fred123 Posted July 26, 2017 Posted July 26, 2017 i like to hear peoples views on this as i am confused. Do you kiss on first date? also when can you hold hands and / or put your arm around the girl you date? after 3 dates is that reasonable? is hand holding more intimate than kissing?
Bastile Posted July 26, 2017 Posted July 26, 2017 Yes, kiss on the first date. I'm not sure what the point is of going on a date, otherwise. If I wanted a hug, I'd go and see my mum - she'd give me free food too. I'm more of an "arm around the shoulders" type. Don't really have a time on that. It usually starts on the first couple of dates. Usually when sitting together. That's quite easy, because I just sit like that anyway. Don't see the big deal. I like a woman that I walk down the street with like that. I'm not interested in frigid people.
smackie9 Posted July 26, 2017 Posted July 26, 2017 Small gestures makes all the difference. When walking out of a resaurant, put your hand on the small of her back as you guide her out. If she leans on you while walking, put your arm around her. if she touches you, smile to acknowledge you like it. Do mirroring (look it up, too much to explain). Flirt with friendly banter/teasing/sarcasm. If you are in a crowd walking through, grab her hand and take the lead, make sure you make eye contact when you do.You have your arm around her and she leans in and looks up at you, move in for a kiss. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 26, 2017 Posted July 26, 2017 You touch in a G rated spot almost immediately, once or twice: you shake hands, you brush her forearm, perhaps nudge her gently with your shoulder, something very subtle. Do not be all over her & stay away from "the good spots". No grabbing her thigh or her breast. When to kiss varies from person to person. The younger you are, the later this will happen (i.e. teenagers don't always kiss on the first date) but in your 20s & beyond you read the signs. This is where it will be difficult for you, fres123, because you seem to miss a lot of these social cues. The big ones include prolonged eye contact, her licking her lips especially if she breaks eye contact to look at your lips then returns to gaze longingly into your eyes. It's silly but watch the first kiss instruction scene from Hitch: https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=first+kiss+scene+from+hitch+&view=detail&mid=8F8D537EE04968525DDC8F8D537EE04968525DDC&FORM=VIRE You lean in. You see if she leans in. If she doesn't, back off. Walking around holding hands is an outward sign that you are both "taken" to the whole world. It's not that it's more intimate then kissing but it's more public, like an announcement. Reaching for her hand across the table & caressing it while waiting for your meal to come is usually a good start & not quite so in your face to the whole rest of the world. 1
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