Real36 Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 My ex dumped me 6 weeks ago. I've been no contact since that night with only texts about where to drop each other's stuff off. It's been hard but I have been doing well. To help myself move on quickly I've been focusing on myself and it was really working. I went to Europe for 2 weeks, joined some local women's groups, in working out regularly, getting massages, hanging out and going to events, etc. Then I got curious and looked at his FB and there it was....a pic of him and a new girl. They've been seeing each other since a couple weeks after we broke up and now they're official. She's sitting on my spot on the couch cuddled up with his dog. They're hanging out with the same people that we hung out with on the weekends. They're going to the same beer bars and taking selfies. He basically took me out of a slot in his life and put her in. Since I've seen this I have had to start the post break up recovery all over. It hurts so much to be replaced. I know that it's Sunday so they'll go to brunch and then come back to the pool. They'll invite friends over and everyone will drink fancy beer and have a great time before settling down to watch GOT. It hurts so much to sit here by myself while my old life goes on with a new person as the star of the show.
Rko28 Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Sorry to hear that, so soon as well. How long were you together for?
Greenhawk84 Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 That really hurts, I'm sorry this happened so quick and to see his continuation so smoothly it appears. I know they say no contact means do not look at any social media, but sometimes if you see this it helps you understand/process things and move on. It is VERY painful to see your recent ex already with someone, I have been there. I am sure you can find a man who will have a spot just for you on the couch and good company to find adventures with. Take your time, take care of yourself. Anyone who can replace someone so quick is a bit cold. Although I am not sure if you guys had a fallout during your relationship, allowing the disconnect to happen before the breakup so to speak. It doesn't matter now, here is where you are. You got this!
l8estnews Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 I am sorry, you're hurting. The pain will not go away that easily. My unrequited love took 2 years before I got over it. But good news is that it differs to each person. So, as long you maintain No Contact, you'll be good in the long run. Advice: 1.) The feelings of pain started when you looked at his FB. This is the reason why it is important to NEVER EVER EVER look as your Ex's social media. Unfollow all people connected to your ex, and block your ex already. Better yet, if you think you don't need your things that you left with your ex, just let it go. The most important now is your healing. 2.) Now, if you 100% follow my advice, it will help GREATLY in your healing but expect that you will still think about him every minute. No worries, it's perfectly normal. In all abrupt break-ups, there's always a winning and a losing side. You just happened to be on the losing side right now. So, this might sting a bit, but he's completely over you. The fact that he has a "replacement chick" now means that he's no longer into you. Ouch right? Yes, it hurts. So much. But just feel that pain. You have no choice anyway.... BUT... this I promise you. This will make you stronger. This will make you wiser (if you let it), this will make you change your perspective in life, love and relationship. Now: Start the No Contact ASAP!!, look forward to tomorrow, distract yourself with new things, Enjoy Game Of Thrones with some other friends, and one day, I promise you, you'll laugh at yourself for being crazy over such a complete dork haha! 1
Author Real36 Posted July 23, 2017 Author Posted July 23, 2017 We were together 15 mos. she isn't a stranger. She was a member of a hobby group that he and I were in, I've since left. She was engaged. They probably had something going on while we were together, at least talking if not more. She's younger, cuter, thinner, and more interested in his life consuming hobby. I wasn't happy in the relationship either. Now I can work on myself and get ready for the right guy when he finally shows up. It still hurts so much.
Spartakooty Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 We were together 15 mos. she isn't a stranger. She was a member of a hobby group that he and I were in, I've since left. She was engaged. They probably had something going on while we were together, at least talking if not more. She's younger, cuter, thinner, and more interested in his life consuming hobby. I wasn't happy in the relationship either. Now I can work on myself and get ready for the right guy when he finally shows up. It still hurts so much. That's the painfully funny thing about relationships. I wasn't completely happy in mine either...but it still hurts a lot when it ends and they move on seemingly so quickly. The more time you take to work on yourself the more clear it becomes that it likely would not have worked. We all want to be happy. If he's happier with her (at least for the time being) then so be it. And she was engaged? Recently? That little trist might not last either.
moneyspills2 Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 6 weeks after a breakup is too short for your ex to start dating someone else. The relationship your ex is in now is definitely a rebound relationship. I can say without any doubt that the relationship isn't going to last. So, be happy and move on with your life and don't sit around waiting for him to come back.
Blanco Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 6 weeks after a breakup is too short for your ex to start dating someone else. The relationship your ex is in now is definitely a rebound relationship. I can say without any doubt that the relationship isn't going to last. So, be happy and move on with your life and don't sit around waiting for him to come back. You don't know that. Some rebound relationships last for years. I attended a wedding a couple of years ago for two people who started dating within a couple of months of the woman's live-in relationship ending. I dated someone who started dating someone a few weeks later, and they've been together for years. It's true rebound relationships can flame out, but it's not advisable to bank on it happening. 5
stillafool Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 (((HUGS)))! I know it's hard but you had been doing well. I guess you know by now to never check his FB again as it will certainly set you back. Just keep going forward and before you know it a new love will be in your life and you'll be making new memories. 1
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