Wissel79 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Hi everyone, My date has cancelled our first date:confused: It was suppose to be our first date today after some whatsapp messages. He has been sending me video's on whatsapp what he wants to do on our first date. He told me that he is going to go to an one time event today. And I replied with: Have fun! He had set the date since last monday and has been very spontaneous but I feel like he does not like me anymore for some reason. He had set a date and place but not a time....? What shall I do? Shall I ask what this event is about? I only replied with: Have fun there! I am so done with dating right now!
Erik30 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Don't do anything. He's the one who cancelled, so he should be worried if he blew his chance with you. If he likes you, he'll try to reschedule as soon as possible 6
mikeylo Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Probably not interested. If he was, he would rescheduled the same moment he cancelled. 3
Author Wissel79 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 Don't do anything. He's the one who cancelled, so he should be worried if he blew his chance with you. If he likes you, he'll try to reschedule as soon as possible Hi Erik, Thanks. Shouldn't he have done this right away? He left me hanging sort of. I could have planned things with friends etc.
Author Wissel79 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 Probably not interested. If he was, he would rescheduled the same moment he cancelled. That was my first reaction as well. But why would this guy do this? I don't get the vibe that he is a player. He'd send me loads of messages, including video messages which made me a bit shy. He was very sponteneous and seemed like a nice guy. He did do something that made me think.... Yesterday he asked me to wear some nice lingerie and to take pics of them and send these to him? Which made me very wary. But on the other hand maybe he was testing me? I did not wanted to do this because I am a bit old fashioned. None of my very serious relationships ever asked me these sort of things..... I think he was testing me. His argument was to relax more and open up a bit. Weirdo
staggerlee71 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 I wouldn't throw out the he's not interested card yet. I would speculate that midweek, he got invited to a one-time event and decided that was what he would rather do. It your first date so he it would be easy for him cancel. not interested, not yet. your were not the priority. no bigge So should he have rescheduled immediately, probably. I bet he doesn't know when to reschedule it for. This is probably happening last minute. Bet he reschedules sunday night or Monday. Chill and wait til tuesday
staggerlee71 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 BTW, canceling last minute for a one-time event is a douche move. This is a red flag combined with him asking you to send pics of lingerie, before first date watch for actions on this guy!! 2
smackie9 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 You didn't send him pics of you in lingerie....that's why he lost interest in you.....he's a d-bag. The mom talk: Stay away from guys like this, they are only interested in one thing. Dude has no class. 8
Author Wissel79 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 You didn't send him pics of you in lingerie....that's why he lost interest in you.....he's a d-bag. The mom talk: Stay away from guys like this, they are only interested in one thing. Dude has no class. Thank you a lot. I asked him after this question what his intentions were and he said that he just wanted me to relax. But really did not say what he wanted.
mortensorchid Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Just forget him. He was yanking your chain. I hate how some guys do that, they get you excited about meeting them and then drop you like a stone. 1
Erik30 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Hi Erik, Thanks. Shouldn't he have done this right away? He left me hanging sort of. I could have planned things with friends etc. Yeah He should, and that's what I would have done in that situation. I would feel guilty and do my best to make it up to a girl. He basically wasted your day and doesn't seem to bothered about everything. A last minute cancellation does sound like him flaking anyway, unless he somehow didn't know about this event until today. (Which I doubt) The story about him wanting pictures is new to me... Move on and forget about this guy. 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Thank you a lot. I asked him after this question what his intentions were and he said that he just wanted me to relax. But really did not say what he wanted. That's code for 'just STFU as I don't really care what you are thinking right now!' 4
smackie9 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Thank you a lot. I asked him after this question what his intentions were and he said that he just wanted me to relax. But really did not say what he wanted. Hah like he's gonna tell you he just wanted something to masturbate to and share the pics with his buddies. 2
Author Wissel79 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 Hah like he's gonna tell you he just wanted something to masturbate to and share the pics with his buddies. Prolly, very immature:sick:
Author Wissel79 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 Yeah He should, and that's what I would have done in that situation. I would feel guilty and do my best to make it up to a girl. He basically wasted your day and doesn't seem to bothered about everything. A last minute cancellation does sound like him flaking anyway, unless he somehow didn't know about this event until today. (Which I doubt) The story about him wanting pictures is new to me... Move on and forget about this guy. Yes he did ask me about the pictures. He left me hanging and wasting my day. I am guessing who would cancel something last minute for a one time event? It sounds like bull**** to me. 2
stillafool Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Unless you are just looking for a casual hook up (sex with no commitment) be thankful he canceled the date. Any guy who requests pictures of you in lingerie before even taking you on a date is bad news. It shows he already has no respect for you and is not looking at you as girlfriend material. You should have put him in his place when he requested those pictures instead of wondering why he cancelled your first date. 7
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Unless you are just looking for a casual hook up (sex with no commitment) be thankful he canceled the date. Any guy who requests pictures of you in lingerie before even taking you on a date is bad news. It shows he already has no respect for you and is not looking at you as girlfriend material. You should have put him in his place when he requested those pictures instead of wondering why he cancelled your first date. I agree. Your MOST IMPORTANT CONSIDERATION AND CONCERN should have been his request for pictures, not why he lost interest. The pictures request should have been the 'open and shut' reason enough to take him off as a viable option. 2
