Are my feelings towards this situation with my friend justified even though there was

[chronicsingletitis]

I found out that the girl I'm interested in (a female friend) and vice versa agreed to go out for lunch with another friend of mine, who's also interested in her, and the thing is... I know I shouldn't be upset about it because I leave to go back to uni overseas in two weeks. She also knows this and that there's no real prospect of dating there, but it doesn't sting any less. I have nothing against him personally though. I mean, if they hit it off, good for them, but it still kinda hurts a little considering how much I like her. The timing is just off. I see her again in a week with the group of friends we usually hang out with and I don't know how I should act around her. Does this mean they're dating now and I should just keep my distance? It's kinda difficult to do when she still flirts with me.

[chronicsingletitis]

Oops, the thread title got cut off. It was meant to read "...even though there was no real chance of us dating anyway?"

[Miss Spider]

Did he know you were interested in her?

[smackie9]

They picked each other.....it won't matter if your were staying or if you told her you were interested.

[chronicsingletitis]

They picked each other.....it won't matter if your were staying or if you told her you were interested.

 

She did once express that if I were staying it might've been different.

[chronicsingletitis]

Did he know you were interested in her?

 

Yes. In fact, he was at the same group hangout that we were at, saw us flirting and immediately asked her out the next day.

[smackie9]

Yes. In fact, he was at the same group hangout that we were at, saw us flirting and immediately asked her out the next day.

 

This speaks volumes about not stepping up.

[d0nnivain]

You don't get "dibs" on people. If you liked her, you needed to ask her out at the beginning of summer. Instead you dithered, wrung your hands & did nothing.

 

 

You're also leaving. He's staying. You acknowledge that both you & she don't see an LDR future.

 

 

Go back to your overseas university. Date a co-ed or three. When you return to CA next summer see if she's free.

[chronicsingletitis]

This speaks volumes about not stepping up.

 

Well I didn't see the point initially. But as I spent more time with her the last couple of days I've begun to catch deeper feelings. I get what you mean though.

[kendahke]

Feelings are neither right or wrong--they just are. It's the action that you put to those feelings that take you in those directions.

 

If it stings to you, then that's valid.

 

However, since you're leaving in two weeks and I take it both of them aren't leaving, then while you may think that they at least should wait until you're out of town, the truth is: all three of you are free to pursue whomever you wish whenever you wish. She's not your girlfriend and both you and your boy know this, hence him making the move.

[kendahke]

She did once express that if I were staying it might've been different.

 

Since you're not, no point in dwelling on it.