knight192 Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 I’m soon going home for 2 weeks, which is in another country from where I live. Currently talking to a girl since more than a month: We’ve been on a date one time, we like each other, second date tomorrow. How do I make sure I don’t lose momentum with her while I’m out of the country?
elaine567 Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 As I guess you knew you were going on vacation, the time for upping the momentum was in the past month. Why only the one date? All you can do now, is go on the second date, hope it is a good one, firm up a third date for when you return and try to keep in touch whilst you are away. If she likes you a lot then 2 weeks is nothing as long as you make some effort to keep in touch. If you go MIA for 2 weeks, she may think you are not keen and so lose interest. 1
act00 Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 The only thing you can do is keep in contact during your vacation. If the time zones are really different you may not get any real-time text or call, but maybe you can try to schedule a time to talk on the phone at some point. The main thing is to keep communicating. Two weeks isn't too bad. If you don't communicate with her, she'll consider you to be uninterested. Obviously there's the risk she'll meet someone else, but hopefully with some communication, she'll keep the door open for when you return.
Author knight192 Posted July 23, 2017 Author Posted July 23, 2017 (edited) As I guess you knew you were going on vacation, the time for upping the momentum was in the past month. Why only the one date? Because I had a surgery done and couldn't walk for 2 weeks. Also she is a nurse and can have nightshifts for several days in a row. So far we first met 2 min in the hospital just before my operation. First date 2 weeks later. Then we meant to see again the following week but she cancelled at the last minute because she was busy and tired because of her shifts, (she said). However she rescheduled at the same time (which is the second date coming). We text more or less on a daily basis. So to answer to your question I tried to see her more but didn't get the chance so far. Does it sounds like I am already loosing her interest ? I plan to keep in touch while I am away of course, but to be honest only texts conversations already starts to bored me - I'd like to see her more, but these vacations aren't gonna help now... (time zones are fine) Edited July 23, 2017 by knight192
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Set up some phone dates when she knows what her work schedule is going to be. Stick to them.
d0nnivain Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Stay in touch -- call, text, e-mail, consider sending her a post card. Set up a date for shortly after you get home before you leave. Don't panic. You don't know each other all that well. Perhaps get her a small trinket of under $10 to give to her as a souvenir once you get home. 1
smackie9 Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Stop panicking....if she loses interest it isn't because of you going on vaycay. 1
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