Kentucky Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 So, I went on a date the other night. I'd say it went well. She texted 10 minutes after the date thanking me for dinner and used a bunch of smiley face emoticons when I said I should take her out again early next week. We texted about an hour that night with some flirting. Yesterday, we texted for roughly an hour in the morning and I haven't heard from her since about 11 yesterday. I sent the last message, the convo died a natural death. No big deal. Considering we have had multiple conversations a day leading up to the date, I was a little worried that she hasn't started another conversation. I usually follow the rule of never sending a double text. It has been 24 hours. Would it be safe for me to text her later today or should I wait till tomorrow or Sunday?
Author Kentucky Posted July 21, 2017 Author Posted July 21, 2017 How old are you, and when is your next date? I'm 29 (go ahead and make fun of me haha) and embarrassingly I gave up dating for about five years after college because I decided I wasn't ready. Since deciding I was ready to date again, I've been on five dates since the end of November. My biggest fear is coming off strong and desperate. I'm Irish, so naturally, I'm a worrier. Date hasn't been scheduled yet. Was hoping to do it early next week sometime. I am out of town this weekend with college friends.
Miss Spider Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 People usually set up the next date within a day of the last when they're interested, usually on the date or the same night. If a guy didn't set up a date with me for a week I assume he's not interested 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 Perhaps you should throw your rules out the window. Listen, this is simple, if you like her then why bother with all the games. Keep some perspective knowing that this is still very early days in this courtship but if this is about whether or not to text after being silent for 24 hours, go ahead and ask how her day/night was and see where the ball lands. Many women like being chased, especially in text. If you send a quick text asking how her day was and her response takes too long or feels unlike the banter you had previously then perhaps her attention has drifted elsewhere in which case time to move on. You won't know until you try. 3
Redhead14 Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 So, I went on a date the other night. I'd say it went well. She texted 10 minutes after the date thanking me for dinner and used a bunch of smiley face emoticons when I said I should take her out again early next week. We texted about an hour that night with some flirting. Yesterday, we texted for roughly an hour in the morning and I haven't heard from her since about 11 yesterday. I sent the last message, the convo died a natural death. No big deal. Considering we have had multiple conversations a day leading up to the date, I was a little worried that she hasn't started another conversation. I usually follow the rule of never sending a double text. It has been 24 hours. Would it be safe for me to text her later today or should I wait till tomorrow or Sunday? Call her on the doggoned phone. Forget about texting as a means for developing a relationship. Call her and set up another date! 2
Author Kentucky Posted July 21, 2017 Author Posted July 21, 2017 Perhaps you should throw your rules out the window. Listen, this is simple, if you like her then why bother with all the games. Keep some perspective knowing that this is still very early days in this courtship but if this is about whether or not to text after being silent for 24 hours, go ahead and ask how her day/night was and see where the ball lands. Many women like being chased, especially in text. If you send a quick text asking how her day was and her response takes too long or feels unlike the banter you had previously then perhaps her attention has drifted elsewhere in which case time to move on. You won't know until you try. I will take this advice and run with it. And perhaps she has felt like she has done a lot of the chasing. I do like her - a lot. I will give it a shot later this afternoon. 4
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 People usually set up the next date within a day of the last when they're interested, usually on the date or the same night. If a guy didn't set up a date with me for a week I assume he's not interested If I'm interested, I try to set up a date before I leave the current date. Simple. 2
7675 Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 I'm 29 (go ahead and make fun of me haha) and embarrassingly I gave up dating for about five years after college because I decided I wasn't ready. Since deciding I was ready to date again, I've been on five dates since the end of November. My biggest fear is coming off strong and desperate. I'm Irish, so naturally, I'm a worrier. Date hasn't been scheduled yet. Was hoping to do it early next week sometime. I am out of town this weekend with college friends. No judgements here. Contact her and set up another date. Don't start unnecessary chats unless she's also a chatter herself. But at the same time, don't utterly remain quite. 1
Author Kentucky Posted July 21, 2017 Author Posted July 21, 2017 Call her on the doggoned phone. Forget about texting as a means for developing a relationship. Call her and set up another date! I'm hearing impaired and she knows this. We have talked extensively about it. I hate talking on the phone even though we did do a 15 minute phone date before meeting. I think she wanted to make sure that I was telling the truth and that I hear fine with hearing aids despite having 80 percent hearing loss. My preference will always be in person or text. 1
Author Kentucky Posted July 21, 2017 Author Posted July 21, 2017 No judgements here. Contact her and set up another date. Don't start unnecessary chats unless she's also a chatter herself. But at the same time, don't utterly remain quite. Will do. She's quite the chatter. I'd guess we have sent over 300 messages to each other via text in the last week.
Redhead14 Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 I'm hearing impaired and she knows this. We have talked extensively about it. I hate talking on the phone even though we did do a 15 minute phone date before meeting. I think she wanted to make sure that I was telling the truth and that I hear fine with hearing aids despite having 80 percent hearing loss. My preference will always be in person or text. Well, that's the best reason I've ever heard of for texting So, if you really like her, go ahead and send her another text and make it of substance -- "I'd like to take you out again on Xday, at Xtime, at Xplace." 5
Author Kentucky Posted July 21, 2017 Author Posted July 21, 2017 Update: I texted her. We planned a second date. It's putt-putt so we did a lot of trash talking haha and texted each other for 45 minutes or so. 7
meeji Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Well, that's the best reason I've ever heard of for texting So, if you really like her, go ahead and send her another text and make it of substance -- "I'd like to take you out again on Xday, at Xtime, at Xplace." I've been on the other end of this. If a guy says "maybe we can get together next week someone. " I'm looking like:confused:... ok, when? I'm not sure why guys have such a hard time sealing the seal. Perhaps they think they're expressing interest by throwing out the suggestion but it really sounds like politeness, and easy letdown or BS when they don't follow through with legit plans. Unless he prefaces it with something like "i'll be out of town, my job is having zxy, working OT or some thing that's up in the air," I expect him to say I wI'll touch base wit you on X day to follow up/update. Then that's acceptable. Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. OP, congrats on the date
Imajerk17 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Update: I texted her. We planned a second date. It's putt-putt so we did a lot of trash talking haha and texted each other for 45 minutes or so. That's a good second date. I mean, either way you are going to get to put the ball in the hole I am glad you texted her!
phineas Posted July 23, 2017 Posted July 23, 2017 If I'm interested, I try to set up a date before I leave the current date. Simple. Yup. I don't worry about looking "needy" or "desperate". If she likes me she will say yes and she will thank me for the date after.
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