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d0nnivain Established Member

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If she meets someone so be it, but I would marry her in a heartbeat. I believe she is my soulmate so for right now I need to let her live her life, fulfill her dreams and leave the rest in the hands of fate!

 

 

I think this sentiment is where you are losing most of us realists. You think this child is your soulmate but you haven't even been on a date with her.

 

 

I'm glad you are taking this out of work & realizing that you can talk to her at other times because you have her phone #. Just be careful & don't get too mushy or pushy at this stage. You may inadvertently overwhelm her & if she's too freaked out she could go to HR & then your job, where you are so popular, will be in jeopardy.

 

 

For your sake I hope you both get the happily ever after that you seek but it's unlikely.

 

 

Here's the thing: when a grown adult (you) is on the same emotional & intellectual page as a significantly younger person who hasn't fully grown up yet (her), she goes off & outgrows the adult. That happened to me with my crush. He was also my motivation to seek my professional degree & he served as a mentor in the early years. When we tried to reconnect in a business setting 15+ years after he "set me free" he wanted the wide eyed sycophant child who hero-worshiped him. Once I had the same professional degrees as him plus a great deal of work experience, I discovered I was smarter & more mature then him so I didn't want to play second fiddle to anyone, least of all him. I had lost respect for him & that threw a huge monkey wrench into our personal & professional dynamic.

 

 

Best wishes. Don't lose your optimism & become cynical just because many of us are, but do understand that your rose colored glasses sometimes prevent you from seeing clearly.

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Imajerk17 Established Member

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What is so off-putting about this is that OP is so lost in his own feelings that he doesn't even "see" the girl in question. A grown male writing 10-page love notes (even if not sent) to a teenager whom hasn't even gone on a date with, isn't cute, it's alarming. That's how a lot of stalkers roll by the way.

 

Sorry OP but you need to get some grounding here.

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JuneL Established Member

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This thread is rather bizarre and in fact, downright creepy.

 

What is so off-putting about this is that OP is so lost in his own feelings that he doesn't even "see" the girl in question. A grown male writing 10-page love notes (even if not sent) to a teenager whom hasn't even gone on a date with, isn't cute, it's alarming. That's how a lot of stalkers roll by the way.

 

Sorry OP but you need to get some grounding here.

 

I think if the girl knew how you feel, it would probably creep the hell out of her.

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JuneJulySeptember Established Member

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You should watch Ghost World with Steve Buschemi...

Imajerk17 Established Member

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I don't think you read my follow up correctly because my epiphany is to just be myself not splurge my feelings anymore.. I am being subtle, being an absolute gentleman and every single time I smile and wave to her she does the same exact thing, sometimes she's the first one to do it. I'm friendly with absolutely everyone (hard to believe, I know) so she's probably just being sweet to the guy who is popular for who the fk knows whatever reason??? But I can see she is the kindest, sweetest most generous person I've ever met and that is a fact. An amazing person I would do anything for! She is my miracle!

 

Make of it what ever you will, but the more hate you spew, the more it will just make me realize I met an amazing person in a scummy, jealous, hateful world and she is an angel never effected by the evils of mankind. I'm there to protect her and our amazing friendship, so I appreciate the hate way more than the love!

 

Anyway, that was an edit since I love to re read my posts for some reason...

 

And you won't freak me out, you have NO IDEA! ��

 

But OP, you hardly even know her. :confused: How do I know this? Well, I guarantee you that this young woman--like every other person on the planet--isn't all sweetness and light as you seem to believe that she is.

 

Someone your age really ought to have more perspective than you are showing here. I mean, when I was 25 I realize how immature I was at 18 (this young woman's current age), and when I was in my 30s I further realized how immature I was in my 20s (nevermind 18). Your escaping the cold realities of the world by idealizing on this young woman is neither normal nor healthy.

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Blanco Established Member

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Can you give an approximate location where you are so that we may keep an eye on the local news outlets for any stories about an 18-year-old girl found in a trunk?

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GemmaUK Established Member

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We have been casual friends for a couple of months now and I have developed such strong feelings for her. She is really sweet with me and she seems like she is a little bit shy, but I'm wondering if she's just being nice to me because we have to interact during work.

 

This is the part you have right.

She is only just transitioning into being a very young adult and learning the ways of adult working relationships (I'm not talking about romantic relationships here).

 

The reason why this is frightening Is that you really don't care about 'her' this is all about you.

 

A sensible adult man would realise this is a crush and obsession, he'd back off and delete that number.

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mikeylo Established Member

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Since you were not sure if it's romantic love or not , that's why I asked the specific questions!

 

Anyways, you definitely are romantically invested. You've got to remember though that she is also on the same page as you. Yeah, just take it out of the work place and interact outside. People begin to gossip unnecessarily and her being young , she may not be able to handle them.

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Can you give an approximate location where you are so that we may keep an eye on the local news outlets for any stories about an 18-year-old girl found in a trunk?

 

 

Damn, I was just going to say from the title.......

 

(well, really Nothing at all. Wasn't going to respond.)

 

Back the **** off.

 

 

Who the *** cares that you care so much about this.

 

Certainly not the girl.

 

 

 

.......other than you care too much about her and she needs to get restraining orders.

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Can you give an approximate location where you are so that we may keep an eye on the local news outlets for any stories about an 18-year-old girl found in a trunk?

 

Reminds me of a gag I've heard: There's no reason a girl should be too busy to respond to your texts, even Eminem got back to Stan after the third try.

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You guys are all right and it really shatters my heart because every single time I meet someone, it's all wrong and apparently so is this! She's an amazing person who I should have known was too good for me.. I literally need to just leave her alone and realize I'll never meet anyone for me because all the good ones are taken or too young. Thanks for the reality check, I'll grab the vacuum and clean up the million pieces of my heart laying on the floor.. I'm an idiot and I get it now!

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You guys are all wrong, I would never hurt her in my life. I have a couple weeks left with her and I'm going to cherish every moment. Then I'll wave goodbye as she goes to school and tell her how great it was to meet her. And I know she will smile and do the same.

 

Noone can ever understand what a gift she is in my life. She will always remember me as that sweet guy who did everything for her. She will be a success because her future is her only focus, she won't be distracted from it no matter what. But I can't delete her number from my brain, it's impossible.

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Some other stuff happened which will really entertain you all but i really don't know if I should share..

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mikeylo Established Member

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Some other stuff happened which will really entertain you all but i really don't know if I should share.. ��

 

What was it ?

smackie9 Established Member

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She will always remember me as that sweet guy who did everything for her.

 

Sorry but this doesn't score many points with girls. What scores points is a man with confidence and self worth that doesn't put women/girls up on a pedestal. This is why you are still alone, because you keep doing that.

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5x5 Established Member

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She will always remember me as that sweet guy who did everything for her.

 

You can't know that she will remember you as she gets older, I have forgotten former work colleagues which is all you are to this woman.

 

Just as I have also forgotten some former friends and have also forgotten the names of some of the women I have been with sexually.

 

Considering your age I am surprised at your naivety.

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