Bredstyxx Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Hi I've been dating a girl for 8 months now. This is my first serious relationship, and I consider it her first serious one, being that the others only lasted 2-3 months. Things were great and we both envisioned futures together. Recently, she started getting busy with work, schooling, and doing a play as well, and decided not to inform me that in the comming weeks,we basically couldn't spend any time together (even though my birthday was in like two days). After some time, I tried to talk to her about the situation, but she became to busy with other stuff. A week or so later, a previous friend of hers (who was my friend to begin with), told me some stuff that my girlfriend had said about the relationship. She said that she had been "feeling numb around me" and even when my friend insisted on my girlfriend to talk to me about it, she said she was too scarred to. I confronted my girlfriend about what I had learned(which was a mistake, it was her private feelings), and she had a breakdown because her previous friend was telling people her secrets. I left her alone for the next couple of days or so, and then she called me and said she wanted to take a break until the play was over. I reluctantly agreed, and waited a month and a half until the shows were over and tried to contact her, bug she never responded. I see her at church every wensday, and we I'm around her, she acts like nothing has ever happened between us, like she doesn't even know me. I thought then that it was over. Fast forward about a month, and I hear through the grape vine that she regrets letting her circumstances get in the way of the relationship. Later in that month, one of her friends tells me that she's scarred to talk to me, but the friend doesn't know why. I don't know what to do at this point. I wish she would just talk to me so we can squash the petty stuff and move on. I still love her, and I've already put the past behind me and I'm not mad ( which I've already told her), but for some reason she's scarred to talk. I've waited 4 months now for her to tell me what the deal is, and I start my senior year of high school soon. Should I wait longer, try to talk to her again, or just move on?
Author Bredstyxx Posted July 23, 2017 Author Posted July 23, 2017 Sorry the title should say "Should I move on?"
blessedby4 Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 Someone once said that God is in the business of healing hurting and troubled hearts. Since you said you see her at church, you may want to check if there is a high school ministry there. It always helps to find other who are trustworthy that you can share this difficulty with- whether it be with other students in the high school ministry or one of the Pastors at the church. God wants to use your confusion, about what to do, to bring you closer to Him. How? By letting yourself get closer to God, you will become stronger the next time you find yourself in a confusing situation- and as a teenager- you will likely find yourself in many confusing situations throughout your life. [/b][/b] I once read this verse from the Bible and it made so much sense to me it says, Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your heats and minds through Christ Jesus. From Phillipians 4:6-7 So, the verse reminds us to not worry or be anxious about anything...instead pray, that is let God know of what you are going through (He already knows, but wants to hear from you); and when you do that- God's peace, which we may not fully comprehend, will guard your heart from those troubles. Hope this helps.
Author Bredstyxx Posted July 27, 2017 Author Posted July 27, 2017 Thank you, I am apart of the high school ministry at my church, and you've helped me realize that I need to focus on God and not this relationship ship drama. She finally contacted me a few days ago and wanted to be friends, and I've finally made the mental switch to move on from her. I knew God put her in my life to teach me, and now I know that she wasn't the one I was to be with. I treated her like a queen, and was always there for her in her depression and family problems, but i now realize how little she was there for me when things were bad. I'm happy to move on and see what God has in store for me. Thanks again for the help 1
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