Riot21 Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 My ex used to lie to me because I had bad reactions to telling to him telling me the truth. But I am starting to think he lies about a lot of things. And I want to trust him again but am worried about his behavior. For example. This summer his lease was up at his apartment and was up for renewal. He found a great deal at another apartment but he would have to pay a higher rent for a few months since he didn't give a sixty day notice. The apartment complex was taken over by a new company in the previous year. He then wrote a handwritten note stating he would move out by like May 7th 2017 and gave it to the leasing office and said the old company must have lost the original copy of this document but thankfully he had made a copy. He got out of his lease with no issues. He was very proud of this when he told me. I know this is very clever and smart of him but should this have me a little worried?
d0nnivain Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 He does sound like somebody who is not above bending the truth. You can't control him but you can control how you react to bad news or at least to info you don't want. You have to remain calm; you can't get overly emotional. He's not the 1st guy to shy away from being forthright with a partner because she shrieks & carries on. That is no excuse & he still owes her the truth but it is understandable. You can't control him. You can only control yourself. Be more rational in your responses & then think long & hard about whether you want to stay with such a "flexible" man.
Zahara Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 Is this the guy from your last thread? If so, seems like he isn't a trustworthy guy all around.
Author Riot21 Posted July 25, 2017 Author Posted July 25, 2017 Zahara it's the same guy he says he lied on the lease because the deal was so good st his new apartment and his current apartment apparently screwed him over in the past. I just don't know what to believe. He says he lied to me because I couldn't take the truth. Because I reacted poorly to it so he lied to protect me so I wouldn't be upset and because I couldn't handle the truth. Even if that truth meant he was unhappy with me but hid that from me to not stir the pot when I constantly was trying to make things work if I was unhappy. I feel ****ty and guilty because I always was trying to voice how I feel but he stayed quiet because he said life is too short to be upset.
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