XNemesisX Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 I was sort of seeing this guy for a while. It's the guy I drove 5 hours to see and then he didn't even call to see if I made it back okay. We have had somewhat of contact for the past month. However, about 2 weeks ago he was supposed to come up and stay with me that weekend (HE asked ME if he could). I said sure, but then he never called nor showed up. Fast forward to the present. He calls me yesterday (had been trying to get a hold of each other for the past week or so). I call him back and when he picks up he doesn't even say "hello" he just hands the phone to his 1 year old kid. I had no idea whats going on, I thought it was a voicemail since he didn't even say hello. He then gets the phone and says "do you not want to talk to A?" I'm like "I thought that was a voicemail" and he hands the phone back to this baby?! I mean, what do you say to a 1 year old - they can't talk! It was awkward. Then he takes the phone back asks me what I'm doing then I ask the big question. I say, "So what happened to you this past month?!" Guess what he does? He HANGS UP ON ME! I guess he didn't feel he owed me an explanation for being rude as hell and asking me if he can come stay wtih me for the weekend then just not calling or showing up. I was PISSED that he hung up on me, but I refused to call him back. It ate at me all day until finally at around 4 am I sent him the following text message: Dunno why you hung up on me. I asked you that jokingly! Sorta hurt my feelings! You're a lil weird/difficult. I felt we maybe would have liked eachother but I give up J, you're impossible!" Guess what? He hasn't called back today. Normally he will call me back right after I send a text message but not this time. What did I do wrong?! Was it wrong of me to ask what happened to him this past month?! What would you think if you got a text message like the one I sent to him?! Ugh.
Skeered Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 I think you did just fine..this guy sounds like a flake..don't worry about him or what you could or shouldn't have done...you didn't do anything wrong that I can tell... Move on...his loss...he sounds like he has some issues with being polite...you don't want that...
alphamale Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 hmmm....sounds like he is playing games....but unfortunately for you XNX these "games" will intensify your desire to have him even more and more. women love to chase guys who play hard-to-get.... as to sending the txt msg...I probably would not have but since you've never met face to face it really doesn't matter.
ConfusedInOC Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 You still did it even after we agreed it was not necessary?!?! Sheeesh.
Author XNemesisX Posted August 8, 2005 Author Posted August 8, 2005 Thank you Skeered. I have been fretting about this for some time now. Wondering what I did wrong...what I should have done different. It just irks me to no end! THIS guy was chasing after me like CRAZY for a LOOONG time and now he acts like the biggest ass on the face of the planet. He ended up being a different guy than what I thought. He's so wishy washy! One minute he hangs up on me or gets mad at me for some unknown reason, the next he is asking to come stay with me for a weekend then not showing up, and then the next second he's back to ignoring me and the cycle continues.....I'm at my wit's end. And you're right...courtesy and politeness are obviously two concepts that he does not comprehend. It makes me so mad!! Originally posted by alphamale hmmm....sounds like he is playing games....but unfortunately for you XNX these "games" will intensify your desire to have him even more and more. women love to chase guys who play hard-to-get.... as to sending the txt msg...I probably would not have but since you've never met face to face it really doesn't matter. Alphamale, I have met with him face to face. I have known him for close to 2 years. Now we are long distance, but not originally. We met at college. I guess I will probably never see him face to face again though....apparently he does not seem to care if he ever talks to me or sees me again. He has always called me back immediately after I send a text message but not this time! Alpha, I'm interested in your opinion a lot. If you had received a text message like the one I sent him, would you think I was desperate or anything like that? I feel humiliated now!! You still did it even after we agreed it was not necessary?!?! Sheeesh. You know how I am, sometimes I just cannot help myself but to say something. I sometimes wear my emotions on my sleeves and I KNOW I have to stop being that way!
Skeered Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 This guy kinda sounds like he might have a personality disorder...just from what you have said this up again down again situation is not normal..and I still wonder why the heck he would hand the phone to his baby...what's up with that...
smile95 Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 Hey X HE just sucks.........do not waste your time figuring him out. I cannot believe you sent that message! lol I know you wanted a reaction from him, but what is he supposed to say really? Look at how many messages I sent a few wks ago only to be ignored. Stop sending them.....with each you send, the more you get disappointed. I know it hurts. You are so much better than this and I know you are a strong woman.
Mary3 Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 He sounds like a dirt bag. I would not waste another minute of your time. NC immediately. This guy is getting off messing with you. Please dont contact him
dann Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 well ill tell you if i recieved a msg like that saying that you give up and i am impossible.. i would likely be upset and call you to see wtf is going on. but thats me.
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