papayagirl Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 So two weeks ago i went on a date with a new guy. It seemed to go really well, we spent like 5 hours having dinner/drinks and just talking. The next day I sent him a text thanking him, saying I had a great time and we should do something again soon. He replied saying he had a great time too, that it was a busy week for him but hopefully we could figure something out. He then teased me about beating me in mini golf on our next date and we bantered for a few texts. We weren't able to meet that week, and then both of us went away. We made plans on Monday for a date Friday (last night), and on Thursday night we said 7 as the time, and i agreed to find a place since he had to go pick up a coworker who had been in an accident in the city. I found a place and sent it to him yesterday, and got back a text saying "So I have two bad pieces of news. The first is I have to cancel on tonight . The bit last night set us back today and I'm not going to be leaving the city till 7. The second and worse piece is im leaving tomorrow for a week for work so I can't reschedule this weekend " I replied saying if he wanted to at least get a drink after to let me know but I would completely understand if not and we could reschedule when he gets back. He replied with Alright I'll let you know but at the rate this week has been going it's unlikely I'll get home with enough time to shower and head out. Thanks for being so understanding though. I was pretty bummed when I realized this weekend probably wouldn't work out" I feel like someone wouldn't make up this detailed of an excuse if they didn't want to see me, and although we weren't texting too much throughout the week, whenever we did, his responses were enthusiastic until then. I also have been doing a lot of the initiating. I was the one who suggested the second mini golf date, and who checked back in on Thursday asking to pick a time and place. He mentioned to me on our first date that he hadn't been on a date in two years so I'm not sure if he just isn't that interested, or doesn't realize how he is looking not too interested. Do you think this excuse was legit? Would it be too much if I haven't heard from him in a week or so to text something like "Hey, hope your trip was good! Are ou still interested in meeting up?"
smackie9 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 If he has such a busy schedule then it will always be this difficult to get a date....not worth the effort if you are looking for a serious relationship. You would be lonely even then....keep looking elsewhere. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 I got a little lost on the timeline. If the business trip is next week, wait until Thursday & send him an invite for the following Tuesday or Wednesday (assume Monday will be the first office day back). If you don't get a positive response to that, move on.
Versacehottie Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 He's being very vague. I would tend to think he's not that interested BUT rather than worry about that because it may or may not be about "you" or it may or may not be genuinely being busy, STAY CONFIDENT that you are worthy of dating and HE'S the one who needs to rise to your level, prove something good about himself to you. So that's the vibe you absolutely need to give off at this point. First step of this is, don't do anything: the ball is 1000% in his court. If and when you hear from him next, take it from there. Good luck 2
preraph Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Trying to second-guess is a waste of time. Keep living your life and going out with other people and Friends and if he's interested when he returns he'll contact you.
meeji Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 He's being very vague. I would tend to think he's not that interested BUT rather than worry about that because it may or may not be about "you" or it may or may not be genuinely being busy, STAY CONFIDENT that you are worthy of dating and HE'S the one who needs to rise to your level, prove something good about himself to you. So that's the vibe you absolutely need to give off at this point. First step of this is, don't do anything: the ball is 1000% in his court. If and when you hear from him next, take it from there. Good luck Amen! And... if you can line up other dates whIle he's away, l'd say go for it. You don't have anything wit this guy until you have something with him. I hope you're not waiting around for his contact. 1
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