Joga_31 Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 So I am now invited to attend my girlfriend, friends' birthday. Next week. She is bringing her boyfriend, and I am now uncomfortable with this because he cheats on his girlfriend. She knows that the cheating happens, how am I supposed to interact in this event? I have heard the guy is ruthless and has attempted to hid on his girlfriend's friends. I am sure he is willing to hid on my girlfriend as well. The event is a dinner then drinks at a fancy hotel. Does anyone have any suggestions? I can be a hot head as well, and wondering if I should just play cool at this event and not drink that much.
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 If this woman knows her BF cheats on her & hits on her friends, there is nothing you can do. She has made her choice & it's really none of your concern. Don't drink too much to control your hot headed ways. Avoid him if possible, even if he's the birthday girl's date. Do tell your GF what you told us & duck out early if you can. 5
GemmaUK Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 The other relationship is none of your business. If he hits on your girlfriend then you clearly don't trust that she has the intelligence to deflect him. Why is that? Is he hotter than you? Are you insecure around him? 1
kendahke Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 So I am now invited to attend my girlfriend, friends' birthday. Next week. She is bringing her boyfriend, and I am now uncomfortable with this because he cheats on his girlfriend. She knows that the cheating happens, how am I supposed to interact in this event? I have heard the guy is ruthless and has attempted to hid on his girlfriend's friends. I am sure he is willing to hid on my girlfriend as well. The event is a dinner then drinks at a fancy hotel. Does anyone have any suggestions? I can be a hot head as well, and wondering if I should just play cool at this event and not drink that much. You should not drink that much as a matter of policy already. Liver issues... Is the alternative not to go and let your girlfriend go without you? I seriously doubt she's going to skip going to her girl's party just because you have an issue with how this girl is letting him treat her. Truth be told, his cheating doesn't involve you, so if his girlfriend knows and condones it by virtue of her staying with the guy, can twist herself up to turn a blind eye and she's way more involved than you are, you can keep your thoughts to yourself for a couple of hours. Just stay out of his way.
BaileyB Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 I thought for a minute that your girlfriend was bringing HER boyfriend to the party... Which would have been another issue, entirely . The bottom line is, their relationship is none of your business. Go to the party and try to enjoy the evening with your girlfriend. Don't talk to the guy. That's all you can do. 2
basil67 Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 If you go to the event, you must be civil. If you can't be civil, then excuse yourself from attending. 3
Author Joga_31 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 You should not drink that much as a matter of policy already. Liver issues... Is the alternative not to go and let your girlfriend go without you? I seriously doubt she's going to skip going to her girl's party just because you have an issue with how this girl is letting him treat her. Truth be told, his cheating doesn't involve you, so if his girlfriend knows and condones it by virtue of her staying with the guy, can twist herself up to turn a blind eye and she's way more involved than you are, you can keep your thoughts to yourself for a couple of hours. Just stay out of his way. I guess ill keep cool, but yeah usually drama unfolds at these parties i have been to.
Author Joga_31 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 The other relationship is none of your business. If he hits on your girlfriend then you clearly don't trust that she has the intelligence to deflect him. Why is that? Is he hotter than you? Are you insecure around him? She knew he cheated on her before but didnt tell her friend this. Apparently to not cause more drama. I guess ill keep drinks to a minimum.
Bastile Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 What exactly is he going to do? It's his girlfriends birthday. Her family will be there. He's going to be on good behaviour. You will be in attendance. You think that he's going to really pursue your girlfriend or something under those conditions? He'd be an idiot. As for his cheating, I don't see why you'd involve yourself in that. Shouldn't be any of your concern. She knowingly chooses to go out with a cheat, and it's stupid to try and protect some random woman's honour - especially when she doesn't seem much interested in protecting it herself.
Author Joga_31 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 What exactly is he going to do? It's his girlfriends birthday. Her family will be there. He's going to be on good behaviour. You will be in attendance. You think that he's going to really pursue your girlfriend or something under those conditions? He'd be an idiot. As for his cheating, I don't see why you'd involve yourself in that. Shouldn't be any of your concern. She knowingly chooses to go out with a cheat, and it's stupid to try and protect some random woman's honour - especially when she doesn't seem much interested in protecting it herself. On new years he hid on other chicks at the party i heard and his gf cried her eyes out. But yeah ill play cool. 1
Author Joga_31 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 What exactly is he going to do? It's his girlfriends birthday. Her family will be there. He's going to be on good behaviour. You will be in attendance. You think that he's going to really pursue your girlfriend or something under those conditions? He'd be an idiot. As for his cheating, I don't see why you'd involve yourself in that. Shouldn't be any of your concern. She knowingly chooses to go out with a cheat, and it's stupid to try and protect some random woman's honour - especially when she doesn't seem much interested in protecting it herself. This is not a family party its a all friends and drinking event it seems
Bastile Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 (edited) On new years he hid on other chicks at the party i heard and his gf cried her eyes out. But yeah ill play cool. The couple sound like trouble in general. And I would be having a word about hanging around them to your girlfriend. I can understand your general concerns. It's not that you don't trust her, or you think he's going to whisk her away, it's that you don't want your girlfriend to be disrespected. I've known some proper sleaze guys before though (sure we all have). They will look for other people's girlfriends to be drunk, or in some way vulnerable. They aren't to be trusted in the least. I've seen it. Those guys go after easier targets. So, if she isn't one, she'll be fine. This isn't really a party that you want to go to anyway, is it? It's something that you are doing for your girl. They sound more like her friends, not yours. Therefore, don't drink. Probably expect a little bit of drama too, by the sounds of it Just try to have fun with your girlfriend, and block out whatever BS is going on. Don't let them drag you into it, and don't lose your temper with anyone. Edited July 22, 2017 by Bastile 1
mikeylo Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 What they do shouldn't be your concern. If you don't like , come up with an excuse and don't go ! If you have to go, show your presence and leave. 2
Author Joga_31 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 The couple sound like trouble in general. And I would be having a word about hanging around them to your girlfriend. I can understand your general concerns. It's not that you don't trust her, or you think he's going to whisk her away, it's that you don't want your girlfriend to be disrespected. I've known some proper sleaze guys before though (sure we all have). They will look for other people's girlfriends to be drunk, or in some way vulnerable. They aren't to be trusted in the least. I've seen it. Those guys go after easier targets. So, if she isn't one, she'll be fine. This isn't really a party that you want to go to anyway, is it? It's something that you are doing for your girl. They sound more like her friends, not yours. Therefore, don't drink. Probably expect a little bit of drama too, by the sounds of it Just try to have fun with your girlfriend, and block out whatever BS is going on. Don't let them drag you into it, and don't lose your temper with anyone. You hit the nail on the head with this situation. Well put my gf doesnt listen to squat i say. I let her always do what she wants then let her see the consequences. And yes that term is the best to describe him. He is sleazy and dirty from what I heard. I was in some way looking forward to the event. My gf will look hot and I wanted to sort of drink my butt off and not be uptight. But maybe not best to do that here. And yes they are all her friends not mine at all. Im there for my girlfriend.
Brooklyn. Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Like others have said stay calm and keep out of it. Only get involved if he tries it on with your girlfriend yes she can stand up for herself but that other guy sounds like he needs putting in his place so if he tried anything tell him where to get off... Apart from that enjoy it and keep out of his way, it's hard but their relationship is as I just said their relationship but obviously if he does upset her then you and your girlfriend should be there for her I mean it's her birthday after all
phineas Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 He hits on her once it's on her to send him packing. He hits on her again after that it's time for you to send her packing.
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