar situations, don't forget that each situation is different and each *possible* outcome can be different! I believe I saw it best in one post.... "Learn to accept fate; Don't set yourself up for a letdown, but don't ever forget." Personally, I tended to read (Psychoanalyze ) other people's relationship woes and attempt to mold my problems to theirs. This just leads to greater anxiety and stress, as you try to analyze if ex-bf/ex-gf did/is doing this/that. Instead, try to learn from their mistakes to help yourself become a better individual. Each experience in life, no matter how painful, always leads to growth and maturity. Just think of this as one step down the path toward the goal. - Rocko
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 They may be different situations but you are talking about men and women in relationships that a lot of times have very predicable or repeatable behavior. So even though they may be different they have for the most part similar remedies to the issues. Tell us your story.......
westernxer Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Doesn't matter if it's a different person in a different city. The patterns are exactly the same. No relationship is so unique to where it breaks from the norm. Exceptions are few and far between. Our emotions are what make things more complicated than they should be, which is why a third eye is always appreciated (unless that third eye is tainted from past experiences).
Opium Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Doesn't matter if it's a different person in a different city. The patterns are exactly the same. No relationship is so unique to where it breaks from the norm. Exceptions are few and far between. Our emotions are what make things more complicated than they should be, which is why a third eye is always appreciated (unless that third eye is tainted from past experiences). True!
Addison Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Just because people tend to repeat common patterns in relationships/break-ups, that doesn't always mean that the outcome is going to be the same though. I have appreciated all of the advice that I have been given on here but I sometimes just want to stand up in front of everyone and scream, "You don't know him!" when it is assumed that he and myself are just like every other couple. Circumstances are different everytime. Sometimes I end up stressing myself out more after reading everyone's negative comments about what I'm going through. Sometimes there is light at the end of the tunnel... and sometimes happily ever after does exist.... Even if it isn't a common, every day occurance.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Originally posted by Addison Just because people tend to repeat common patterns in relationships/break-ups, that doesn't always mean that the outcome is going to be the same though. The outcome is up to you .. The advice given has little to do with the outcome..it has to do with you forming a plan of action that affects the outcome.. Whatever it may be. Posters are not trying to change the outcome they are trying to help you on your way to solving the issue at hand from their experience. Almost all relationships/breakups fit patterns and the solutions to the issues can be found in THOSE PATTERNS When you want to scream that nobody knows him like you.. That is partly denial of the situation and well as your desire to have it your way. but remember that your way didn't work the first time..
westernxer Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Originally posted by Addison Just because people tend to repeat common patterns in relationships/break-ups, that doesn't always mean that the outcome is going to be the same though. No one's talking about the outcome, just the symptoms.
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