Author amazonrambo Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 And again....over thinking. Best of luck Monday night! Bring flowers. I've always wondered how to do this. I've sent flowers to girls in the past to their place but I travel by public transport, so would I find flowers near to a meeting place where we've arranged and get them before I meet her? Only problem is I'll be meeting her much later on. I'll consider this idea but not Monday.
Author amazonrambo Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 You unnecessarily introduced uncertainty and drama into this relationship where none need have existed. You are playing a game and toying with this girl's emotions. It may work out fine, but maybe in the cold light of day she will realise you kept her "dangling" for longer than was necessary over this and she may not like you for it, OR she will assume the answer will be no or maybe, and has already made provisions to replace you... The girl is graduating the last thing she needs is to worry over this for days beforehand, for God's sake put her out of her misery and tell her "Yes" if that is your answer, ASAP. I mean it's obvious by her following reaction that she's not expecting me to say no. I made it jokey and added a wink, I'm hoping she sees me as old fashioned and that I'm wanting to ask her in person. Texting something like this just feels impersonal. 3
Author amazonrambo Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 She has her graduation to worry about, she does not need her day spoilt with the added worry about this guy and what he is going to say to her. Graduation day is a special day, he needs to realise that her happiness is paramount on that day, and keeping her in suspense over this, is not really very thoughtful or kind. Why would she worry about it getting spoilt? I'm hardly going to go out of my way to meet her in her town just to let her down and say no. Nor would I act so energetic and positive with my texts either. If I was acting cold and aloof then sure, she might have every reason to feel like it's a downer on her graduation day.
TheFinalWord Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Do you think I went about this the right way? I remember with an ex in the past, she had suggested a similar thing and I asked her, then she said she'd prefer if I had done it in person, etc. So obviously I didn't want to make a similar mistake! Yes, you are fine. Your text chat is a bit cringy (j/k:love:), but I agree, better in person and bring flowers (or something romantic). Congratulations! It sounds like you have found a great person to spend time with!
Author amazonrambo Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 Yes, you are fine. Your text chat is a bit cringy (j/k:love:), but I agree, better in person and bring flowers (or something romantic). Congratulations! It sounds like you have found a great person to spend time with! Anything else apart from flowers that's romantic I could bring? I just don't want to be travelling around with a bouquet of flowers whilst waiting for her to arrive. It's usually something I've sent to their address as a surprise (as I don't drive right now).
phineas Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Anything else apart from flowers that's romantic I could bring? I just don't want to be travelling around with a bouquet of flowers whilst waiting for her to arrive. It's usually something I've sent to their address as a surprise (as I don't drive right now). potted condom tree? but not the basic plastic pot. A real nice glazed one. classes it up a little.
TheFinalWord Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Anything else apart from flowers that's romantic I could bring? I just don't want to be travelling around with a bouquet of flowers whilst waiting for her to arrive. It's usually something I've sent to their address as a surprise (as I don't drive right now). Maybe a card? That way you could basically ask her in written form, but in a bit of a classier way than texting...
Author amazonrambo Posted July 23, 2017 Author Posted July 23, 2017 Maybe a card? That way you could basically ask her in written form, but in a bit of a classier way than texting... I love that, going to roll with this idea, thank you! 1
InvisiBlonde Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Why were you not specifically invited to this graduation, whether it's a huge cap and gown ceremony or a tiny classroom event? You didn't even know. Always start as you mean to continue! 1
joseb Posted July 24, 2017 Posted July 24, 2017 No. People are always talking about wanting men to be "alpha". To lead and to make decisions. This young man has made a decision based on principle. Right or wrong, as a man, he should stick by his principles and do what he feels is right. For once, let this guy be a man without demanding that he bow and submit immediately. His intent is good. She can wait. She's willing to wait. There's no harm done here. Plus, a little anticipation makes a relationship more interesting. Adds a little spice. And can make this a memorable moment for both of them. I agree with you on the whole being a man and leading. I just do see this one like that based on the text exchanges. It sounds more like drama creating behaviour from him, which isn't very masculine. She asked him a pretty simple question that could have gotten a simple answer, it's not like she asked him to have kids, or get married. Now, based in the subsequent texts I'd say he got away with it, so I'd leave it as is. 3
joseb Posted July 24, 2017 Posted July 24, 2017 What he did is the same as your doctor calling you to let you know your tests results are in and you need to see him the following week to discuss it. You are left wondering if you should worry or not. Not cool. . Agree it's not cool. I dunno how it's handled in North America. But over hear thats exactly what doctors do. It totally sucks. 1
Miss Spider Posted July 24, 2017 Posted July 24, 2017 It was cringey, Op. But luckily she really likes you already.
alphamale Posted July 24, 2017 Posted July 24, 2017 Do you think I went about this the right way? it depends, have you banged her yet?
SammySammy Posted July 24, 2017 Posted July 24, 2017 I agree with you on the whole being a man and leading. I just do see this one like that based on the text exchanges. It sounds more like drama creating behaviour from him, which isn't very masculine. She asked him a pretty simple question that could have gotten a simple answer, it's not like she asked him to have kids, or get married. Now, based in the subsequent texts I'd say he got away with it, so I'd leave it as is. Yeah. Be predictable. Compliant. That's "masculine". Not. I'm just happy the young man had the guts to make a decision and stick to it. That's rare around these parts. Makes my heart happy. There are so many forces trying to emasculate men that we don't know what manhood looks like.
smackie9 Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 Well it's Tuesday morning......so how did it go op? 1
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