kendahke Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 (edited) That was my first reaction as well. But why would this guy do this? I don't get the vibe that he is a player. He'd send me loads of messages, including video messages which made me a bit shy. He was very sponteneous and seemed like a nice guy. He did do something that made me think.... Yesterday he asked me to wear some nice lingerie and to take pics of them and send these to him? Which made me very wary. But on the other hand maybe he was testing me? I did not wanted to do this because I am a bit old fashioned. None of my very serious relationships ever asked me these sort of things..... I think he was testing me. His argument was to relax more and open up a bit. Weirdo I was thinking the whole time "scammer", seeing that you have not laid eyes on him and he cancels the date with you at the last minute--that's classic catfishing behavior. However, the part that really has my spider senses up is that he's asked you to pose in lingerie for him and take pictures--those can be used to extort money from you by scammers. They share those pictures and someone you've never heard about contacts you and begins threatening to send them to your job, post them to your friends' list on Facebook, etc., unless you send them money--which is why my friends list is set to only me being able to see it and no one else. Your best bet is to block him. It could turn into something more than what you are prepared to deal with. Word to the wise: don't take pictures that you'd have a problem with your parents, employer or children seeing. Edited July 22, 2017 by kendahke 1
Miss Spider Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 (edited) Next him!!!and omgosh thank goodness you didn't send him lingerie pics, what a creep. Those revenge porn sites don't populate themselves, ya know Edited July 22, 2017 by Cookiesandough 3
Author Wissel79 Posted July 23, 2017 Author Posted July 23, 2017 I decided to send him a text later. In the message I told him that I did not feel amused by him cancelling the date and that it sounded like bull**** to me. I said that he was lucky that I had an order coming to my home which I had forgotten. A table. I also told him that I think that he cancelled because I did not wanted to show him my lingerie on a photo. And that if it was so he should have told me instead of being a coward. And that I was not interested in that sort of thing..... I ended it by saying that I was going to the theatre in town at night. After this is did not hear from him for ages until night 22:30 pm. His message said: Hi, how is (x) place??? That is the only thing he asked. I decided not to reply and enjoy my evening. I was so angry at him! I am deciding to not text him for a while. But when I do I am not sure what to say yet......
coolheadal Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Hi everyone, My date has cancelled our first date:confused: It was suppose to be our first date today after some whatsapp messages. He has been sending me video's on whatsapp what he wants to do on our first date. He told me that he is going to go to an one time event today. And I replied with: Have fun! He had set the date since last monday and has been very spontaneous but I feel like he does not like me anymore for some reason. He had set a date and place but not a time....? What shall I do? Shall I ask what this event is about? I only replied with: Have fun there! I am so done with dating right now! Why you so worked up over someone (still a stranger) in your life. Video Chatting on Whatapp that's all it was. He arranged date and cancelled it for another girl. That's more likely he did here. So you block and delete him on Whatapps. You do not need this sort of BS in your life (I am being blunt with you but you really needed to see the whole picture here). You take charge and there is no second chances for players. You were played and you know it. Just do the right thing now is to move on to the next guy. Do not let one bad apple or two slow your interest in dating my dear. There are plenty of jerks like this guy but you have to work on meeting and dating. It's not as easy as you are lead to believe. When the right guy comes out to you then you'll smile, laugh, hold, hug, kiss and be happy once again. It's coming for you just have to let it happen. But not with this jerk, no one cancels a date like this. No excuse the only excuse would be a death in a family, or his car/truck had broken down but if he was really smart he would have got a rental car for the date. I say to hell with him and go find another guy to like you and love as you want it to be! 2
Superchicken Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 ..The mom talk: Stay away from guys like this, they are only interested in one thing. Dude has no class. That's NOT true. Its two things.. But, seriously, Smakie is Smack on. If he really liked you, sexy pictures should NOT be asked, unless you asked for them to be sent. Yeah, he's dirt. Don't respond to anymore requests for pictures.. Oh, wait, yeah, send him one.. Go on the internet, and look for a Donkeys rear end. Then send that to him. Ted. 1
stillafool Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 I decided to send him a text later. In the message I told him that I did not feel amused by him cancelling the date and that it sounded like bull**** to me. I said that he was lucky that I had an order coming to my home which I had forgotten. A table. I also told him that I think that he cancelled because I did not wanted to show him my lingerie on a photo. And that if it was so he should have told me instead of being a coward. And that I was not interested in that sort of thing..... I ended it by saying that I was going to the theatre in town at night. After this is did not hear from him for ages until night 22:30 pm. His message said: Hi, how is (x) place??? That is the only thing he asked. I decided not to reply and enjoy my evening. I was so angry at him! I am deciding to not text him for a while. But when I do I am not sure what to say yet...... So you have made up your mind to still chase after a guy who has shown you he is not interested in you and has proven his disrespect for you. Do you have any other dating prospects? 2
kendahke Posted July 24, 2017 Posted July 24, 2017 (edited) I decided to send him a text later. In the message I told him that I did not feel amused by him cancelling the date and that it sounded like bull**** to me. I said that he was lucky that I had an order coming to my home which I had forgotten. A table. I also told him that I think that he cancelled because I did not wanted to show him my lingerie on a photo. And that if it was so he should have told me instead of being a coward. And that I was not interested in that sort of thing..... I ended it by saying that I was going to the theatre in town at night. After this is did not hear from him for ages until night 22:30 pm. His message said: Hi, how is (x) place??? That is the only thing he asked. I decided not to reply and enjoy my evening. I was so angry at him! I am deciding to not text him for a while. But when I do I am not sure what to say yet...... So, you are keeping with the game playing instead of putting him on block? Edited July 24, 2017 by kendahke 1
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